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ਸੋ ਦਰੁ | So Dar
ਸੋਹਿਲਾ | Sohilaa
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਿਰੀਰਾਗੁ | Raag Siree-Raag
Gurbani (14-53)
Ashtpadiyan (53-71)
Gurbani (71-74)
Pahre (74-78)
Chhant (78-81)
Vanjara (81-82)
Vaar Siri Raag (83-91)
Bhagat Bani (91-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਝ | Raag Maajh
Gurbani (94-109)
Ashtpadi (109)
Ashtpadiyan (110-129)
Ashtpadi (129-130)
Ashtpadiyan (130-133)
Bara Maha (133-136)
Din Raen (136-137)
Vaar Maajh Ki (137-150)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗਉੜੀ | Raag Gauree
Gurbani (151-185)
Quartets/Couplets (185-220)
Ashtpadiyan (220-234)
Karhalei (234-235)
Ashtpadiyan (235-242)
Chhant (242-249)
Baavan Akhari (250-262)
Sukhmani (262-296)
Thittee (296-300)
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Gurbani (323-330)
Ashtpadiyan (330-340)
Baavan Akhari (340-343)
Thintteen (343-344)
Vaar Kabir (344-345)
Bhagat Bani (345-346)
ਰਾਗੁ ਆਸਾ | Raag Aasaa
Gurbani (347-348)
Chaupaday (348-364)
Panchpadde (364-365)
Kaafee (365-409)
Aasaavaree (409-411)
Ashtpadiyan (411-432)
Patee (432-435)
Chhant (435-462)
Vaar Aasaa (462-475)
Bhagat Bani (475-488)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੂਜਰੀ | Raag Goojaree
Gurbani (489-503)
Ashtpadiyan (503-508)
Vaar Gujari (508-517)
Vaar Gujari (517-526)
ਰਾਗੁ ਦੇਵਗੰਧਾਰੀ | Raag Dayv-Gandhaaree
Gurbani (527-536)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਹਾਗੜਾ | Raag Bihaagraa
Gurbani (537-556)
Chhant (538-548)
Vaar Bihaagraa (548-556)
ਰਾਗੁ ਵਡਹੰਸ | Raag Wadhans
Gurbani (557-564)
Ashtpadiyan (564-565)
Chhant (565-575)
Ghoriaan (575-578)
Alaahaniiaa (578-582)
Vaar Wadhans (582-594)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੋਰਠਿ | Raag Sorath
Gurbani (595-634)
Asatpadhiya (634-642)
Vaar Sorath (642-659)
ਰਾਗੁ ਧਨਾਸਰੀ | Raag Dhanasaree
Gurbani (660-685)
Astpadhiya (685-687)
Chhant (687-691)
Bhagat Bani (691-695)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਤਸਰੀ | Raag Jaitsree
Gurbani (696-703)
Chhant (703-705)
Vaar Jaitsaree (705-710)
Bhagat Bani (710)
ਰਾਗੁ ਟੋਡੀ | Raag Todee
ਰਾਗੁ ਬੈਰਾੜੀ | Raag Bairaaree
ਰਾਗੁ ਤਿਲੰਗ | Raag Tilang
Gurbani (721-727)
Bhagat Bani (727)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੂਹੀ | Raag Suhi
Gurbani (728-750)
Ashtpadiyan (750-761)
Kaafee (761-762)
Suchajee (762)
Gunvantee (763)
Chhant (763-785)
Vaar Soohee (785-792)
Bhagat Bani (792-794)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਲਾਵਲੁ | Raag Bilaaval
Gurbani (795-831)
Ashtpadiyan (831-838)
Thitteen (838-840)
Vaar Sat (841-843)
Chhant (843-848)
Vaar Bilaaval (849-855)
Bhagat Bani (855-858)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੋਂਡ | Raag Gond
Gurbani (859-869)
Ashtpadiyan (869)
Bhagat Bani (870-875)
ਰਾਗੁ ਰਾਮਕਲੀ | Raag Ramkalee
Ashtpadiyan (902-916)
Gurbani (876-902)
Anand (917-922)
Sadd (923-924)
Chhant (924-929)
Dakhnee (929-938)
Sidh Gosat (938-946)
Vaar Ramkalee (947-968)
ਰਾਗੁ ਨਟ ਨਾਰਾਇਨ | Raag Nat Narayan
Gurbani (975-980)
Ashtpadiyan (980-983)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਲੀ ਗਉੜਾ | Raag Maalee Gauraa
Gurbani (984-988)
Bhagat Bani (988)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਰੂ | Raag Maaroo
Gurbani (889-1008)
Ashtpadiyan (1008-1014)
Kaafee (1014-1016)
Ashtpadiyan (1016-1019)
Anjulian (1019-1020)
Solhe (1020-1033)
Dakhni (1033-1043)
ਰਾਗੁ ਤੁਖਾਰੀ | Raag Tukhaari
Bara Maha (1107-1110)
Chhant (1110-1117)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕੇਦਾਰਾ | Raag Kedara
Gurbani (1118-1123)
Bhagat Bani (1123-1124)
ਰਾਗੁ ਭੈਰਉ | Raag Bhairo
Gurbani (1125-1152)
Partaal (1153)
Ashtpadiyan (1153-1167)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਸੰਤੁ | Raag Basant
Gurbani (1168-1187)
Ashtpadiyan (1187-1193)
Vaar Basant (1193-1196)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਾਰਗ | Raag Saarag
Gurbani (1197-1200)
Partaal (1200-1231)
Ashtpadiyan (1232-1236)
Chhant (1236-1237)
Vaar Saarang (1237-1253)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਲਾਰ | Raag Malaar
Gurbani (1254-1293)
