as some SPN members know, i've been dealing with a cyber-stalker for a while now. i'm trying to learn how to deal with this in a calm manner. i know that it is a test, that in order for it to stop bothering me i need to shed my ego, my attachment to outside image. recently i found the following story of and bani from Bhagat Kabeer ji that i found really helpful. hopefully others who are being harassed or bullied can take something from it as well. Kabeer Sahib had a jealous neighbor, whose only pastime was to slander (Nindaa) Kabeer. One day the foolish slanderer died. People thought the news of his death must make Kabeer very happy. To the contrary, when Kabeer found out about it, he became very sad. His devotees naturally inquired as to why he was sad instead of being happy now that his slanderer is dead. Kabeer said "the reason I feel sad, now as my slanderer is gone, who will wash my sins off and take upon himself". According to the Gurbani, there are countless such slanderers (Nindak), struggling in Maya. (please forgive the odd formatting, i took it straight from my blog. ) gourree ||gauree: ni(n)dho ni(n)dho mo ko log ni(n)dho || Slander me, slander me - go ahead, people, and slander me. ni(n)dhaa jan ko kharee piaaree || Slander is pleasing to the Lord's humble servant. ni(n)dhaa baap ni(n)dhaa mehathaaree ||1|| rehaao || Slander is my father, slander is my mother. ||1||Pause|| ni(n)dhaa hoe th baiku(n)t(h) jaaeeai || If I am slandered, I go to heaven; naam padhaarathh manehi basaaeeai || the wealth of the Naam, the Name of the Lord, abides within my mind. ridhai sudhh jo ni(n)dhaa hoe || If my heart is pure, and I am slandered, hamarae kaparae ni(n)dhak dhhoe ||1|| then the slanderer washes my clothes. ||1|| ni(n)dhaa karai s hamaraa meeth || One who slanders me is my friend; ni(n)dhak maahi hamaaraa cheeth || the slanderer is in my thoughts. ni(n)dhak so jo ni(n)dhaa horai || The slanderer is the one who prevents me from being slandered. hamaraa jeevan ni(n)dhak lorai ||2|| The slanderer wishes me long life. ||2|| ni(n)dhaa hamaree praem piaar || I have love and affection for the slanderer. ni(n)dhaa hamaraa karai oudhhaar || Slander is my salvation. jan kabeer ko ni(n)dhaa saar || Slander is the best thing for servant Kabeer. ni(n)dhak ddoobaa ham outharae paar ||3||20||71|| The slanderer is drowned, while I am carried across. ||3||20||71|| (sggs 339) does anyone else have experience in dealing with Ninda/slander/harassment/bullying and have some Gurbani solutions for dealing with it?