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ਸੋ ਦਰੁ | So Dar
ਸੋਹਿਲਾ | Sohilaa
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਿਰੀਰਾਗੁ | Raag Siree-Raag
Gurbani (14-53)
Ashtpadiyan (53-71)
Gurbani (71-74)
Pahre (74-78)
Chhant (78-81)
Vanjara (81-82)
Vaar Siri Raag (83-91)
Bhagat Bani (91-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਝ | Raag Maajh
Gurbani (94-109)
Ashtpadi (109)
Ashtpadiyan (110-129)
Ashtpadi (129-130)
Ashtpadiyan (130-133)
Bara Maha (133-136)
Din Raen (136-137)
Vaar Maajh Ki (137-150)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗਉੜੀ | Raag Gauree
Gurbani (151-185)
Quartets/Couplets (185-220)
Ashtpadiyan (220-234)
Karhalei (234-235)
Ashtpadiyan (235-242)
Chhant (242-249)
Baavan Akhari (250-262)
Sukhmani (262-296)
Thittee (296-300)
Gauree kii Vaar (300-323)
Gurbani (323-330)
Ashtpadiyan (330-340)
Baavan Akhari (340-343)
Thintteen (343-344)
Vaar Kabir (344-345)
Bhagat Bani (345-346)
ਰਾਗੁ ਆਸਾ | Raag Aasaa
Gurbani (347-348)
Chaupaday (348-364)
Panchpadde (364-365)
Kaafee (365-409)
Aasaavaree (409-411)
Ashtpadiyan (411-432)
Patee (432-435)
Chhant (435-462)
Vaar Aasaa (462-475)
Bhagat Bani (475-488)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੂਜਰੀ | Raag Goojaree
Gurbani (489-503)
Ashtpadiyan (503-508)
Vaar Gujari (508-517)
Vaar Gujari (517-526)
ਰਾਗੁ ਦੇਵਗੰਧਾਰੀ | Raag Dayv-Gandhaaree
Gurbani (527-536)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਹਾਗੜਾ | Raag Bihaagraa
Gurbani (537-556)
Chhant (538-548)
Vaar Bihaagraa (548-556)
ਰਾਗੁ ਵਡਹੰਸ | Raag Wadhans
Gurbani (557-564)
Ashtpadiyan (564-565)
Chhant (565-575)
Ghoriaan (575-578)
Alaahaniiaa (578-582)
Vaar Wadhans (582-594)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੋਰਠਿ | Raag Sorath
Gurbani (595-634)
Asatpadhiya (634-642)
Vaar Sorath (642-659)
ਰਾਗੁ ਧਨਾਸਰੀ | Raag Dhanasaree
Gurbani (660-685)
Astpadhiya (685-687)
Chhant (687-691)
Bhagat Bani (691-695)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਤਸਰੀ | Raag Jaitsree
Gurbani (696-703)
Chhant (703-705)
Vaar Jaitsaree (705-710)
Bhagat Bani (710)
ਰਾਗੁ ਟੋਡੀ | Raag Todee
ਰਾਗੁ ਬੈਰਾੜੀ | Raag Bairaaree
ਰਾਗੁ ਤਿਲੰਗ | Raag Tilang
Gurbani (721-727)
Bhagat Bani (727)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੂਹੀ | Raag Suhi
Gurbani (728-750)
Ashtpadiyan (750-761)
Kaafee (761-762)
Suchajee (762)
Gunvantee (763)
Chhant (763-785)
Vaar Soohee (785-792)
Bhagat Bani (792-794)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਲਾਵਲੁ | Raag Bilaaval
Gurbani (795-831)
Ashtpadiyan (831-838)
Thitteen (838-840)
Vaar Sat (841-843)
Chhant (843-848)
Vaar Bilaaval (849-855)
Bhagat Bani (855-858)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੋਂਡ | Raag Gond
Gurbani (859-869)
Ashtpadiyan (869)
Bhagat Bani (870-875)
ਰਾਗੁ ਰਾਮਕਲੀ | Raag Ramkalee
Ashtpadiyan (902-916)
Gurbani (876-902)
Anand (917-922)
Sadd (923-924)
Chhant (924-929)
Dakhnee (929-938)
Sidh Gosat (938-946)
Vaar Ramkalee (947-968)
ਰਾਗੁ ਨਟ ਨਾਰਾਇਨ | Raag Nat Narayan
Gurbani (975-980)
Ashtpadiyan (980-983)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਲੀ ਗਉੜਾ | Raag Maalee Gauraa
Gurbani (984-988)
Bhagat Bani (988)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਰੂ | Raag Maaroo
Gurbani (889-1008)
Ashtpadiyan (1008-1014)
Kaafee (1014-1016)
Ashtpadiyan (1016-1019)
Anjulian (1019-1020)
Solhe (1020-1033)
Dakhni (1033-1043)
ਰਾਗੁ ਤੁਖਾਰੀ | Raag Tukhaari
Bara Maha (1107-1110)
Chhant (1110-1117)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕੇਦਾਰਾ | Raag Kedara
Gurbani (1118-1123)
Bhagat Bani (1123-1124)
ਰਾਗੁ ਭੈਰਉ | Raag Bhairo
Gurbani (1125-1152)
Partaal (1153)
Ashtpadiyan (1153-1167)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਸੰਤੁ | Raag Basant
Gurbani (1168-1187)
Ashtpadiyan (1187-1193)
Vaar Basant (1193-1196)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਾਰਗ | Raag Saarag
Gurbani (1197-1200)
Partaal (1200-1231)
Ashtpadiyan (1232-1236)
Chhant (1236-1237)
Vaar Saarang (1237-1253)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਲਾਰ | Raag Malaar
Gurbani (1254-1293)
Partaal (1265-1273)
Ashtpadiyan (1273-1278)
Chhant (1278)
Vaar Malaar (1278-91)