Partaal (1265-1273)
Ashtpadiyan (1273-1278)
Chhant (1278)
Vaar Malaar (1278-91)
Bhagat Bani (1292-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਾਨੜਾ | Raag Kaanraa
Gurbani (1294-96)
Partaal (1296-1318)
Ashtpadiyan (1308-1312)
Chhant (1312)
Vaar Kaanraa
Bhagat Bani (1318)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਲਿਆਨ | Raag Kalyaan
Gurbani (1319-23)
Ashtpadiyan (1323-26)
ਰਾਗੁ ਪ੍ਰਭਾਤੀ | Raag Prabhaatee
Gurbani (1327-1341)
Ashtpadiyan (1342-51)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਜਾਵੰਤੀ | Raag Jaijaiwanti
Gurbani (1352-53)
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Sehskritee Mahala 1
Sehskritee Mahala 5
Gaathaa Mahala 5
Phunhay Mahala 5
Chaubolae Mahala 5
Shaloks Bhagat Kabir
Shaloks Sheikh Farid
Swaiyyae Mahala 5
Swaiyyae in Praise of Gurus
Shaloks in Addition To Vaars
Shalok Ninth Mehl
Mundavanee Mehl 5
ਰਾਗ ਮਾਲਾ, Raag Maalaa
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<blockquote data-quote="GushK" data-source="post: 14207" data-attributes="member: 441"><p>I think this is the very point that dear Vijaydeep and Dr Khalsa have been trying to make.</p><p>I think many poeple here are confusing the idea of the general concept of reaching out to the sikh community and making sure people don't </p><p>feel alienated or abandoned, with the sacred union of marriage. Both require hugely different levels of commitment and that's the crux of </p><p>this issue.</p><p>Once one reads and understands the stanzas of the 4 Laavan you will see that the commitment, both to Waheguru and your partner, is almost at </p><p>the level of being blessed with Amrit and becoming part of the Khalsa Panth.</p><p>If someone needs guidance, wants to do seva, etc etc and be a part of the Sikh community, they are more than welcome to come forward and join in at their leisure. If they change thier mind tomorrow, that's ok too. All it requires is active participation on their part and encouragement from Gurdwara and community. </p><p></p><p>The issue comes when they decide they want to take it a step further. They wish to be married within the context of the santicty of an Anand </p><p>Karaj but then don't want or don't care to live by that commitment. Guru Sahib has given a HUKAM to Sikhs to refrain from cutting their hair. </p><p>If they cannot abide to such a SIMPLE request, how can they be trusted to live their lives within the framework graced to us by our Guru's? </p><p>Learing to love unconditionally is fine becuase the only requirement is on your own part, but marriage requires commitment from the other </p><p>side too. Being married in an Anand Karaj means commiting youself not just to your partner but to Waheguru too and a promising to follow the </p><p>Sikhi path.</p><p>An interesting example is within my own family. A Distant uncle is getting married soon, to a Gujerati woman and i'm very happy for him. </p><p>But he doesn't follow Sikhi at all. His mother is a devout sikh but he has cut his hair, drinks, and had no idea what it means to be Sikh.</p><p>I know that for him, the Anand Karaj is just for the sake of having Sikh wedding and by the next day it will be back to normal.</p><p>Even my little brother said to me the other day :-</p><p> </p><p>"I feel upset when we go to other weddings and the groom grows his beard for a day or two, then shaves and goes off to a party to get drunk, </p><p>now it looks like it's happening in our own family. Maybe he should just have the register wedding, can you say something to him?"</p><p> </p><p>What do I tell my brother? That its ok for my uncle to be married as a Sikh even though he follows none of the tenants of the religion? or </p><p>he's a good person really, and that's all that matters, so it's ok to have an Anand Karaj. </p><p>Where does that leave the Anand Karaj as an institution designed to encourage and develop your spirituality and sense of commitment?