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ਜਪੁ | Jup
ਸੋ ਦਰੁ | So Dar
ਸੋਹਿਲਾ | Sohilaa
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਿਰੀਰਾਗੁ | Raag Siree-Raag
Gurbani (14-53)
Ashtpadiyan (53-71)
Gurbani (71-74)
Pahre (74-78)
Chhant (78-81)
Vanjara (81-82)
Vaar Siri Raag (83-91)
Bhagat Bani (91-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਝ | Raag Maajh
Gurbani (94-109)
Ashtpadi (109)
Ashtpadiyan (110-129)
Ashtpadi (129-130)
Ashtpadiyan (130-133)
Bara Maha (133-136)
Din Raen (136-137)
Vaar Maajh Ki (137-150)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗਉੜੀ | Raag Gauree
Gurbani (151-185)
Quartets/Couplets (185-220)
Ashtpadiyan (220-234)
Karhalei (234-235)
Ashtpadiyan (235-242)
Chhant (242-249)
Baavan Akhari (250-262)
Sukhmani (262-296)
Thittee (296-300)
Gauree kii Vaar (300-323)
Gurbani (323-330)
Ashtpadiyan (330-340)
Baavan Akhari (340-343)
Thintteen (343-344)
Vaar Kabir (344-345)
Bhagat Bani (345-346)
ਰਾਗੁ ਆਸਾ | Raag Aasaa
Gurbani (347-348)
Chaupaday (348-364)
Panchpadde (364-365)
Kaafee (365-409)
Aasaavaree (409-411)
Ashtpadiyan (411-432)
Patee (432-435)
Chhant (435-462)
Vaar Aasaa (462-475)
Bhagat Bani (475-488)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੂਜਰੀ | Raag Goojaree
Gurbani (489-503)
Ashtpadiyan (503-508)
Vaar Gujari (508-517)
Vaar Gujari (517-526)
ਰਾਗੁ ਦੇਵਗੰਧਾਰੀ | Raag Dayv-Gandhaaree
Gurbani (527-536)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਹਾਗੜਾ | Raag Bihaagraa
Gurbani (537-556)
Chhant (538-548)
Vaar Bihaagraa (548-556)
ਰਾਗੁ ਵਡਹੰਸ | Raag Wadhans
Gurbani (557-564)
Ashtpadiyan (564-565)
Chhant (565-575)
Ghoriaan (575-578)
Alaahaniiaa (578-582)
Vaar Wadhans (582-594)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੋਰਠਿ | Raag Sorath
Gurbani (595-634)
Asatpadhiya (634-642)
Vaar Sorath (642-659)
ਰਾਗੁ ਧਨਾਸਰੀ | Raag Dhanasaree
Gurbani (660-685)
Astpadhiya (685-687)
Chhant (687-691)
Bhagat Bani (691-695)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਤਸਰੀ | Raag Jaitsree
Gurbani (696-703)
Chhant (703-705)
Vaar Jaitsaree (705-710)
Bhagat Bani (710)
ਰਾਗੁ ਟੋਡੀ | Raag Todee
ਰਾਗੁ ਬੈਰਾੜੀ | Raag Bairaaree
ਰਾਗੁ ਤਿਲੰਗ | Raag Tilang
Gurbani (721-727)
Bhagat Bani (727)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੂਹੀ | Raag Suhi
Gurbani (728-750)
Ashtpadiyan (750-761)
Kaafee (761-762)
Suchajee (762)
Gunvantee (763)
Chhant (763-785)
Vaar Soohee (785-792)
Bhagat Bani (792-794)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਲਾਵਲੁ | Raag Bilaaval
Gurbani (795-831)
Ashtpadiyan (831-838)
Thitteen (838-840)
Vaar Sat (841-843)
Chhant (843-848)
Vaar Bilaaval (849-855)
Bhagat Bani (855-858)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੋਂਡ | Raag Gond
Gurbani (859-869)
Ashtpadiyan (869)
Bhagat Bani (870-875)
ਰਾਗੁ ਰਾਮਕਲੀ | Raag Ramkalee
Ashtpadiyan (902-916)
Gurbani (876-902)
Anand (917-922)
Sadd (923-924)
Chhant (924-929)
Dakhnee (929-938)
Sidh Gosat (938-946)
Vaar Ramkalee (947-968)
ਰਾਗੁ ਨਟ ਨਾਰਾਇਨ | Raag Nat Narayan
Gurbani (975-980)
Ashtpadiyan (980-983)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਲੀ ਗਉੜਾ | Raag Maalee Gauraa
Gurbani (984-988)
Bhagat Bani (988)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਰੂ | Raag Maaroo
Gurbani (889-1008)
Ashtpadiyan (1008-1014)
Kaafee (1014-1016)
Ashtpadiyan (1016-1019)
Anjulian (1019-1020)
Solhe (1020-1033)
Dakhni (1033-1043)
ਰਾਗੁ ਤੁਖਾਰੀ | Raag Tukhaari
Bara Maha (1107-1110)
Chhant (1110-1117)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕੇਦਾਰਾ | Raag Kedara
Gurbani (1118-1123)
Bhagat Bani (1123-1124)
ਰਾਗੁ ਭੈਰਉ | Raag Bhairo
Gurbani (1125-1152)
Partaal (1153)
Ashtpadiyan (1153-1167)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਸੰਤੁ | Raag Basant
Gurbani (1168-1187)
Ashtpadiyan (1187-1193)
Vaar Basant (1193-1196)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਾਰਗ | Raag Saarag
Gurbani (1197-1200)
Partaal (1200-1231)
