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ਜਪੁ | Jup
ਸੋ ਦਰੁ | So Dar
ਸੋਹਿਲਾ | Sohilaa
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਿਰੀਰਾਗੁ | Raag Siree-Raag
Gurbani (14-53)
Ashtpadiyan (53-71)
Gurbani (71-74)
Pahre (74-78)
Chhant (78-81)
Vanjara (81-82)
Vaar Siri Raag (83-91)
Bhagat Bani (91-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਝ | Raag Maajh
Gurbani (94-109)
Ashtpadi (109)
Ashtpadiyan (110-129)
Ashtpadi (129-130)
Ashtpadiyan (130-133)
Bara Maha (133-136)
Din Raen (136-137)
Vaar Maajh Ki (137-150)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗਉੜੀ | Raag Gauree
Gurbani (151-185)
Quartets/Couplets (185-220)
Ashtpadiyan (220-234)
Karhalei (234-235)
Ashtpadiyan (235-242)
Chhant (242-249)
Baavan Akhari (250-262)
Sukhmani (262-296)
Thittee (296-300)
Gauree kii Vaar (300-323)
Gurbani (323-330)
Ashtpadiyan (330-340)
Baavan Akhari (340-343)
Thintteen (343-344)
Vaar Kabir (344-345)
Bhagat Bani (345-346)
ਰਾਗੁ ਆਸਾ | Raag Aasaa
Gurbani (347-348)
Chaupaday (348-364)
Panchpadde (364-365)
Kaafee (365-409)
Aasaavaree (409-411)
Ashtpadiyan (411-432)
Patee (432-435)
Chhant (435-462)
Vaar Aasaa (462-475)
Bhagat Bani (475-488)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੂਜਰੀ | Raag Goojaree
Gurbani (489-503)
Ashtpadiyan (503-508)
Vaar Gujari (508-517)
Vaar Gujari (517-526)
ਰਾਗੁ ਦੇਵਗੰਧਾਰੀ | Raag Dayv-Gandhaaree
Gurbani (527-536)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਹਾਗੜਾ | Raag Bihaagraa
Gurbani (537-556)
Chhant (538-548)
Vaar Bihaagraa (548-556)
ਰਾਗੁ ਵਡਹੰਸ | Raag Wadhans
Gurbani (557-564)
Ashtpadiyan (564-565)
Chhant (565-575)
Ghoriaan (575-578)
Alaahaniiaa (578-582)
Vaar Wadhans (582-594)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੋਰਠਿ | Raag Sorath
Gurbani (595-634)
Asatpadhiya (634-642)
Vaar Sorath (642-659)
ਰਾਗੁ ਧਨਾਸਰੀ | Raag Dhanasaree
Gurbani (660-685)
Astpadhiya (685-687)
Chhant (687-691)
Bhagat Bani (691-695)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਤਸਰੀ | Raag Jaitsree
Gurbani (696-703)
Chhant (703-705)
Vaar Jaitsaree (705-710)
Bhagat Bani (710)
ਰਾਗੁ ਟੋਡੀ | Raag Todee
ਰਾਗੁ ਬੈਰਾੜੀ | Raag Bairaaree
ਰਾਗੁ ਤਿਲੰਗ | Raag Tilang
Gurbani (721-727)
Bhagat Bani (727)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੂਹੀ | Raag Suhi
Gurbani (728-750)
Ashtpadiyan (750-761)
Kaafee (761-762)
Suchajee (762)
Gunvantee (763)
Chhant (763-785)
Vaar Soohee (785-792)
Bhagat Bani (792-794)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਲਾਵਲੁ | Raag Bilaaval
Gurbani (795-831)
Ashtpadiyan (831-838)
Thitteen (838-840)
Vaar Sat (841-843)
Chhant (843-848)
Vaar Bilaaval (849-855)
Bhagat Bani (855-858)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੋਂਡ | Raag Gond
Gurbani (859-869)
Ashtpadiyan (869)
Bhagat Bani (870-875)
ਰਾਗੁ ਰਾਮਕਲੀ | Raag Ramkalee
Ashtpadiyan (902-916)
Gurbani (876-902)
Anand (917-922)
Sadd (923-924)
Chhant (924-929)
Dakhnee (929-938)
Sidh Gosat (938-946)
Vaar Ramkalee (947-968)
ਰਾਗੁ ਨਟ ਨਾਰਾਇਨ | Raag Nat Narayan
Gurbani (975-980)
Ashtpadiyan (980-983)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਲੀ ਗਉੜਾ | Raag Maalee Gauraa
Gurbani (984-988)
Bhagat Bani (988)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਰੂ | Raag Maaroo
Gurbani (889-1008)
Ashtpadiyan (1008-1014)
Kaafee (1014-1016)
Ashtpadiyan (1016-1019)
Anjulian (1019-1020)
Solhe (1020-1033)
Dakhni (1033-1043)
ਰਾਗੁ ਤੁਖਾਰੀ | Raag Tukhaari
Bara Maha (1107-1110)
Chhant (1110-1117)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕੇਦਾਰਾ | Raag Kedara
Gurbani (1118-1123)
Bhagat Bani (1123-1124)
ਰਾਗੁ ਭੈਰਉ | Raag Bhairo
Gurbani (1125-1152)
Partaal (1153)
Ashtpadiyan (1153-1167)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਸੰਤੁ | Raag Basant
Gurbani (1168-1187)
Ashtpadiyan (1187-1193)
Vaar Basant (1193-1196)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਾਰਗ | Raag Saarag
Gurbani (1197-1200)
Partaal (1200-1231)
Ashtpadiyan (1232-1236)
Chhant (1236-1237)
Vaar Saarang (1237-1253)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਲਾਰ | Raag Malaar
