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ਜਪੁ | Jup
ਸੋ ਦਰੁ | So Dar
ਸੋਹਿਲਾ | Sohilaa
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਿਰੀਰਾਗੁ | Raag Siree-Raag
Gurbani (14-53)
Ashtpadiyan (53-71)
Gurbani (71-74)
Pahre (74-78)
Chhant (78-81)
Vanjara (81-82)
Vaar Siri Raag (83-91)
Bhagat Bani (91-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਝ | Raag Maajh
Gurbani (94-109)
Ashtpadi (109)
Ashtpadiyan (110-129)
Ashtpadi (129-130)
Ashtpadiyan (130-133)
Bara Maha (133-136)
Din Raen (136-137)
Vaar Maajh Ki (137-150)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗਉੜੀ | Raag Gauree
Gurbani (151-185)
Quartets/Couplets (185-220)
Ashtpadiyan (220-234)
Karhalei (234-235)
Ashtpadiyan (235-242)
Chhant (242-249)
Baavan Akhari (250-262)
Sukhmani (262-296)
Thittee (296-300)
Gauree kii Vaar (300-323)
Gurbani (323-330)
Ashtpadiyan (330-340)
Baavan Akhari (340-343)
Thintteen (343-344)
Vaar Kabir (344-345)
Bhagat Bani (345-346)
ਰਾਗੁ ਆਸਾ | Raag Aasaa
Gurbani (347-348)
Chaupaday (348-364)
Panchpadde (364-365)
Kaafee (365-409)
Aasaavaree (409-411)
Ashtpadiyan (411-432)
Patee (432-435)
Chhant (435-462)
Vaar Aasaa (462-475)
Bhagat Bani (475-488)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੂਜਰੀ | Raag Goojaree
Gurbani (489-503)
Ashtpadiyan (503-508)
Vaar Gujari (508-517)
Vaar Gujari (517-526)
ਰਾਗੁ ਦੇਵਗੰਧਾਰੀ | Raag Dayv-Gandhaaree
Gurbani (527-536)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਹਾਗੜਾ | Raag Bihaagraa
Gurbani (537-556)
Chhant (538-548)
Vaar Bihaagraa (548-556)
ਰਾਗੁ ਵਡਹੰਸ | Raag Wadhans
Gurbani (557-564)
Ashtpadiyan (564-565)
Chhant (565-575)
Ghoriaan (575-578)
Alaahaniiaa (578-582)
Vaar Wadhans (582-594)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੋਰਠਿ | Raag Sorath
Gurbani (595-634)
Asatpadhiya (634-642)
Vaar Sorath (642-659)
ਰਾਗੁ ਧਨਾਸਰੀ | Raag Dhanasaree
Gurbani (660-685)
Astpadhiya (685-687)
Chhant (687-691)
Bhagat Bani (691-695)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਤਸਰੀ | Raag Jaitsree
Gurbani (696-703)
Chhant (703-705)
Vaar Jaitsaree (705-710)
Bhagat Bani (710)
ਰਾਗੁ ਟੋਡੀ | Raag Todee
ਰਾਗੁ ਬੈਰਾੜੀ | Raag Bairaaree
ਰਾਗੁ ਤਿਲੰਗ | Raag Tilang
Gurbani (721-727)
Bhagat Bani (727)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੂਹੀ | Raag Suhi
Gurbani (728-750)
Ashtpadiyan (750-761)
Kaafee (761-762)
Suchajee (762)
Gunvantee (763)
Chhant (763-785)
Vaar Soohee (785-792)
Bhagat Bani (792-794)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਲਾਵਲੁ | Raag Bilaaval
Gurbani (795-831)
Ashtpadiyan (831-838)
Thitteen (838-840)
Vaar Sat (841-843)
Chhant (843-848)
Vaar Bilaaval (849-855)
Bhagat Bani (855-858)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੋਂਡ | Raag Gond
Gurbani (859-869)
Ashtpadiyan (869)
Bhagat Bani (870-875)
ਰਾਗੁ ਰਾਮਕਲੀ | Raag Ramkalee
Ashtpadiyan (902-916)
Gurbani (876-902)
Anand (917-922)
Sadd (923-924)
Chhant (924-929)
Dakhnee (929-938)
Sidh Gosat (938-946)
Vaar Ramkalee (947-968)
ਰਾਗੁ ਨਟ ਨਾਰਾਇਨ | Raag Nat Narayan
Gurbani (975-980)
Ashtpadiyan (980-983)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਲੀ ਗਉੜਾ | Raag Maalee Gauraa
Gurbani (984-988)
Bhagat Bani (988)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਰੂ | Raag Maaroo
Gurbani (889-1008)
Ashtpadiyan (1008-1014)
Kaafee (1014-1016)
Ashtpadiyan (1016-1019)
Anjulian (1019-1020)
Solhe (1020-1033)
Dakhni (1033-1043)
ਰਾਗੁ ਤੁਖਾਰੀ | Raag Tukhaari
Bara Maha (1107-1110)
Chhant (1110-1117)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕੇਦਾਰਾ | Raag Kedara
Gurbani (1118-1123)
Bhagat Bani (1123-1124)
ਰਾਗੁ ਭੈਰਉ | Raag Bhairo
Gurbani (1125-1152)
Partaal (1153)
Ashtpadiyan (1153-1167)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਸੰਤੁ | Raag Basant
Gurbani (1168-1187)
Ashtpadiyan (1187-1193)
Vaar Basant (1193-1196)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਾਰਗ | Raag Saarag
Gurbani (1197-1200)
Partaal (1200-1231)
Ashtpadiyan (1232-1236)
Chhant (1236-1237)
Vaar Saarang (1237-1253)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਲਾਰ | Raag Malaar
Gurbani (1254-1293)
Partaal (1265-1273)
Ashtpadiyan (1273-1278)
Chhant (1278)
Vaar Malaar (1278-91)
Bhagat Bani (1292-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਾਨੜਾ | Raag Kaanraa
Gurbani (1294-96)
Partaal (1296-1318)
Ashtpadiyan (1308-1312)
Chhant (1312)
Vaar Kaanraa
Bhagat Bani (1318)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਲਿਆਨ | Raag Kalyaan
Gurbani (1319-23)
Ashtpadiyan (1323-26)
ਰਾਗੁ ਪ੍ਰਭਾਤੀ | Raag Prabhaatee
Gurbani (1327-1341)
Ashtpadiyan (1342-51)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਜਾਵੰਤੀ | Raag Jaijaiwanti
Gurbani (1352-53)
Salok | Gatha | Phunahe | Chaubole | Swayiye
Sehskritee Mahala 1
Sehskritee Mahala 5
Gaathaa Mahala 5
Phunhay Mahala 5
Chaubolae Mahala 5
Shaloks Bhagat Kabir
Shaloks Sheikh Farid
Swaiyyae Mahala 5
Swaiyyae in Praise of Gurus
Shaloks in Addition To Vaars
