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Guru Granth Sahib
Composition, Arrangement & Layout
ਜਪੁ | Jup
ਸੋ ਦਰੁ | So Dar
ਸੋਹਿਲਾ | Sohilaa
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਿਰੀਰਾਗੁ | Raag Siree-Raag
Gurbani (14-53)
Ashtpadiyan (53-71)
Gurbani (71-74)
Pahre (74-78)
Chhant (78-81)
Vanjara (81-82)
Vaar Siri Raag (83-91)
Bhagat Bani (91-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਝ | Raag Maajh
Gurbani (94-109)
Ashtpadi (109)
Ashtpadiyan (110-129)
Ashtpadi (129-130)
Ashtpadiyan (130-133)
Bara Maha (133-136)
Din Raen (136-137)
Vaar Maajh Ki (137-150)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗਉੜੀ | Raag Gauree
Gurbani (151-185)
Quartets/Couplets (185-220)
Ashtpadiyan (220-234)
Karhalei (234-235)
Ashtpadiyan (235-242)
Chhant (242-249)
Baavan Akhari (250-262)
Sukhmani (262-296)
Thittee (296-300)
Gauree kii Vaar (300-323)
Gurbani (323-330)
Ashtpadiyan (330-340)
Baavan Akhari (340-343)
Thintteen (343-344)
Vaar Kabir (344-345)
Bhagat Bani (345-346)
ਰਾਗੁ ਆਸਾ | Raag Aasaa
Gurbani (347-348)
Chaupaday (348-364)
Panchpadde (364-365)
Kaafee (365-409)
Aasaavaree (409-411)
Ashtpadiyan (411-432)
Patee (432-435)
Chhant (435-462)
Vaar Aasaa (462-475)
Bhagat Bani (475-488)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੂਜਰੀ | Raag Goojaree
Gurbani (489-503)
Ashtpadiyan (503-508)
Vaar Gujari (508-517)
Vaar Gujari (517-526)
ਰਾਗੁ ਦੇਵਗੰਧਾਰੀ | Raag Dayv-Gandhaaree
Gurbani (527-536)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਹਾਗੜਾ | Raag Bihaagraa
Gurbani (537-556)
Chhant (538-548)
Vaar Bihaagraa (548-556)
ਰਾਗੁ ਵਡਹੰਸ | Raag Wadhans
Gurbani (557-564)
Ashtpadiyan (564-565)
Chhant (565-575)
Ghoriaan (575-578)
Alaahaniiaa (578-582)
Vaar Wadhans (582-594)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੋਰਠਿ | Raag Sorath
Gurbani (595-634)
Asatpadhiya (634-642)
Vaar Sorath (642-659)
ਰਾਗੁ ਧਨਾਸਰੀ | Raag Dhanasaree
Gurbani (660-685)
Astpadhiya (685-687)
Chhant (687-691)
Bhagat Bani (691-695)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਤਸਰੀ | Raag Jaitsree
Gurbani (696-703)
Chhant (703-705)
Vaar Jaitsaree (705-710)
Bhagat Bani (710)
ਰਾਗੁ ਟੋਡੀ | Raag Todee
ਰਾਗੁ ਬੈਰਾੜੀ | Raag Bairaaree
ਰਾਗੁ ਤਿਲੰਗ | Raag Tilang
Gurbani (721-727)
Bhagat Bani (727)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੂਹੀ | Raag Suhi
Gurbani (728-750)
Ashtpadiyan (750-761)
Kaafee (761-762)
Suchajee (762)
Gunvantee (763)
Chhant (763-785)
Vaar Soohee (785-792)
Bhagat Bani (792-794)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਲਾਵਲੁ | Raag Bilaaval
Gurbani (795-831)
Ashtpadiyan (831-838)
Thitteen (838-840)
Vaar Sat (841-843)
Chhant (843-848)
Vaar Bilaaval (849-855)
Bhagat Bani (855-858)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੋਂਡ | Raag Gond
Gurbani (859-869)
Ashtpadiyan (869)
Bhagat Bani (870-875)
ਰਾਗੁ ਰਾਮਕਲੀ | Raag Ramkalee
Ashtpadiyan (902-916)
Gurbani (876-902)
Anand (917-922)
Sadd (923-924)
Chhant (924-929)
Dakhnee (929-938)
Sidh Gosat (938-946)
Vaar Ramkalee (947-968)
ਰਾਗੁ ਨਟ ਨਾਰਾਇਨ | Raag Nat Narayan
Gurbani (975-980)
Ashtpadiyan (980-983)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਲੀ ਗਉੜਾ | Raag Maalee Gauraa
Gurbani (984-988)
Bhagat Bani (988)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਰੂ | Raag Maaroo
Gurbani (889-1008)
Ashtpadiyan (1008-1014)
Kaafee (1014-1016)
Ashtpadiyan (1016-1019)
Anjulian (1019-1020)
Solhe (1020-1033)
Dakhni (1033-1043)
ਰਾਗੁ ਤੁਖਾਰੀ | Raag Tukhaari
Bara Maha (1107-1110)
Chhant (1110-1117)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕੇਦਾਰਾ | Raag Kedara
Gurbani (1118-1123)
Bhagat Bani (1123-1124)
ਰਾਗੁ ਭੈਰਉ | Raag Bhairo
Gurbani (1125-1152)
Partaal (1153)
Ashtpadiyan (1153-1167)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਸੰਤੁ | Raag Basant
Gurbani (1168-1187)
Ashtpadiyan (1187-1193)
Vaar Basant (1193-1196)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਾਰਗ | Raag Saarag
Gurbani (1197-1200)
Partaal (1200-1231)
Ashtpadiyan (1232-1236)
Chhant (1236-1237)