Ashtpadiyan (1232-1236)
Chhant (1236-1237)
Vaar Saarang (1237-1253)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਲਾਰ | Raag Malaar
Gurbani (1254-1293)
Partaal (1265-1273)
Ashtpadiyan (1273-1278)
Chhant (1278)
Vaar Malaar (1278-91)
Bhagat Bani (1292-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਾਨੜਾ | Raag Kaanraa
Gurbani (1294-96)
Partaal (1296-1318)
Ashtpadiyan (1308-1312)
Chhant (1312)
Vaar Kaanraa
Bhagat Bani (1318)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਲਿਆਨ | Raag Kalyaan
Gurbani (1319-23)
Ashtpadiyan (1323-26)
ਰਾਗੁ ਪ੍ਰਭਾਤੀ | Raag Prabhaatee
Gurbani (1327-1341)
Ashtpadiyan (1342-51)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਜਾਵੰਤੀ | Raag Jaijaiwanti
Gurbani (1352-53)
Salok | Gatha | Phunahe | Chaubole | Swayiye
Sehskritee Mahala 1
Sehskritee Mahala 5
Gaathaa Mahala 5
Phunhay Mahala 5
Chaubolae Mahala 5
Shaloks Bhagat Kabir
Shaloks Sheikh Farid
Swaiyyae Mahala 5
Swaiyyae in Praise of Gurus
Shaloks in Addition To Vaars
Shalok Ninth Mehl
Mundavanee Mehl 5
ਰਾਗ ਮਾਲਾ, Raag Maalaa
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<blockquote data-quote="Astroboy" data-source="post: 59097" data-attributes="member: 4990"><p>In-laws are human too.</p><p>Coming straight to the point:</p><p> </p><p>There’s no question that in-laws can break up a relationship . Toxic in-laws fall into five categories, according to Susan Forward in the book “Toxic In-Laws” (Quill).</p><p> </p><p><strong>Critics</strong>: They know best, they’re older, they’ve been there, they know how to do it and you don’t—and you can’t do anything right around them. You’re not investing your money right, you’re not raising your children correctly, you’re living wrong, and so on. </p><p> </p><p><strong>Engulfers</strong>: “Our child is obligated to spend as much time with us as we see fit. We’ll decide on what we’ll do on birthdays and holidays.” They peddle a lot of guilt and obligation.</p><p> </p><p><strong>Controllers</strong>: They’re insecure people who use intimidation and other heavy-duty tactics. They want their way and they’ll do a lot to get it. Some of their tactics are mean or scary. “If you don’t do what we say, you’ll never see us again, and we’ll write you out of the will.” </p><p> </p><p><strong>Masters of chaos</strong>: They become the helpless kids and expect you to parent them. They’re the alcoholics or the ones with financial troubles, or other major problems. </p><p> </p><p><strong>Rejecters</strong>: You are not the one they wanted. They have totally closed their hearts and minds to you—and these are the darkest of the toxic in-laws. </p><p> </p><p>As much as you might wish it otherwise, Forward offers an in-law reality check: </p><p>1.) Your in-laws aren’t required to love you, like you or approve of you. If they do, wonderful. But you’re not their child, and the bonds they have with you may never be more than tentative. </p><p>2.) Your in-laws won’t change on their own. Tables don’t become chairs, and what you see is probably what you’ll get for a long time, or at least until you and your partner take some decisive steps to change the dynamics between all of you.</p><p>3.) Your in-laws may never become the people you would like them to be, and your blended family may be close, comfortable or warm.</p><p> So in short,</p><p style="text-align: center"><p style="text-align: center"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: sienna">Faith is an oasis in the heart </span></span></span></p> <p style="text-align: center"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: sienna">which can never be reached by the caravan of thinking.