Gurbani (1254-1293)
Partaal (1265-1273)
Ashtpadiyan (1273-1278)
Chhant (1278)
Vaar Malaar (1278-91)
Bhagat Bani (1292-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਾਨੜਾ | Raag Kaanraa
Gurbani (1294-96)
Partaal (1296-1318)
Ashtpadiyan (1308-1312)
Chhant (1312)
Vaar Kaanraa
Bhagat Bani (1318)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਲਿਆਨ | Raag Kalyaan
Gurbani (1319-23)
Ashtpadiyan (1323-26)
ਰਾਗੁ ਪ੍ਰਭਾਤੀ | Raag Prabhaatee
Gurbani (1327-1341)
Ashtpadiyan (1342-51)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਜਾਵੰਤੀ | Raag Jaijaiwanti
Gurbani (1352-53)
Salok | Gatha | Phunahe | Chaubole | Swayiye
Sehskritee Mahala 1
Sehskritee Mahala 5
Gaathaa Mahala 5
Phunhay Mahala 5
Chaubolae Mahala 5
Shaloks Bhagat Kabir
Shaloks Sheikh Farid
Swaiyyae Mahala 5
Swaiyyae in Praise of Gurus
Shaloks in Addition To Vaars
Shalok Ninth Mehl
Mundavanee Mehl 5
ਰਾਗ ਮਾਲਾ, Raag Maalaa
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<blockquote data-quote="Aisha" data-source="post: 181319" data-attributes="member: 18783"><p><strong>Re: Need Help</strong></p><p></p><p>Okay I am not Sikh but I will try to give my answer from a Sikhi perspective, I apologize in advance if I make any mistakes.</p><p></p><p>First of all, I think a large cause of your anxiety is your image of Waheguru Ji, and the qualities that you attribute to Him. In Sikhi, God is not separate from his creation, He is a part of it. He does not sit somewhere far up in the sky, detached from this world, recording everything that you do and then carrying on forward based on whether He likes you or not. He is in you and in me and in everything else, so there is no point in making deals with Him because that is not the way He works. No one is asking you to stop doing Path either, its just that I feel your feelings are misplaced. You say you do it because you feel it is the only thing that keeps you connected to Him. How can that be when he is flowing through you right now and will always be with you? A wave is never separate from the ocean, no matter how big or small it gets, which direction it goes off into, it will always be connected to the source.</p><p></p><p>Furthermore, your second post sounds quite depressing, especially the part where you say "Oh Babaji you must be sick of me by now" and you call yourself a sinner. The very first thing in the Sri Guru Granth Sahib Ji, the Mool Mantar, reads "One Universal Creator God. The Name Is Truth. Creative Being Personified. No Fear. <strong><em><u>No Hatred</u></em></strong>. Image Of The Undying, Beyond Birth, Self-Existent. By Guru's Grace ~".</p><p></p><p>Guru Ji can never hate you or anyone else, as that is not in His nature. I remember being at the Gurdwara a couple months ago, and this Kaur was giving a lecture up on stage in the prayer room, talking about Waheguru Ji. I am paraphrasing, but she said something along the lines of "If you make a mistake, your mother will forgive you. If you do it again, she will be irritated. If you keep making mistakes, eventually she will get angry to the point where she no longer trusts and loses faith in you. But you could make a million mistakes, and your Guru will always be there, with his arms open and smile on his face, waiting for you to return back to Him. He will never get mad, He will never be irritated. He loves you unconditionally, just like He loves all his children unconditionally, and will never give up on you, no matter how far you deteriorate or the number of mistakes you make. If you take one step towards your Guru, your Guru will take 100 steps towards you."</p><p></p><p>So you see, you should not feel like your (in your mind) constant errors are somehow driving you away from God. Yes, you should try to make amends and change your habits, but God will never get "tired" of you. Heck, the fact that it makes you as sad as it does, driving you to the point where you came onto a public forum like this one to ask strangers for help, shows that you ARE taking that one step toward your Guru, and in return, He will take many more towards you, you just have to recognize them.