Forgive me if I misunderstand your point of view and words. I have followed this thread from 2006. The above discussion does not take on a different direction but takes it to a different level. The question at the bottom of the question is whether Sikh girls -- or anyone else for that matter -- are confused about their Sikhism as an identity. That has lead much later in the thread -- at this moment -- to an important question. Does one overcome confusion from the outside in or the inside out? An important question I think. In other words -- Does anyone overcome confusion only when society, parents, family "straighten" you out with better education, models, indoctrination, psychotherapy, support groups, or strict discipline? Or do we overcome confusion once we have found our moral center and have been able to create order within? Do families help their children more by giving them a spiritual light to guide them and encourage moral reflection and self-knowledge?   Posted by... aad0002 (Topic: "Sikh Girls: A Confused Lot. Are Parents To Blame?")