Bhagat Bani (1292-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਾਨੜਾ | Raag Kaanraa
Gurbani (1294-96)
Partaal (1296-1318)
Ashtpadiyan (1308-1312)
Chhant (1312)
Vaar Kaanraa
Bhagat Bani (1318)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਲਿਆਨ | Raag Kalyaan
Gurbani (1319-23)
Ashtpadiyan (1323-26)
ਰਾਗੁ ਪ੍ਰਭਾਤੀ | Raag Prabhaatee
Gurbani (1327-1341)
Ashtpadiyan (1342-51)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਜਾਵੰਤੀ | Raag Jaijaiwanti
Gurbani (1352-53)
Salok | Gatha | Phunahe | Chaubole | Swayiye
Sehskritee Mahala 1
Sehskritee Mahala 5
Gaathaa Mahala 5
Phunhay Mahala 5
Chaubolae Mahala 5
Shaloks Bhagat Kabir
Shaloks Sheikh Farid
Swaiyyae Mahala 5
Swaiyyae in Praise of Gurus
Shaloks in Addition To Vaars
Shalok Ninth Mehl
Mundavanee Mehl 5
ਰਾਗ ਮਾਲਾ, Raag Maalaa
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<blockquote data-quote="Archived_Member16" data-source="post: 147236" data-attributes="member: 884"><p>June 1, 2011</p><p></p><p><span style="color: Navy"><span style="font-size: 18px"><strong>Cutting Out Sugar and Spice</strong></span></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">By RANJANI IYER MOHANTY - THE NEW YORK TIMES - June 1, 2011</span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"><strong>NEW DELHI </strong>— While I was pregnant, we moved from one area to another within New Delhi. After having my baby, I went back to visit my old neighborhood. </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">As I was pushing the stroller up the driveway, my erstwhile upstairs neighbor waved to me from her balcony. She was a sweet old lady who lived with her daughter. I used to sometimes stop in and have tea with her. </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">“Is it a boy or girl?” she asked excitedly. </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">“A girl,” I shouted back, expecting coos and an “isn’t-that-sweet.” I wasn’t prepared for her response.</span></p><p> <span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">“Oh well, don’t worry, you can have another one.” </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">In India, ancient tales and old sayings reveal a deeply engrained preference for boys over girls. The attitude that girls are inferior to boys has soaked in over the centuries. </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">Even today, a young bride is often given the blessing, “May you be the mother of a 100 sons.” </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">When my daughter was a toddler, my mother-in-law used to lovingly coax her to eat all of her food by saying, “If you eat the last bite, you’ll be the mother of a king.” That is, until the day my daughter said, “But I don’t want to be the mother of a king; I want to be the king.” </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">And during my own childhood, I remember on several occasions women pityingly telling my mother, in front of me and my sister, “Oh, you only have two daughters. Not even one son.” </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">Traditionally, girls are thought of as a liability — financially, emotionally and spiritually. A girl’s parents need to pay a dowry to get her married. Once married, the girl is considered part of the boy’s family, not her own, so whatever her parents have invested in her is considered a sunk cost. Her allegiance is now solely to the family she has married into. Even if she is ill-treated by her in-laws, it’s all-too-often considered shameful for her to return to her own family. </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">What enables and perpetuates these attitudes? </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">Part of it may be due to an unquestioning respect for tradition, patriarchy and the elderly. Part of it may be the extended-family system. </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">The bride, often as a young girl, enters a fully-formed household, with revered elders and vested interests to conserve. She is one against many, an outsider against a consolidated group — until she conforms, or better yet, has a son.