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<blockquote data-quote="rajneesh madhok" data-source="post: 124371" data-attributes="member: 10692"><p><strong>Re: marriage</strong></p><p></p><p>Dear Manas ki jaat ji,</p><p>Firstly it depends upon which type of town or city live in. Secondly in which country you live in. I come to the first point. if you live in India in Metropolitan city or big city in India then there is no problem to marry with the girl of your choice but if you live in Small to medium town then there are so many problems which occur after marriages. As per caste system there is difference between customs, culture and rituals. If your financially position is really good then most of the problems are being solved but if your financial position is not so strong then the problems get multiplied. </p><p>I disscuss all the pros & cons:</p><p></p><ol> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">As per your post your pareents are not so liberal. In such situation the parents don't allow the newly wed couple to live in the joint house and so to live separately you will have to arrange for the separate accommodation. So, keep this aspect in mind before taking any decision.</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">I would suggest you not to go against the wishes of your parents as if you are able to convince them then there is no harm to marry but against their wishes it will create havoc, to convince them you may take the help of siblings those can make your parents understand.</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">If you are independent then only you should go for taking the decision independently, if you are dependent upon him then wait for having an nice earning before marriage.</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">The love which you describe will shoot away in days after marriage when the reality you will have to face. Blood group caompatibility and thallisimia check should be done before taking this type of step. As in love related marriages one can go for these types of checks and it will be useful to avoid future health issue and having children.</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">I agree to you that marriage should be not bounded to caste colour creed and race. But my sincere advice would be to convince your parents first. First of all you should keep in mind about your before your regards to the caste of the girl and her regard to your caste. Though these castes have been formed by the man but in real life the caste feelings disturb the peace relations of humans. Please to convince your parents before going for intercaste marriage</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">As this is the question on which whole of the life depends. So, don't take any decision in a hurry.</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">As there will be difference in performing prayers and so after marriage you and your wife have to adjust and respect to the feelings of others. Likewise both of your will have to manage the children also. Though it is not a big deal but one should keep this point in consideration.</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">Keep in consideration about social bondages which are being created later. Now I come to the vedic theory, in that theory, the one's Caste is based upon Karma (Deeds), if the Scheduled castes are doing the job of teaching then according to Vedic theory that will be called Brahmin.</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">In your case both of you belong to the Sikh religion. The terminologies like OBC, SC, ST and the names of almost all the castes based on professions and this is not written in the religious books and scriptures.</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">If you are living the village then think not once but thrice to go for this relation and you must convince your parents. As in interior villages it would be a problem for you and your family members to move in the divided societies which is prevalent in villages.</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">Now I come to your statement that your parents strongly believe in caste system. You have written that the problem has been risen when you told your parents that you love a girl that don't belong to your caste and that the girl belong to Schedule castes family. Both of your statements should be considered. But firstly go for the points arisen from Point No. 1 to 10. These are the problems those create hurdles though both of you have faith in sikhism. Kindly go for the help of other friends and relatives to convince them. They will listen to your common friends and relatives.</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">Your statement that this thing is fading your faith in religions. How can you justify you. In which religion this type of marriages are prohibited. Kindly go through religious scriptures before making comment that "if religious scriptures are not able to change the thinking of people from years, what is the benefit of these religions" Have you heard about Manas ki jaat sabhe ik pahchanvo. <span style="font-size: 18px">Keep in Consideration the teachings of Gurbani Jaat ka Garb na kariyo koi which means tht no one should be proud of his caste. Concerning this matter your statement regarding religion is biased. <br /> </span></li> </ol><p>Rajneesh Madhok</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="rajneesh madhok, post: 124371, member: 10692"] [b]Re: marriage[/b] Dear Manas ki jaat ji, Firstly it depends upon which type of town or city live in. Secondly in which country you live in. I come to the first point. if you live in India in Metropolitan city or big city in India then there is no problem to marry with the girl of your choice but if you live in Small to medium town then there are so many problems which occur after marriages. As per caste system there is difference between customs, culture and rituals. If your financially position is really good then most of the problems are being solved but if your financial position is not so strong then the problems get multiplied. I disscuss all the pros & cons: [LIST=1] [*]As per your post your pareents are not so liberal. In such situation the parents don't allow the newly wed couple to live in the joint house and so to live separately you will have to arrange for the separate accommodation. So, keep this aspect in mind before taking any decision. [*]I would suggest you not to go against the wishes of your parents as if you are able to convince them then there is no harm to marry but against their wishes it will create havoc, to convince them you may take the help of siblings those can make your parents understand. [*]If you are independent then only you should go for taking the decision independently, if you are dependent upon him then wait for having an nice earning before marriage. [*]The love which you describe will shoot away in days after marriage when the reality you will have to face. Blood group caompatibility and thallisimia check should be done before taking this type of step. As in love related marriages one can go for these types of checks and it will be useful to avoid future health issue and having children. [*]I agree to you that marriage should be not bounded to caste colour creed and race. But my sincere advice would be to convince your parents first. First of all you should keep in mind about your before your regards to the caste of the girl and her regard to your caste. Though these castes have been formed by the man but in real life the caste feelings disturb the peace relations of humans. Please to convince your parents before going for intercaste marriage [*]As this is the question on which whole of the life depends. So, don't take any decision in a hurry. [*]As there will be difference in performing prayers and so after marriage you and your wife have to adjust and respect to the feelings of others. Likewise both of your will have to manage the children also. Though it is not a big deal but one should keep this point in consideration. [*]Keep in consideration about social bondages which are being created later. Now I come to the vedic theory, in that theory, the one's Caste is based upon Karma (Deeds), if the Scheduled castes are doing the job of teaching then according to Vedic theory that will be called Brahmin. [*]In your case both of you belong to the Sikh religion. The terminologies like OBC, SC, ST and the names of almost all the castes based on professions and this is not written in the religious books and scriptures. [*]If you are living the village then think not once but thrice to go for this relation and you must convince your parents. As in interior villages it would be a problem for you and your family members to move in the divided societies which is prevalent in villages. [*]Now I come to your statement that your parents strongly believe in caste system. You have written that the problem has been risen when you told your parents that you love a girl that don't belong to your caste and that the girl belong to Schedule castes family. Both of your statements should be considered. But firstly go for the points arisen from Point No. 1 to 10. These are the problems those create hurdles though both of you have faith in sikhism. Kindly go for the help of other friends and relatives to convince them. They will listen to your common friends and relatives. [*]Your statement that this thing is fading your faith in religions. How can you justify you. In which religion this type of marriages are prohibited. Kindly go through religious scriptures before making comment that "if religious scriptures are not able to change the thinking of people from years, what is the benefit of these religions" Have you heard about Manas ki jaat sabhe ik pahchanvo. [SIZE=5]Keep in Consideration the teachings of Gurbani Jaat ka Garb na kariyo koi which means tht no one should be proud of his caste. Concerning this matter your statement regarding religion is biased. [/SIZE] [/LIST] Rajneesh Madhok [/QUOTE]
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