Here's How you meditate:
First, you learn to love and care for those around you, they come first. Neglecting them to meditate (or anything else for that matter,) is fruitless.
Next, you cultivate love.
Then, it happens.
. sorry bro, but there is no ka-boom meditation that will automatically result in some higher understanding, you gotta live in life, face the challenges in front of you, attempt to understand and then, with an experience or two, it may be one near death, you realise that you actually ARE cared for, something Is watching over you, and that your ultimate purpose is to Serve Others, as YOU have been served from Day 1, at any given point there's been at least One person in your life watching over you, acknowledge that, and accept that above all, THAT Is your highest calling and one that will bear any real fruit. there is no bypassing Service to garner some rewards for meditation,... Live righteously, remember God, and do your best int he situations put in front of you. Yes, you will get screwed, people will use you, some bad things will happen... but at the end of the day, they're Learning experiences, you can't hide away your heart and attempt to live life another way, you gotta be present in the moment, for whatever comes, joy hurt pain...