</p><p></p><p>And one of them is, I believe, your acknowledgment that your relationship with God is based on false pretenses; you cannot make deals with God. That is a positive. Another positive is that you have vowed to start doing Simran on a regular basis, that can only be a good thing in my eyes.</p><p></p><p>I wish I could tell you a way to make your problems go away, tell you that if you did an hour of prayer everyday, 2 hours of sewa everyday, that all your worries would magically disappear. But I can't, for two reasons. The first one is that everything that happens is the hukam of Waheguru Ji, I am in no position to tell you for sure what will and will not work for you. The second is that by telling you to pray or do sewa, I feel it would be no different to verbally asking God for what you want in exchange for acts of devotion, and as Harry Ji pointed out, sewa in all forms should be done out of love, not because you want something for it.</p><p></p><p>Basically, all you can do is accept that this is the will of God and try and move on with your life. You could continue to make deals with God, but it won't do you much good. Does Waheguru Ji hate the person who prays to an idol or observes fasts? Of course not, Sikhi doesn't teach hatred, it simply states that those things are useless and unnecessary. You could continue asking God to make it all go away in exchange for sewa, God won't hate you for it, just do not expect your prayers to be answered. I think Sikhi is about action, doing what we need to do to get by instead of always relying on God to do it for us. That is why truthful living and Vand Chakko are so important, it is up to humanity to work towards a better future, God is not going to come out of the sky and do it for us. You have to EARN what you have, I have never seen a Sikh beg, everything needs to be worked for, that is what Sikhi says right?</p><p></p><p>Anyways, stay in char di kala because nothing lasts forever, your situation will get better regardless of whether you continue to make deals with God or not, just use this time as an opportunity to fix your relationship with Him, because that is the most important thing of all.</p><p></p><p>Good luck, and Sat Sri Akal <img src="/images/smilies/sikhsmileys/happykudi.jpg" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":happykudi:" title="Happykudi :happykudi:" data-shortname=":happykudi:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Aisha, post: 181319, member: 18783"] [b]Re: Need Help[/b] Okay I am not Sikh but I will try to give my answer from a Sikhi perspective, I apologize in advance if I make any mistakes. First of all, I think a large cause of your anxiety is your image of Waheguru Ji, and the qualities that you attribute to Him. In Sikhi, God is not separate from his creation, He is a part of it. He does not sit somewhere far up in the sky, detached from this world, recording everything that you do and then carrying on forward based on whether He likes you or not. He is in you and in me and in everything else, so there is no point in making deals with Him because that is not the way He works. No one is asking you to stop doing Path either, its just that I feel your feelings are misplaced. You say you do it because you feel it is the only thing that keeps you connected to Him. How can that be when he is flowing through you right now and will always be with you? A wave is never separate from the ocean, no matter how big or small it gets, which direction it goes off into, it will always be connected to the source. Furthermore, your second post sounds quite depressing, especially the part where you say "Oh Babaji you must be sick of me by now" and you call yourself a sinner. The very first thing in the Sri Guru