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Gurbani (14-53)
Ashtpadiyan (53-71)
Gurbani (71-74)
Pahre (74-78)
Chhant (78-81)
Vanjara (81-82)
Vaar Siri Raag (83-91)
Bhagat Bani (91-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਝ | Raag Maajh
Gurbani (94-109)
Ashtpadi (109)
Ashtpadiyan (110-129)
Ashtpadi (129-130)
Ashtpadiyan (130-133)
Bara Maha (133-136)
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ਰਾਗੁ ਗਉੜੀ | Raag Gauree
Gurbani (151-185)
Quartets/Couplets (185-220)
Ashtpadiyan (220-234)
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ਰਾਗੁ ਆਸਾ | Raag Aasaa
Gurbani (347-348)
Chaupaday (348-364)
Panchpadde (364-365)
Kaafee (365-409)
Aasaavaree (409-411)
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Chhant (435-462)
Vaar Aasaa (462-475)
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ਰਾਗੁ ਗੂਜਰੀ | Raag Goojaree
Gurbani (489-503)
Ashtpadiyan (503-508)
Vaar Gujari (508-517)
Vaar Gujari (517-526)
ਰਾਗੁ ਦੇਵਗੰਧਾਰੀ | Raag Dayv-Gandhaaree
Gurbani (527-536)
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Gurbani (537-556)
Chhant (538-548)
Vaar Bihaagraa (548-556)
ਰਾਗੁ ਵਡਹੰਸ | Raag Wadhans
Gurbani (557-564)
Ashtpadiyan (564-565)
Chhant (565-575)
Ghoriaan (575-578)
Alaahaniiaa (578-582)
Vaar Wadhans (582-594)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੋਰਠਿ | Raag Sorath
Gurbani (595-634)
Asatpadhiya (634-642)
Vaar Sorath (642-659)
ਰਾਗੁ ਧਨਾਸਰੀ | Raag Dhanasaree
Gurbani (660-685)
Astpadhiya (685-687)
Chhant (687-691)
Bhagat Bani (691-695)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਤਸਰੀ | Raag Jaitsree
Gurbani (696-703)
Chhant (703-705)
Vaar Jaitsaree (705-710)
Bhagat Bani (710)
ਰਾਗੁ ਟੋਡੀ | Raag Todee
ਰਾਗੁ ਬੈਰਾੜੀ | Raag Bairaaree
ਰਾਗੁ ਤਿਲੰਗ | Raag Tilang
Gurbani (721-727)
Bhagat Bani (727)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੂਹੀ | Raag Suhi
Gurbani (728-750)
Ashtpadiyan (750-761)
Kaafee (761-762)
Suchajee (762)
Gunvantee (763)
Chhant (763-785)
Vaar Soohee (785-792)
Bhagat Bani (792-794)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਲਾਵਲੁ | Raag Bilaaval
Gurbani (795-831)
Ashtpadiyan (831-838)
Thitteen (838-840)
Vaar Sat (841-843)
Chhant (843-848)
Vaar Bilaaval (849-855)
Bhagat Bani (855-858)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੋਂਡ | Raag Gond
Gurbani (859-869)
Ashtpadiyan (869)
Bhagat Bani (870-875)
ਰਾਗੁ ਰਾਮਕਲੀ | Raag Ramkalee
Ashtpadiyan (902-916)
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Anand (917-922)
Sadd (923-924)
Chhant (924-929)
Dakhnee (929-938)
Sidh Gosat (938-946)
Vaar Ramkalee (947-968)
ਰਾਗੁ ਨਟ ਨਾਰਾਇਨ | Raag Nat Narayan
Gurbani (975-980)
Ashtpadiyan (980-983)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਲੀ ਗਉੜਾ | Raag Maalee Gauraa
Gurbani (984-988)
Bhagat Bani (988)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਰੂ | Raag Maaroo
Gurbani (889-1008)
Ashtpadiyan (1008-1014)
Kaafee (1014-1016)
Ashtpadiyan (1016-1019)
Anjulian (1019-1020)
Solhe (1020-1033)
Dakhni (1033-1043)
ਰਾਗੁ ਤੁਖਾਰੀ | Raag Tukhaari
Bara Maha (1107-1110)
Chhant (1110-1117)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕੇਦਾਰਾ | Raag Kedara
Gurbani (1118-1123)
Bhagat Bani (1123-1124)
ਰਾਗੁ ਭੈਰਉ | Raag Bhairo
Gurbani (1125-1152)
Partaal (1153)
Ashtpadiyan (1153-1167)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਸੰਤੁ | Raag Basant
Gurbani (1168-1187)
Ashtpadiyan (1187-1193)
Vaar Basant (1193-1196)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਾਰਗ | Raag Saarag
Gurbani (1197-1200)
Partaal (1200-1231)
Ashtpadiyan (1232-1236)
Chhant (1236-1237)
Vaar Saarang (1237-1253)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਲਾਰ | Raag Malaar
Gurbani (1254-1293)
Partaal (1265-1273)
Ashtpadiyan (1273-1278)
Chhant (1278)
Vaar Malaar (1278-91)
Bhagat Bani (1292-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਾਨੜਾ | Raag Kaanraa
Gurbani (1294-96)
Partaal (1296-1318)
Ashtpadiyan (1308-1312)
Chhant (1312)
Vaar Kaanraa
Bhagat Bani (1318)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਲਿਆਨ | Raag Kalyaan
Gurbani (1319-23)
Ashtpadiyan (1323-26)
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Gurbani (1327-1341)
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Gurbani (1352-53)
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Swaiyyae in Praise of Gurus
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What I Could Learn From My 'colleagues From Hell'
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<blockquote data-quote="Seeker2013" data-source="post: 209253" data-attributes="member: 19755"><p>What I considered a miraculous blessing from god , didn't apparently came with nice colleagues.</p><p>Most of them are fine ! </p><p></p><p>however a few , and it started with one of those psychos , that has spoilt it for me and has left me with a bitter taste in my mouth not only towards people of this office but people of any future office I may join and people in general ! People are judgemental and mean .</p><p></p><p>Anyways , I will not go into much detail about why they did what they did (verbal abuse , etc).</p><p>They said they did it because they felt I was too introvert-ish and self-centered and wanted to "improve" me. My question is "Do you rectify faults in adults by outlandish insulting them in public ?"</p><p>And that only made me more rebellious . I said "I won't improve. I am going to continue as nasty , naive and whatever about me that {censored}es you off"</p><p>After all, if someone bullied you into being what they want you to be (even if thats good for you), and you become that, the bullies won , right?</p><p></p><p>So I don't wanna give them the feel that they "improved" me.