Vaar Saarang (1237-1253)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਲਾਰ | Raag Malaar
Gurbani (1254-1293)
Partaal (1265-1273)
Ashtpadiyan (1273-1278)
Chhant (1278)
Vaar Malaar (1278-91)
Bhagat Bani (1292-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਾਨੜਾ | Raag Kaanraa
Gurbani (1294-96)
Partaal (1296-1318)
Ashtpadiyan (1308-1312)
Chhant (1312)
Vaar Kaanraa
Bhagat Bani (1318)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਲਿਆਨ | Raag Kalyaan
Gurbani (1319-23)
Ashtpadiyan (1323-26)
ਰਾਗੁ ਪ੍ਰਭਾਤੀ | Raag Prabhaatee
Gurbani (1327-1341)
Ashtpadiyan (1342-51)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਜਾਵੰਤੀ | Raag Jaijaiwanti
Gurbani (1352-53)
Salok | Gatha | Phunahe | Chaubole | Swayiye
Sehskritee Mahala 1
Sehskritee Mahala 5
Gaathaa Mahala 5
Phunhay Mahala 5
Chaubolae Mahala 5
Shaloks Bhagat Kabir
Shaloks Sheikh Farid
Swaiyyae Mahala 5
Swaiyyae in Praise of Gurus
Shaloks in Addition To Vaars
Shalok Ninth Mehl
Mundavanee Mehl 5
ਰਾਗ ਮਾਲਾ, Raag Maalaa
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<blockquote data-quote="nyspunjabi" data-source="post: 157207" data-attributes="member: 1845"><p>Dear Harry Haller,</p><p>Thanx 4 ur reply...I sincerely appreciated ur input..the reason I began this thread was 2 get suggestions..I am gratefull to all who have done so far...</p><p> </p><p>In response to ur post :</p><p>No we are not crazy , religious freaky parents to our children...yes I do have Guru Granth Sahib ji's prakash @ home & my husband & myself do daily sewa...but we have never enforced any crazy demands on our kids because we feel that relgious & spiritual beliefs should be introduced by parents & Gurdwara but it's up to each child/individual how they want to carry out or practice these beliefs...</p><p> </p><p>Pls.don't take this as a personal attack....</p><p> </p><p>I came to NY from India when I was 13..did my my education & grew up here...I know how tough it was to not to be able to "hang out" or "chill" with friends...or have no phone or going out previliges as a teen...</p><p> </p><p>So I took a vow that when I become a parent I will allow my kids freedom & a sense of "normal" teen social life for my kids....We allowed my daughter who is 20 & my son same freedom as teens..allowed 2 hang out @ malls...got 2 movies..bowling...visit friend's home & have their friends over (both desi & non -desi)...Our daughter fortunately chose the "right" crowd & has turned out an honor student & on deans list in college, BUT our dear son....misused all his freedom...chose only "junkies" as his friends as a teen & continues 2 do so even 2day in college !!!</p><p> </p><p>So it's obviously not our religious background or lack of freedom that thas contributed 2 our son's downfall..</p><p> </p><p>As far as reasons behind his drug & alcohol use..</p><p> </p><p>He is handsome..has plenty of "girlfriends"...has always had name brand clothes provided by us...no less..has every electronic system/cell phone/laptop..all any teen wishes to have..all provided by us ...even despite his bad habits...we did & gave all ...so he has no reason 2 say "you guys never did any thing for me"!!</p><p> </p><p>He grew up in a lovely & strong family life...never subject to rude or disrespectfull behavior from myself or his dad....loved by his sister,gramps & huge family of loved uncles,aunts,cousins...no probs there either Harry ji!!</p><p> </p><p>yet he chose a path of destruction... he merely began drinking & pot as "chilling-out" experience from ages of 15-16.....began cutting classes...moed on to vicodins & oxycons..by age 17 & got left back from high school graduation with his class...</p><p> </p><p>Went to summer school by our help ... as he would never want to go or get up in mornings..any way got cleared got his diploma & we agreed to pay for his college tuition...even despite all he had already done....we still hoped he is done now...and will start a new ...fresh chapter of his life by going to college..