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Gurbani (14-53)
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Pahre (74-78)
Chhant (78-81)
Vanjara (81-82)
Vaar Siri Raag (83-91)
Bhagat Bani (91-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਝ | Raag Maajh
Gurbani (94-109)
Ashtpadi (109)
Ashtpadiyan (110-129)
Ashtpadi (129-130)
Ashtpadiyan (130-133)
Bara Maha (133-136)
Din Raen (136-137)
Vaar Maajh Ki (137-150)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗਉੜੀ | Raag Gauree
Gurbani (151-185)
Quartets/Couplets (185-220)
Ashtpadiyan (220-234)
Karhalei (234-235)
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Chhant (242-249)
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Baavan Akhari (340-343)
Thintteen (343-344)
Vaar Kabir (344-345)
Bhagat Bani (345-346)
ਰਾਗੁ ਆਸਾ | Raag Aasaa
Gurbani (347-348)
Chaupaday (348-364)
Panchpadde (364-365)
Kaafee (365-409)
Aasaavaree (409-411)
Ashtpadiyan (411-432)
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Chhant (435-462)
Vaar Aasaa (462-475)
Bhagat Bani (475-488)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੂਜਰੀ | Raag Goojaree
Gurbani (489-503)
Ashtpadiyan (503-508)
Vaar Gujari (508-517)
Vaar Gujari (517-526)
ਰਾਗੁ ਦੇਵਗੰਧਾਰੀ | Raag Dayv-Gandhaaree
Gurbani (527-536)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਹਾਗੜਾ | Raag Bihaagraa
Gurbani (537-556)
Chhant (538-548)
Vaar Bihaagraa (548-556)
ਰਾਗੁ ਵਡਹੰਸ | Raag Wadhans
Gurbani (557-564)
Ashtpadiyan (564-565)
Chhant (565-575)
Ghoriaan (575-578)
Alaahaniiaa (578-582)
Vaar Wadhans (582-594)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੋਰਠਿ | Raag Sorath
Gurbani (595-634)
Asatpadhiya (634-642)
Vaar Sorath (642-659)
ਰਾਗੁ ਧਨਾਸਰੀ | Raag Dhanasaree
Gurbani (660-685)
Astpadhiya (685-687)
Chhant (687-691)
Bhagat Bani (691-695)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਤਸਰੀ | Raag Jaitsree
Gurbani (696-703)
Chhant (703-705)
Vaar Jaitsaree (705-710)
Bhagat Bani (710)
ਰਾਗੁ ਟੋਡੀ | Raag Todee
ਰਾਗੁ ਬੈਰਾੜੀ | Raag Bairaaree
ਰਾਗੁ ਤਿਲੰਗ | Raag Tilang
Gurbani (721-727)
Bhagat Bani (727)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੂਹੀ | Raag Suhi
Gurbani (728-750)
Ashtpadiyan (750-761)
Kaafee (761-762)
Suchajee (762)
Gunvantee (763)
Chhant (763-785)
Vaar Soohee (785-792)
Bhagat Bani (792-794)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਲਾਵਲੁ | Raag Bilaaval
Gurbani (795-831)
Ashtpadiyan (831-838)
Thitteen (838-840)
Vaar Sat (841-843)
Chhant (843-848)
Vaar Bilaaval (849-855)
Bhagat Bani (855-858)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੋਂਡ | Raag Gond
Gurbani (859-869)
Ashtpadiyan (869)
Bhagat Bani (870-875)
ਰਾਗੁ ਰਾਮਕਲੀ | Raag Ramkalee
Ashtpadiyan (902-916)
Gurbani (876-902)
Anand (917-922)
Sadd (923-924)
Chhant (924-929)
Dakhnee (929-938)
Sidh Gosat (938-946)
Vaar Ramkalee (947-968)
ਰਾਗੁ ਨਟ ਨਾਰਾਇਨ | Raag Nat Narayan
Gurbani (975-980)
Ashtpadiyan (980-983)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਲੀ ਗਉੜਾ | Raag Maalee Gauraa
Gurbani (984-988)
Bhagat Bani (988)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਰੂ | Raag Maaroo
Gurbani (889-1008)
Ashtpadiyan (1008-1014)
Kaafee (1014-1016)
Ashtpadiyan (1016-1019)
Anjulian (1019-1020)
Solhe (1020-1033)
Dakhni (1033-1043)
ਰਾਗੁ ਤੁਖਾਰੀ | Raag Tukhaari
Bara Maha (1107-1110)
Chhant (1110-1117)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕੇਦਾਰਾ | Raag Kedara
Gurbani (1118-1123)
Bhagat Bani (1123-1124)
ਰਾਗੁ ਭੈਰਉ | Raag Bhairo
Gurbani (1125-1152)
Partaal (1153)
Ashtpadiyan (1153-1167)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਸੰਤੁ | Raag Basant
Gurbani (1168-1187)
Ashtpadiyan (1187-1193)
Vaar Basant (1193-1196)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਾਰਗ | Raag Saarag
Gurbani (1197-1200)
Partaal (1200-1231)
Ashtpadiyan (1232-1236)
Chhant (1236-1237)
Vaar Saarang (1237-1253)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਲਾਰ | Raag Malaar
