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Composition, Arrangement & Layout
ਜਪੁ | Jup
ਸੋ ਦਰੁ | So Dar
ਸੋਹਿਲਾ | Sohilaa
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਿਰੀਰਾਗੁ | Raag Siree-Raag
Gurbani (14-53)
Ashtpadiyan (53-71)
Gurbani (71-74)
Pahre (74-78)
Chhant (78-81)
Vanjara (81-82)
Vaar Siri Raag (83-91)
Bhagat Bani (91-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਝ | Raag Maajh
Gurbani (94-109)
Ashtpadi (109)
Ashtpadiyan (110-129)
Ashtpadi (129-130)
Ashtpadiyan (130-133)
Bara Maha (133-136)
Din Raen (136-137)
Vaar Maajh Ki (137-150)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗਉੜੀ | Raag Gauree
Gurbani (151-185)
Quartets/Couplets (185-220)
Ashtpadiyan (220-234)
Karhalei (234-235)
Ashtpadiyan (235-242)
Chhant (242-249)
Baavan Akhari (250-262)
Sukhmani (262-296)
Thittee (296-300)
Gauree kii Vaar (300-323)
Gurbani (323-330)
Ashtpadiyan (330-340)
Baavan Akhari (340-343)
Thintteen (343-344)
Vaar Kabir (344-345)
Bhagat Bani (345-346)
ਰਾਗੁ ਆਸਾ | Raag Aasaa
Gurbani (347-348)
Chaupaday (348-364)
Panchpadde (364-365)
Kaafee (365-409)
Aasaavaree (409-411)
Ashtpadiyan (411-432)
Patee (432-435)
Chhant (435-462)
Vaar Aasaa (462-475)
Bhagat Bani (475-488)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੂਜਰੀ | Raag Goojaree
Gurbani (489-503)
Ashtpadiyan (503-508)
Vaar Gujari (508-517)
Vaar Gujari (517-526)
ਰਾਗੁ ਦੇਵਗੰਧਾਰੀ | Raag Dayv-Gandhaaree
Gurbani (527-536)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਹਾਗੜਾ | Raag Bihaagraa
Gurbani (537-556)
Chhant (538-548)
Vaar Bihaagraa (548-556)
ਰਾਗੁ ਵਡਹੰਸ | Raag Wadhans
Gurbani (557-564)
Ashtpadiyan (564-565)
Chhant (565-575)
Ghoriaan (575-578)
Alaahaniiaa (578-582)
Vaar Wadhans (582-594)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੋਰਠਿ | Raag Sorath
Gurbani (595-634)
Asatpadhiya (634-642)
Vaar Sorath (642-659)
ਰਾਗੁ ਧਨਾਸਰੀ | Raag Dhanasaree
Gurbani (660-685)
Astpadhiya (685-687)
Chhant (687-691)
Bhagat Bani (691-695)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਤਸਰੀ | Raag Jaitsree
Gurbani (696-703)
Chhant (703-705)
Vaar Jaitsaree (705-710)
Bhagat Bani (710)
ਰਾਗੁ ਟੋਡੀ | Raag Todee
ਰਾਗੁ ਬੈਰਾੜੀ | Raag Bairaaree
ਰਾਗੁ ਤਿਲੰਗ | Raag Tilang
Gurbani (721-727)
Bhagat Bani (727)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੂਹੀ | Raag Suhi
Gurbani (728-750)
Ashtpadiyan (750-761)
Kaafee (761-762)
Suchajee (762)
Gunvantee (763)
Chhant (763-785)
Vaar Soohee (785-792)
Bhagat Bani (792-794)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਲਾਵਲੁ | Raag Bilaaval
Gurbani (795-831)
Ashtpadiyan (831-838)
Thitteen (838-840)
Vaar Sat (841-843)
Chhant (843-848)
Vaar Bilaaval (849-855)
Bhagat Bani (855-858)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੋਂਡ | Raag Gond
Gurbani (859-869)
Ashtpadiyan (869)
Bhagat Bani (870-875)
ਰਾਗੁ ਰਾਮਕਲੀ | Raag Ramkalee
Ashtpadiyan (902-916)
Gurbani (876-902)
Anand (917-922)
Sadd (923-924)
Chhant (924-929)
Dakhnee (929-938)
Sidh Gosat (938-946)
Vaar Ramkalee (947-968)
ਰਾਗੁ ਨਟ ਨਾਰਾਇਨ | Raag Nat Narayan
Gurbani (975-980)
Ashtpadiyan (980-983)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਲੀ ਗਉੜਾ | Raag Maalee Gauraa
Gurbani (984-988)
Bhagat Bani (988)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਰੂ | Raag Maaroo
Gurbani (889-1008)
Ashtpadiyan (1008-1014)
Kaafee (1014-1016)
Ashtpadiyan (1016-1019)
Anjulian (1019-1020)
Solhe (1020-1033)
Dakhni (1033-1043)
ਰਾਗੁ ਤੁਖਾਰੀ | Raag Tukhaari
Bara Maha (1107-1110)
Chhant (1110-1117)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕੇਦਾਰਾ | Raag Kedara
Gurbani (1118-1123)
Bhagat Bani (1123-1124)
ਰਾਗੁ ਭੈਰਉ | Raag Bhairo
Gurbani (1125-1152)
Partaal (1153)
Ashtpadiyan (1153-1167)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਸੰਤੁ | Raag Basant
Gurbani (1168-1187)
Ashtpadiyan (1187-1193)
Vaar Basant (1193-1196)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਾਰਗ | Raag Saarag
Gurbani (1197-1200)
Partaal (1200-1231)
Ashtpadiyan (1232-1236)