Granth Sahib Ji, the Mool Mantar, reads "One Universal Creator God. The Name Is Truth. Creative Being Personified. No Fear. [B][I][U]No Hatred[/U][/I][/B]. Image Of The Undying, Beyond Birth, Self-Existent. By Guru's Grace ~". Guru Ji can never hate you or anyone else, as that is not in His nature. I remember being at the Gurdwara a couple months ago, and this Kaur was giving a lecture up on stage in the prayer room, talking about Waheguru Ji. I am paraphrasing, but she said something along the lines of "If you make a mistake, your mother will forgive you. If you do it again, she will be irritated. If you keep making mistakes, eventually she will get angry to the point where she no longer trusts and loses faith in you. But you could make a million mistakes, and your Guru will always be there, with his arms open and smile on his face, waiting for you to return back to Him. He will never get mad, He will never be irritated. He loves you unconditionally, just like He loves all his children unconditionally, and will never give up on you, no matter how far you deteriorate or the number of mistakes you make. If you take one step towards your Guru, your Guru will take 100 steps towards you." So you see, you should not feel like your (in your mind) constant errors are somehow driving you away from God. Yes, you should try to make amends and change your habits, but God will never get "tired" of you. Heck, the fact that it makes you as sad as it does, driving you to the point where you came onto a public forum like this one to ask strangers for help, shows that you ARE taking that one step toward your Guru, and in return, He will take many more towards you, you just have to recognize them. And one of them is, I believe, your acknowledgment that your relationship with God is based on false pretenses; you cannot make deals with God. That is a positive. Another positive is that you have vowed to start doing Simran on a regular basis, that can only be a good thing in my eyes. I wish I could tell you a way to make your problems go away, tell you that if you did an hour of prayer everyday, 2 hours of sewa everyday, that all your worries would magically disappear. But I can't, for two reasons. The first one is that everything that happens is the hukam of Waheguru Ji, I am in no position to tell you for sure what will and will not work for you. The second is that by telling you to pray or do sewa, I feel it would be no different to verbally asking God for what you want in exchange for acts of devotion, and as Harry Ji pointed out, sewa in all forms should be done out of love, not because you want something for it. Basically, all you can do is accept that this is the will of God and try and move on with your life. You could continue to make deals with God, but it won't do you much good. Does Waheguru Ji hate the person who prays to an idol or observes fasts? Of course not, Sikhi doesn't teach hatred, it simply states that those things are useless and unnecessary. You could continue asking God to make it all go away in exchange for sewa, God won't hate you for it, just do not expect your prayers to be answered. I think Sikhi is about action, doing what we need to do to get by instead of always relying on God to do it for us. That is why truthful living and Vand Chakko are so important, it is up to humanity to work towards a better future, God is not going to come out of the sky and do it for us. You have to EARN what you have, I have never seen a Sikh beg, everything needs to be worked for, that is what Sikhi says right? Anyways, stay in char di kala because nothing lasts forever, your situation will get better regardless of whether you continue to make deals with God or not, just use this time as an opportunity to fix your relationship with Him, because that is the most important thing of all. Good luck, and Sat Sri Akal :happykudi: [/QUOTE]
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