</p><p> </p><p>He insisted on dorming because he wanted to "get the hell out" of home...as we could not afford doming costs..he took out a student loan on his name ...used all the proceeds for dorms because we had already paid for his tuition!!</p><p> </p><p>Within 2 months @ dorm..began smoking blints before every class..moved on to cocaine/ecstasy and more heavy oxycontins...has been caught/suspended from college...kicked out of dorm...and still feels that he is not addicted & accepts no counseling or professional help!!!</p><p> </p><p>Pls tell me what I am supposed 2 with this child...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="nyspunjabi, post: 157207, member: 1845"] Dear Harry Haller, Thanx 4 ur reply...I sincerely appreciated ur input..the reason I began this thread was 2 get suggestions..I am gratefull to all who have done so far... In response to ur post : No we are not crazy , religious freaky parents to our children...yes I do have Guru Granth Sahib ji's prakash @ home & my husband & myself do daily sewa...but we have never enforced any crazy demands on our kids because we feel that relgious & spiritual beliefs should be introduced by parents & Gurdwara but it's up to each child/individual how they want to carry out or practice these beliefs... Pls.don't take this as a personal attack.... I came to NY from India when I was 13..did my my education & grew up here...I know how tough it was to not to be able to "hang out" or "chill" with friends...or have no phone or going out previliges as a teen... So I took a vow that when I become a parent I will allow my kids freedom & a sense of "normal" teen social life for my kids....We allowed my daughter who is 20 & my son same freedom as teens..allowed 2 hang out @ malls...got 2 movies..bowling...visit friend's home & have their friends over (both desi & non -desi)...Our daughter fortunately chose the "right" crowd & has turned out an honor student & on deans list in college, BUT our dear son....misused all his freedom...chose only "junkies" as his friends as a teen & continues 2 do so even 2day in college !!! So it's obviously not our religious background or lack of freedom that thas contributed 2 our son's downfall.. As far as reasons behind his drug & alcohol use.. He is handsome..has plenty of "girlfriends"...has always had name brand clothes provided by us...no less..has every electronic system/cell phone/laptop..all any teen wishes to have..all provided by us ...even despite his bad habits...we did & gave all ...so he has no reason 2 say "you guys never did any thing for me"!! He grew up in a lovely & strong family life...never subject to rude or disrespectfull behavior from myself or his dad....loved by his sister,gramps & huge family of loved uncles,aunts,cousins...no probs there either Harry ji!! yet he chose a path of destruction... he merely began drinking & pot as "chilling-out" experience from ages of 15-16.....began cutting classes...moed on to vicodins & oxycons..by age 17 & got left back from high school graduation with his class... Went to summer school by our help ... as he would never want to go or get up in mornings..any way got cleared got his diploma & we agreed to pay for his college tuition...even despite all he had already done....we still hoped he is done now...and will start a new ...fresh chapter of his life by going to college.. He insisted on dorming because he wanted to "get the hell out" of home...as we could not afford doming costs..he took out a student loan on his name ...used all the proceeds for dorms because we had already paid for his tuition!! Within 2 months @ dorm..began smoking blints before every class..moved on to cocaine/ecstasy and more heavy oxycontins...has been caught/suspended from college...kicked out of dorm...and still feels that he is not addicted & accepts no counseling or professional help!!! Pls tell me what I am supposed 2 with this child... [/QUOTE]
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