</p><p></p><p>However , considering that I have had very little friends in my lifetime, I wonder what is it that prevents me from forming social bonds with people. And why is it so hard time for me to make few decent friends . You know the ones I can go out and watch the movies with, etc .</p><p></p><p>My conclusions regarding people</p><p></p><p><strong>1) Bonding or friendship happens only with people who're like you , atleast on some points ! </strong></p><p>Two jerks will make nice friends because they're nasty people. Nasty people like nasty people. Hence these 2 jerks are closest friends. <em><strong>Guys who're into cricket will easily bond with guys who play cricket too . And ofcourse most guys keep talking about girls all the time. This is what makes me uncomfortable and alienated. I feel I don't know how to play cricket or because I don't share same sexual interest, thats why I have a hard time making friends with guys.</strong></em></p><p><em><strong></strong></em></p><p><strong>2) You have to take a stand if someone pulls you down</strong></p><p>If you don't , it won't be long before everyone can "see" you're the one they can beat. Very soon, before you even realize ! , you will be the butt of everyone's jokes and ofcourse they know they can get away with it because you won't do anything ! Even the most cheapest of people will pull you down !</p><p>This is what happened in my job . This psycho made my life hell , and then a new guy joins in february and he's all silent and friendly until he sees I was made the buffoon ! Soon, this guy becomes a devil in its own and now he's the biggest of the enemies I have in my workplace.</p><p><strong>People will make inference about you from other people's behavior towards you and their inference decides how they treat you !</strong></p><p></p><p></p><p><strong>3) How you respond is important !</strong></p><p>Don't respond in a way that they can leverage it against you. Don't show a middle finger to someone who harasses you. Middle finger hardly makes a difference . And infact in future if you wish to report them to workplace, police or whatever, atleast you would have a cleaner slate ! they can't then say "he showed me the middle finger too! so its equal"</p><p></p><p>Well atleast thats much I did learn . </p><p></p><p>I still have a hard time making friends . I don't even know how to . <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Seeker2013, post: 209253, member: 19755"] What I considered a miraculous blessing from god , didn't apparently came with nice colleagues. Most of them are fine ! however a few , and it started with one of those psychos , that has spoilt it for me and has left me with a bitter taste in my mouth not only towards people of this office but people of any future office I may join and people in general ! People are judgemental and mean . Anyways , I will not go into much detail about why they did what they did (verbal abuse , etc). They said they did it because they felt I was too introvert-ish and self-centered and wanted to "improve" me. My question is "Do you rectify faults in adults by outlandish insulting them in public ?" And that only made me more rebellious . I said "I won't improve. I am going to continue as nasty , naive and whatever about me that {censored}es you off" After all, if someone bullied you into being what they want you to be (even if thats good for you), and you become that, the bullies won , right? So I don't wanna give them the feel that they "improved" me. However , considering that I have had very little friends in my lifetime, I wonder what is it that prevents me from forming social bonds with people. And why is it so hard time for me to make few decent friends . You know the ones I can go out and watch the movies with, etc . My conclusions regarding people [B]1) Bonding or friendship happens only with people who're like you , atleast on some points ! [/B] Two jerks will make nice friends because they're nasty people. Nasty people like nasty people. Hence these 2 jerks are closest friends. [I][B]Guys who're into cricket will easily bond with guys who play cricket too . And ofcourse most guys keep talking about girls all the time. This is what makes me uncomfortable and alienated. I feel I don't know how to play cricket or because I don't share same sexual interest, thats why I have a hard time making friends with guys. [/B][/I] [B]2) You have to take a stand if someone pulls you down[/B] If you don't , it won't be long before everyone can "see" you're the one they can beat. Very soon, before you even realize ! , you will be the butt of everyone's jokes and ofcourse they know they can get away with it because you won't do anything ! Even the most cheapest of people will pull you down ! This is what happened in my job . This psycho made my life hell , and then a new guy joins in february and he's all silent and friendly until he sees I was made the buffoon ! Soon, this guy becomes a devil in its own and now he's the biggest of the enemies I have in my workplace. [B]People will make inference about you from other people's behavior towards you and their inference decides how they treat you ![/B] [B]3) How you respond is important ![/B] Don't respond in a way that they can leverage it against you. Don't show a middle finger to someone who harasses you. Middle finger hardly makes a difference . And infact in future if you wish to report them to workplace, police or whatever, atleast you would have a cleaner slate ! they can't then say "he showed me the middle finger too! so its equal" Well atleast thats much I did learn . I still have a hard time making friends . I don't even know how to . :( [/QUOTE]
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