Chhant (1236-1237)
Vaar Saarang (1237-1253)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਲਾਰ | Raag Malaar
Gurbani (1254-1293)
Partaal (1265-1273)
Ashtpadiyan (1273-1278)
Chhant (1278)
Vaar Malaar (1278-91)
Bhagat Bani (1292-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਾਨੜਾ | Raag Kaanraa
Gurbani (1294-96)
Partaal (1296-1318)
Ashtpadiyan (1308-1312)
Chhant (1312)
Vaar Kaanraa
Bhagat Bani (1318)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਲਿਆਨ | Raag Kalyaan
Gurbani (1319-23)
Ashtpadiyan (1323-26)
ਰਾਗੁ ਪ੍ਰਭਾਤੀ | Raag Prabhaatee
Gurbani (1327-1341)
Ashtpadiyan (1342-51)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਜਾਵੰਤੀ | Raag Jaijaiwanti
Gurbani (1352-53)
Salok | Gatha | Phunahe | Chaubole | Swayiye
Sehskritee Mahala 1
Sehskritee Mahala 5
Gaathaa Mahala 5
Phunhay Mahala 5
Chaubolae Mahala 5
Shaloks Bhagat Kabir
Shaloks Sheikh Farid
Swaiyyae Mahala 5
Swaiyyae in Praise of Gurus
Shaloks in Addition To Vaars
Shalok Ninth Mehl
Mundavanee Mehl 5
ਰਾਗ ਮਾਲਾ, Raag Maalaa
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<blockquote data-quote="Mai Harinder Kaur" data-source="post: 146770" data-attributes="member: 3558"><p>The Double Standard says that there are things that I am capable of doing that I am not allowed because of my gender. What these are vary from culture to culture. In Saudi Arabia, a woman is not allowed to drive a car.</p><p></p><p>In Punjab, it says that the female carries the family izzat. She must jealously guard her reputation and, of course, her virginity. Even the perception of impropriety by some enemy is dangerous to her, although she may be completely innocent of any wrongdoing; if even accused, she's likely to be killed by her own family. The male, however, is free to sow his wild oats - and destroy some other family's izzat in the process, should the female become pregnant. He might then - and only then - be in real trouble. Of course, if the other family is of a low caste, her izzat is unimportant and he's home free. She might still be killed though.</p><p></p><p>For me, in the West, it meant that before my marriage, my 7 brothers used to follow me around to be sure I wasn't attacked or something, LOL. It also meant that I was not allowed to pursue my dream of being am astronaut.</p><p></p><p>Clearly, there are differences between males and females beyond size and reproductive organs. The brains function very differently, we now know. I do not see how that can morally be used to not allow half the population to follow their dreams and reach their potential as human beings. </p><p></p><p><em>Oops, my bad! In Punjab, females number considerably less than half the population because of a genocidal programme of both prenatal and postnatal murder of the girl-child. Might this maybe be an indication that there is some flaw in the present system? </em></p><p></p><p>Actually, I was personally very happy being a wife and mother (and running our farm) when I was young. Had not tragedy intervened, I might have been happy doing that even today. I, however, am not all women. </p><p></p><p>I have never understood this male reluctance to let fulfill our potential. I have repeatedly observed that many men get really threatened by this. </p><p></p><p>What are you men afraid of, anyway? Is it a power thing? Is your self-esteem (ego) so tied up in controlling women that you would rather she be half a person than the person she was created to be? Surely her Creator wouldn't give her all these talents if she wasn't meant to use them. Or is it that you don't want to give up having a cook, maid, governess, housekeeper, chauffeur, sex partner and, nowadays, wage earner at your beck and call? </p><p></p><p>Has it ever occurred to you that what you will get in return, is a happy, confident, interesting life partner? I'd think that might be a worthwhile trade off.