Gurbani (1254-1293)
Partaal (1265-1273)
Ashtpadiyan (1273-1278)
Chhant (1278)
Vaar Malaar (1278-91)
Bhagat Bani (1292-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਾਨੜਾ | Raag Kaanraa
Gurbani (1294-96)
Partaal (1296-1318)
Ashtpadiyan (1308-1312)
Chhant (1312)
Vaar Kaanraa
Bhagat Bani (1318)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਲਿਆਨ | Raag Kalyaan
Gurbani (1319-23)
Ashtpadiyan (1323-26)
ਰਾਗੁ ਪ੍ਰਭਾਤੀ | Raag Prabhaatee
Gurbani (1327-1341)
Ashtpadiyan (1342-51)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਜਾਵੰਤੀ | Raag Jaijaiwanti
Gurbani (1352-53)
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Sehskritee Mahala 5
Gaathaa Mahala 5
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Shaloks Bhagat Kabir
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Swaiyyae Mahala 5
Swaiyyae in Praise of Gurus
Shaloks in Addition To Vaars
Shalok Ninth Mehl
Mundavanee Mehl 5
ਰਾਗ ਮਾਲਾ, Raag Maalaa
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<blockquote data-quote="Harry Haller" data-source="post: 160026" data-attributes="member: 14641"><p>Driopsji,</p><p></p><p>My heart goes out to you, we are similar in some ways surprisingly, except when I was your age, it was the other way round, my parents wanted me to be Sikh, I did not.</p><p></p><p>Now you have explained a bit more, it is not as simple as it first sounded.At a very young age you have become aware of what life is all about, but my perception is you may have embraced the spiritual aspects of Sikhi but forgotten one very important aspect of Sikhi, namely that we are also householders, sons, daughters, fathers, mothers, employers, employees, that we must embrace Sikhi whilst also living a full and purposeful life. </p><p></p><p>It serves no purpose forcing you into marriage, however, if you made it clear that you would hold off taking Amrit until after marriage, provided your bride was aware of this, you could well end up with a life partner to debate philosophies with, to study Bani together, to go on pilgrimages together, to share each others love with Waheguru, you could both have such a love that is out of this world if you both were embracing Sikhi. Take it from me, although you may be content just to have the company of Waheguru, this is not how it is meant to be, if it were, then there would be more Sikhs sitting on mountain tops on animal hides, but there are not. </p><p></p><p>Be patient little brother, you have a gem of a mindset, but do not push what will come to you anyway, be patient, indulge your parents, but on your terms, compromise, but set your heart on making sure this life partner has the potential to be Gursikh, you will know when you meet her, until you find her, a firm but polite 'no, she is not the one' will suffice. </p><p></p><p>I hope you do not go on travels alone, I hope you find someone that makes your heart sing and challenges your intellect, that can debate Bani, discuss it till the early hours, have that wow moment together, when everything makes sense, it does happen, be patient. </p><p></p><p>One more thing, people fear change, have some sympathy for your parents, they probably have no idea what is going on with you, and are probably fearful that you will start dictating to them what Sikhi is, keep it to yourself, be humble, be respectful, you will learn lots through Bani, but it is best to keep it to yourself, unless you find yourself in like minded company, When I am with some family members, I play the complete fool, and pretend I know nothing, sometimes its best that way, some people have clearly defined views of Sikhi that belong more in a Church or a Mandir, when Creator defines the time is right for them to grow, he will take care of it, it is not ours to judge another, nor tell them where they are going