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How do I edit previous posts? Or is that feature disabled? Thank you

for anyone wondering, the whole "keep calm every time you speak to your parents" idea, suggested towards the start of this thread, is highly ineffective...I've been extremely calm this entire time. they, on the other hand.... today, I made another attempt at explaining my issue, but they...

"I just hope that your rage against your folks is not blinding you of the consequences that are to come." It may be to an extent. The length of my dhari is something that I, personally, have to come to terms with. When it was longer, before I began covertly cutting it, I would avoid looking at...

I used to gel it and press it down, but it's really thick and long. If I left it uncut, it would reach past my chest by now.

I've mentioned my reasoning several times throughout this thread. I don't like my dhari, and I am going through this seemingly endless cycle of guilt whenever I cut it. I don't think I'm ever going to like my dhari (at least not any time soon) and I hate living through this endless cycle of...

"As I understand it, keeping hair means you get money and a car, losing the hair, your on your own." At this point, I can say, no, that's not really the case. That was just a fear tactic employed by my parents.

"I think obviously if he even has to question whether he wants to cut it makes him unworthy of being a religion law abiding Sikh." Not trying to sound mean here, but who is anyone else to judge whether or not I am a Sikh? Isn't the relationship between a Sikh and his Guru determined by the Guru...

thank you, Inderjeet ji! Tell Ravi ji I said thank you and I really appreciate the offer, but due to scholastic and work commitments, I won't be able to accept it. (haha, I never thought I'd get a trip to Haiti out of this conversation) I'm still confused, but I received more lecturing from...

I appreciate all the feedback and contributions that everyone has been making. I would have responded a little sooner, but for some reason, my email didn't inform of the subsequent replies. As of now, I think I'm more confused than ever. I don't know whether that's a good or bad thing and I'm...

I finally built up the courage to speak about this with my mom last night. She gave me the whole "don't come back home if you cut your dhari/hair," and the "if you want to cut your hair, don't expect to live here, I'll take away your car and credit cards." line. I called her today to say Happy...

I'm home from school and there's this rush of fear that I have to deal with it. Usually, I fear going home from school breaks because whenever I do, I always get the notion that my family will realize that I'm cutting my dhari. I never told them I am, and usually always tell them I'm gelling it...

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I saw that video a few days ago

LuckySingh ji, you are absolutely correct. that is exactly how I feel. thank you for your post.

TigerstyleZ ji, Thanks for sharing that story. This issue is, that I no longer feel comfortable with my identity. It's not that others don't. Harry ji, Thank you. I don't ever see myself doing any of the things you mentioned, twenty years down the road, but I don't see the point in keeping...