</p><p></p><p>My Dad - a very progressive, intelligent gentleman, a grand old Khalsa, now dead - used to tell me, "There are all sorts of things society won't let you do because you're a woman. There are many things you cannot do because you lack the ability. But there is only one thing you really cannot do because you're a woman. You cannot father a child!" The last always with a huge laugh. </p><p></p><p>Perhaps he should have added "grow facial hair!" Come to think of it though, I do have a small moustache and a few stray chin hairs. </p><p></p><p>"And ain't I a woman?"</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mai Harinder Kaur, post: 146770, member: 3558"] The Double Standard says that there are things that I am capable of doing that I am not allowed because of my gender. What these are vary from culture to culture. In Saudi Arabia, a woman is not allowed to drive a car. In Punjab, it says that the female carries the family izzat. She must jealously guard her reputation and, of course, her virginity. Even the perception of impropriety by some enemy is dangerous to her, although she may be completely innocent of any wrongdoing; if even accused, she's likely to be killed by her own family. The male, however, is free to sow his wild oats - and destroy some other family's izzat in the process, should the female become pregnant. He might then - and only then - be in real trouble. Of course, if the other family is of a low caste, her izzat is unimportant and he's home free. She might still be killed though. For me, in the West, it meant that before my marriage, my 7 brothers used to follow me around to be sure I wasn't attacked or something, LOL. It also meant that I was not allowed to pursue my dream of being am astronaut. Clearly, there are differences between males and females beyond size and reproductive organs. The brains function very differently, we now know. I do not see how that can morally be used to not allow half the population to follow their dreams and reach their potential as human beings. [I]Oops, my bad! In Punjab, females number considerably less than half the population because of a genocidal programme of both prenatal and postnatal murder of the girl-child. Might this maybe be an indication that there is some flaw in the present system? [/I] Actually, I was personally very happy being a wife and mother (and running our farm) when I was young. Had not tragedy intervened, I might have been happy doing that even today. I, however, am not all women. I have never understood this male reluctance to let fulfill our potential. I have repeatedly observed that many men get really threatened by this. What are you men afraid of, anyway? Is it a power thing? Is your self-esteem (ego) so tied up in controlling women that you would rather she be half a person than the person she was created to be? Surely her Creator wouldn't give her all these talents if she wasn't meant to use them. Or is it that you don't want to give up having a cook, maid, governess, housekeeper, chauffeur, sex partner and, nowadays, wage earner at your beck and call? Has it ever occurred to you that what you will get in return, is a happy, confident, interesting life partner? I'd think that might be a worthwhile trade off. My Dad - a very progressive, intelligent gentleman, a grand old Khalsa, now dead - used to tell me, "There are all sorts of things society won't let you do because you're a woman. There are many things you cannot do because you lack the ability. But there is only one thing you really cannot do because you're a woman. You cannot father a child!" The last always with a huge laugh. Perhaps he should have added "grow facial hair!" Come to think of it though, I do have a small moustache and a few stray chin hairs. "And ain't I a woman?" [/QUOTE]
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