wrong. </p><p></p><p>Humility, Patience, Understanding, Empathy, these are all very Sikh like qualities that you need to embrace at this moment, if it helps, if you find it easier to be in these states for Creator and Creator alone, then do it for the essence of Creator that is in your parents, </p><p></p><p>hope that makes sense brother</p><p></p><p>Love, Harry</p><p>P.S. I may write as if it all comes easy to me, it does not, I struggle at times like all of us, but we must take comfort that at least we know the path, however hard it is to walk it</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Harry Haller, post: 160026, member: 14641"] Driopsji, My heart goes out to you, we are similar in some ways surprisingly, except when I was your age, it was the other way round, my parents wanted me to be Sikh, I did not. Now you have explained a bit more, it is not as simple as it first sounded.At a very young age you have become aware of what life is all about, but my perception is you may have embraced the spiritual aspects of Sikhi but forgotten one very important aspect of Sikhi, namely that we are also householders, sons, daughters, fathers, mothers, employers, employees, that we must embrace Sikhi whilst also living a full and purposeful life. It serves no purpose forcing you into marriage, however, if you made it clear that you would hold off taking Amrit until after marriage, provided your bride was aware of this, you could well end up with a life partner to debate philosophies with, to study Bani together, to go on pilgrimages together, to share each others love with Waheguru, you could both have such a love that is out of this world if you both were embracing Sikhi. Take it from me, although you may be content just to have the company of Waheguru, this is not how it is meant to be, if it were, then there would be more Sikhs sitting on mountain tops on animal hides, but there are not. Be patient little brother, you have a gem of a mindset, but do not push what will come to you anyway, be patient, indulge your parents, but on your terms, compromise, but set your heart on making sure this life partner has the potential to be Gursikh, you will know when you meet her, until you find her, a firm but polite 'no, she is not the one' will suffice. I hope you do not go on travels alone, I hope you find someone that makes your heart sing and challenges your intellect, that can debate Bani, discuss it till the early hours, have that wow moment together, when everything makes sense, it does happen, be patient. One more thing, people fear change, have some sympathy for your parents, they probably have no idea what is going on with you, and are probably fearful that you will start dictating to them what Sikhi is, keep it to yourself, be humble, be respectful, you will learn lots through Bani, but it is best to keep it to yourself, unless you find yourself in like minded company, When I am with some family members, I play the complete fool, and pretend I know nothing, sometimes its best that way, some people have clearly defined views of Sikhi that belong more in a Church or a Mandir, when Creator defines the time is right for them to grow, he will take care of it, it is not ours to judge another, nor tell them where they are going wrong. Humility, Patience, Understanding, Empathy, these are all very Sikh like qualities that you need to embrace at this moment, if it helps, if you find it easier to be in these states for Creator and Creator alone, then do it for the essence of Creator that is in your parents, hope that makes sense brother Love, Harry P.S. I may write as if it all comes easy to me, it does not, I struggle at times like all of us, but we must take comfort that at least we know the path, however hard it is to walk it [/QUOTE]
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