</span></p><p> <span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">Part of it may be the traditional and highly-effective socialization of women themselves. As women become older, have sons, and their sons get married and bring home wives, the older women gain more prestige and power — something they won’t give up easily. </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">Naturally, these attitudes are also reflected in more concrete metrics. According to the 2011 census, India’s Child Sex Ratio (covering children birth to 6 years of age) is 914 — meaning 914 girls for every 1,000 boys. This is not only a reduction from the 2001 figure of 927, but it is said to be the worst since independence. </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">A recent study by Prabhat Jha of the University of Toronto shows that when a first born is a girl, the C.S.R. for second born children is 836. And interestingly, for the richest 20 percent of families, this value is 750, while in families in which the mother has more than 10 years of education, 700. It seems that neither affluence nor education are obvious solutions.</span></p><p> <span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">Because we travel often, my daughter has several points of reference to compare and contrast. During middle school, she asked several times why there are so few women on the streets here. In the area of New Delhi where we live, it would not be exaggerating to say that more than 80 percent of the pedestrians are men. Many feel free to stare at a woman, and even make rude comments. Women avoid eye-contact and go quickly on their way. </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">For her independent study project, my now-teenage daughter decided to look into female infanticide. What she found upset her: “I never knew until now that girls are considered to be less than boys,” she said. </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">There’s no advantage to being a girl in India, and yet, at the very least, they are needed as sexual partners, wives and mothers. But right now, instead of a real change in these traditional views, we are witnessing more cases of gang rape, men marrying younger women and importing brides, and women being pressured to work as sex workers. </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">In the coming-of-age movie “Gigi,” the charming cad Honoré Lachaille sings the song “Thank Heaven for Little Girls” and asks hypothetically “Without them, what would little boys do?” </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">Unfortunately, with the decrease in female births, we are about to find out. </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"><strong>Ranjani Iyer Mohanty is a writer and business/academic editor. </strong></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"><strong>source:</strong> <a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2011/06/02/opinion/02iht-edmohanty02.html?_r=1&ref=global" target="_blank">http://www.nytimes.com/2011/06/02/opinion/02iht-edmohanty02.html?_r=1&ref=global</a></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Archived_Member16, post: 147236, member: 884"] June 1, 2011 [COLOR=Navy][SIZE=5][B]Cutting Out Sugar and Spice[/B][/SIZE] By RANJANI IYER MOHANTY - THE NEW YORK TIMES - June 1, 2011 [B]NEW DELHI [/B]— While I was pregnant, we moved from one area to another within New Delhi. After having my baby, I went back to visit my old neighborhood. As I was pushing the stroller up the driveway, my erstwhile upstairs neighbor waved to me from her balcony. She was a sweet old lady who lived with her daughter. I used to sometimes stop in and have tea with her. “Is it a boy or girl?” she asked excitedly. “A girl,” I shouted back, expecting coos and an “isn’t-that-sweet.” I wasn’t prepared for her response. “Oh well, don’t worry, you can have another one.” In India, ancient tales