Shalok Ninth Mehl
Mundavanee Mehl 5
ਰਾਗ ਮਾਲਾ, Raag Maalaa
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<blockquote data-quote="namritanevaeh" data-source="post: 193869" data-attributes="member: 18793"><p><strong>Re: Why Don't Sikh Girls Want To Marry Sikh Guys? Solution.</strong></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I've loved a couple of men from Sikh background. I would again (their choice to leave, not mine). I would have no problem, I have come to realise, with the idea of dating a man wearing a turban. When growing up, I was always attracted to bald guys, I don't know why. Long hair never attracted me. But I have realised with age that things grow on you when you are exposed to them enough. I am still fine with bald guys. I'm not Sikh myself but with a very healthy respect for the religion, if there was a man who was interested in me who wore a turban and had long hair...if he was a kind caring individual who I got along with, I would be fine with it. I would not necessarily stop cutting MY hair as I do not think I would ever "convert" to being Sikh but I'm very very open to going to a gurdwara regularly, adopting many Sikh practices in general, as well as like I say respecting Sikh people, learning about them, the culture, the language, the religion...I find it all fascinating. what I find fascinating partly is how often people talk about the cultures being "different" and yet...really they're so very similar too in many ways. If we all learned a bit more about each other's culture we'd see it more, each and every one of us. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p></p><p>Sadly, it seems there is a fair lot of shame associated in bringing home a gori and not just amongst guys who don't shave. But I know there are decent guys out there who are willing to go above and beyond culture and say "hey it's ok for me to care about someone who isn't Sikh even if I am"...I've met one or two. Obviously they're already taken hahaha. ;-)</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>This is true, that men and women look for different qualities, but I think likely from your pseudonym you are a guy? ;-) I don't disagree that men go for physical beauty and THEN tend to get to know someone they find appealing where women do almost the opposite. That is where I kind of slightly diverge from your opinion. Some women may look for what you say, others not. I don't care so much about dominance, commanding/leadership at all. I care about friendliness, caring, honesty (that is a BIG one) and not being a control freak (I was married to one of those...not anymore). Seriously, the guy who spends a lot of time showing me how much I mean to him by way of frequent messages, spending quality time together doing stuff you do with good friends...THAT is the kind of guy I end up falling for, and once I am well enamoured with his brain/personality, it's not just that the looks matter less, but additionally, things you might have found less appealing to begin with all of a sudden are MORE appealing, or turn you on. Twist of the head, gap between the front teeth, funny shaped thumb nail...doesn't matter what it is. If you care about the PERSON you incorporate those small details to be "cute" or "attractive" in your view, rather than bothersome. Also, time and again, I find myself second guessing my own thoughts on things and realising my own prejudices sometimes. Case in mind, I always said to myself I would NEVER be comfortable dating someone more than 5-6 years in difference in age from myself. When it happened, with a much larger age gap...all of a sudden, I made peace with it. Some might say I made excuses and rationalized it to myself...call it what you will. It DID bother me to begin with...but I did some soul searching and asked myself WHY it bothered me. One of my best female friends is a very many years different in age than I am and we get along GREAT. Why should it be any differently with a guy? Finally, when I realised my "reasons" were just "excuses", I made peace with it.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Is the main goal "getting" a woman in life? What about friendship and companionship? ;-)</p><p></p><p>I don't disagree with dressing well, in general (except when doing house renovations, gardening, etc. ;-)), getting fit, reading scripture if it suits you, but what a woman needs and what she wants may well be very tightly intertwined. Don't forget women are complex creatures from Venus ;-) and half of the time we don't know ourselves what we want ;-) and certainly no more what we need either. ;-)</p><p></p><p> </p><p></p><p></p><p>I have accomplished this fine; I don't watch much of anything. ;-) Occasionally go to see a movie, fine, but really, I study (Punjabi of course! ;-)) more than anything else in my free time. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite7" alt=":p" title="Stick Out Tongue :p" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":p" /></p><p> </p><p> </p><p><img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="namritanevaeh, post: 193869, member: 18793"] [b]Re: Why Don't Sikh Girls Want To Marry Sikh Guys? Solution.[/b] I've loved a couple of men from Sikh background. I would again (their choice to leave, not mine). I would have no problem, I have come to realise, with the idea of dating a man wearing a turban. When growing up, I was always attracted to bald guys, I don't know why. Long hair never attracted me. But I have realised with age that things grow on you when you are exposed to them enough. I am still fine with bald guys. I'm not Sikh myself but with a very healthy respect for the religion, if there was a man who was interested in me who wore a turban and had long hair...if he was a kind caring individual who I got along with, I would be fine with it. I would not necessarily stop cutting MY hair as I do not think I would ever "convert" to being Sikh but I'm very very open to going to a gurdwara regularly, adopting many Sikh practices in general, as well as like I say respecting Sikh people, learning about them, the culture, the language, the religion...I find it all fascinating. what I find fascinating partly is how often people talk about the cultures being "different" and yet...really they're so very similar too in many ways. If we all learned a bit more about each other's culture we'd see it more, each and every one of us. :-) Sadly, it seems there is a fair lot of shame associated in bringing home a gori and not just amongst guys who don't shave. But I know there are decent guys out there who are willing to go above and beyond culture and say "hey it's ok for me to care about someone who isn't Sikh even if I am"...I've met one or two. Obviously they're already taken hahaha. ;-) This is true, that men and women look for different qualities, but I think likely from your pseudonym you are a guy? ;-) I don't disagree that men go for physical beauty and THEN tend to get to know someone they find appealing where women do almost the opposite. That is where I kind of slightly diverge from your opinion. Some women may look for what you say, others not. I don't care so much about dominance, commanding/leadership at all. I care about friendliness, caring, honesty (that is a BIG one) and not being a control freak (I was married to one of those...not anymore). Seriously, the guy who spends a lot of time showing me how much I mean to him by way of frequent messages, spending quality time together doing stuff you do with good friends...THAT is the kind of guy I end up falling for, and once I am well enamoured with his brain/personality, it's not just that the looks matter less, but additionally, things you might have found less appealing to begin with all of a sudden are MORE appealing, or turn you on. Twist of the head, gap between the front teeth, funny shaped thumb nail...doesn't matter what it is. If you care about the PERSON you incorporate those small details to be "cute" or "attractive" in your view, rather than bothersome. Also, time and again, I find myself second guessing my own thoughts on things and realising my own prejudices sometimes. Case in mind, I always said to myself I would NEVER be comfortable dating someone more than 5-6 years in difference in age from myself. When it happened, with a much larger age gap...all of a sudden, I made peace with it. Some might say I made excuses and rationalized it to myself...call it what you will. It DID bother me to begin with...but I did some soul searching and asked myself WHY it bothered me. One of my best female friends is a very many years different in age than I am and we get along GREAT. Why should it be any differently with a guy? Finally, when I realised my "reasons" were just "excuses", I made peace with it. Is the main goal "getting" a woman in life? What about friendship and companionship? ;-) I don't disagree with dressing well, in general (except when doing house renovations, gardening, etc. ;-)), getting fit, reading scripture if it suits you, but what a woman needs and what she wants may well be very tightly intertwined. Don't forget women are complex creatures from Venus ;-) and half of the time we don't know ourselves what we want ;-) and certainly no more what we need either. ;-) I have accomplished this fine; I don't watch much of anything. ;-) Occasionally go to see a movie, fine, but really, I study (Punjabi of course! ;-)) more than anything else in my free time. :-P :-) [/QUOTE]
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