</span></span></span></p> <p style="text-align: center"></p> <p style="text-align: center"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: deepskyblue">It is better to believe than to disbelieve;</span></span></span></p> <p style="text-align: center"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: deepskyblue">in so doing, you bring everything</span></span></span></p> <p style="text-align: center"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: deepskyblue">to the realm of possibility.</span></span></span></p> <p style="text-align: center"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: deepskyblue"></span></span></span><em><span style="color: #debede"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">~ Albert Einstein ~</span></span></em></p> <p style="text-align: center"></p> <p style="text-align: left"><em><span style="color: #debede"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">More later from begum.</span></span></em></p> </p> <p style="text-align: left"></p> <p style="text-align: center"><p style="text-align: center"></p> </p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Astroboy, post: 59097, member: 4990"] In-laws are human too. Coming straight to the point: There’s no question that in-laws can break up a relationship . Toxic in-laws fall into five categories, according to Susan Forward in the book “Toxic In-Laws” (Quill). [B]Critics[/B]: They know best, they’re older, they’ve been there, they know how to do it and you don’t—and you can’t do anything right around them. You’re not investing your money right, you’re not raising your children correctly, you’re living wrong, and so on. [B]Engulfers[/B]: “Our child is obligated to spend as much time with us as we see fit. We’ll decide on what we’ll do on birthdays and holidays.” They peddle a lot of guilt and obligation. [B]Controllers[/B]: They’re insecure people who use intimidation and other heavy-duty tactics. They want their way and they’ll do a lot to get it. Some of their tactics are mean or scary. “If you don’t do what we say, you’ll never see us again, and we’ll write you out of the will.” [B]Masters of chaos[/B]: They become the helpless kids and expect you to parent them. They’re the alcoholics or the ones with financial troubles, or other major problems. [B]Rejecters[/B]: You are not the one they wanted. They have totally closed their hearts and minds to you—and these are the darkest of the toxic in-laws. As much as you might wish it otherwise, Forward offers an in-law reality check: 1.) Your in-laws aren’t required to love you, like you or approve of you. If they do, wonderful. But you’re not their child, and the bonds they have with you may never be more than tentative. 2.) Your in-laws won’t change on their own. Tables don’t become chairs, and what you see is probably what you’ll get for a long time, or at least until you and your partner take some decisive steps to change the dynamics between all of you. 3.) Your in-laws may never become the people you would like them to be, and your blended family may be close, comfortable or warm. So in short, [CENTER][CENTER][FONT=Times New Roman][SIZE=3][COLOR=sienna]Faith is an oasis in the heart which can never be reached by the caravan of thinking.[/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT][/CENTER] [CENTER][FONT=Times New Roman][SIZE=3][/SIZE][/FONT] [/CENTER] [CENTER][FONT=Times New Roman][SIZE=3][COLOR=deepskyblue]It is better to believe than to disbelieve; in so doing, you bring everything to the realm of possibility. [/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT][I][COLOR=#debede][FONT=Comic Sans MS]~ Albert Einstein ~[/FONT][/COLOR][/I][/CENTER] [CENTER][I][COLOR=#debede][/COLOR][/I] [/CENTER] [LEFT][I][COLOR=#debede][FONT=Comic Sans MS]More later from begum.[/FONT][/COLOR][/I][/LEFT][/CENTER][LEFT][/LEFT] [CENTER][CENTER][I][FONT=Comic Sans MS][/FONT][/I][/CENTER] [/CENTER] [/QUOTE]
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