</p><p>In that case then, anyone can be married as a Sikh, whether they consider themselves one or not. By the definition given by menbers here, </p><p>there's no commitment other than that to your spouse...the rest you can just CHOOSE to follow if you feel like.</p><p></p><p>Of course no one is going to ban people from entering a Gurdwara because all that requires of them is to just TURN UP and join in if they </p><p>want to. This should be actively encouraged. But if they want to then turn around and say that "I am a Sikh" and wish to be married as one, </p><p>then they must be prepared to follow those tenants and live as a Sikh too.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="GushK, post: 14207, member: 441"] I think this is the very point that dear Vijaydeep and Dr Khalsa have been trying to make. I think many poeple here are confusing the idea of the general concept of reaching out to the sikh community and making sure people don't feel alienated or abandoned, with the sacred union of marriage. Both require hugely different levels of commitment and that's the crux of this issue. Once one reads and understands the stanzas of the 4 Laavan you will see that the commitment, both to Waheguru and your partner, is almost at the level of being blessed with Amrit and becoming part of the Khalsa Panth. If someone needs guidance, wants to do seva, etc etc and be a part of the Sikh community, they are more than welcome to come forward and join in at their leisure. If they change thier mind tomorrow, that's ok too. All it requires is active participation on their part and encouragement from Gurdwara and community. The issue comes when they decide they want to take it a step further. They wish to be married within the context of the santicty of an Anand Karaj but then don't want or don't care to live by that commitment. Guru Sahib has given a HUKAM to Sikhs to refrain from cutting their hair. If they cannot abide to such a SIMPLE request, how can they be trusted to live their lives within the framework graced to us by our Guru's? Learing to love unconditionally is fine becuase the only requirement is on your own part, but marriage requires commitment from the other side too. Being married in an Anand Karaj means commiting youself not just to your partner but to Waheguru too and a promising to follow the Sikhi path. An interesting example is within my own family. A Distant uncle is getting married soon, to a Gujerati woman and i'm very happy for him. But he doesn't follow Sikhi at all. His mother is a devout sikh but he has cut his hair, drinks, and had no idea what it means to be Sikh. I know that for him, the Anand Karaj is just for the sake of having Sikh wedding and by the next day it will be back to normal. Even my little brother said to me the other day :- "I feel upset when we go to other weddings and the groom grows his beard for a day or two, then shaves and goes off to a party to get drunk, now it looks like it's happening in our own family. Maybe he should just have the register wedding, can you say something to him?" What do I tell my brother? That its ok for my uncle to be married as a Sikh even though he follows none of the tenants of the religion? or he's a good person really, and that's all that matters, so it's ok to have an Anand Karaj. Where does that leave the Anand Karaj as an institution designed to encourage and develop your spirituality and sense of commitment? In that case then, anyone can be married as a Sikh, whether they consider themselves one or not. By the definition given by menbers here, there's no commitment other than that to your spouse...the rest you can just CHOOSE to follow if you feel like. Of course no one is going to ban people from entering a Gurdwara because all that requires of them is to just TURN UP and join in if they want to. This should be actively encouraged. But if they want to then turn around and say that "I am a Sikh" and wish to be married as one, then they must be prepared to follow those tenants and live as a Sikh too. [/QUOTE]
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