and old sayings reveal a deeply engrained preference for boys over girls. The attitude that girls are inferior to boys has soaked in over the centuries. Even today, a young bride is often given the blessing, “May you be the mother of a 100 sons.” When my daughter was a toddler, my mother-in-law used to lovingly coax her to eat all of her food by saying, “If you eat the last bite, you’ll be the mother of a king.” That is, until the day my daughter said, “But I don’t want to be the mother of a king; I want to be the king.” And during my own childhood, I remember on several occasions women pityingly telling my mother, in front of me and my sister, “Oh, you only have two daughters. Not even one son.” Traditionally, girls are thought of as a liability — financially, emotionally and spiritually. A girl’s parents need to pay a dowry to get her married. Once married, the girl is considered part of the boy’s family, not her own, so whatever her parents have invested in her is considered a sunk cost. Her allegiance is now solely to the family she has married into. Even if she is ill-treated by her in-laws, it’s all-too-often considered shameful for her to return to her own family. What enables and perpetuates these attitudes? Part of it may be due to an unquestioning respect for tradition, patriarchy and the elderly. Part of it may be the extended-family system. The bride, often as a young girl, enters a fully-formed household, with revered elders and vested interests to conserve. She is one against many, an outsider against a consolidated group — until she conforms, or better yet, has a son. Part of it may be the traditional and highly-effective socialization of women themselves. As women become older, have sons, and their sons get married and bring home wives, the older women gain more prestige and power — something they won’t give up easily. Naturally, these attitudes are also reflected in more concrete metrics. According to the 2011 census, India’s Child Sex Ratio (covering children birth to 6 years of age) is 914 — meaning 914 girls for every 1,000 boys. This is not only a reduction from the 2001 figure of 927, but it is said to be the worst since independence. A recent study by Prabhat Jha of the University of Toronto shows that when a first born is a girl, the C.S.R. for second born children is 836. And interestingly, for the richest 20 percent of families, this value is 750, while in families in which the mother has more than 10 years of education, 700. It seems that neither affluence nor education are obvious solutions. Because we travel often, my daughter has several points of reference to compare and contrast. During middle school, she asked several times why there are so few women on the streets here. In the area of New Delhi where we live, it would not be exaggerating to say that more than 80 percent of the pedestrians are men. Many feel free to stare at a woman, and even make rude comments. Women avoid eye-contact and go quickly on their way. For her independent study project, my now-teenage daughter decided to look into female infanticide. What she found upset her: “I never knew until now that girls are considered to be less than boys,” she said. There’s no advantage to being a girl in India, and yet, at the very least, they are needed as sexual partners, wives and mothers. But right now, instead of a real change in these traditional views, we are witnessing more cases of gang rape, men marrying younger women and importing brides, and women being pressured to work as sex workers. In the coming-of-age movie “Gigi,” the charming cad Honoré Lachaille sings the song “Thank Heaven for Little Girls” and asks hypothetically “Without them, what would little boys do?” Unfortunately, with the decrease in female births, we are about to find out. [B]Ranjani Iyer Mohanty is a writer and business/academic editor. [/B] [B]source:[/B] [URL]http://www.nytimes.com/2011/06/02/opinion/02iht-edmohanty02.html?_r=1&ref=global[/URL][/COLOR] [/QUOTE]
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