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Discussion in 'Spiritual Articles' started by Neutral Singh, Jun 17, 2005.

  1. Neutral Singh

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    "You all have to realize what a marriage is. Marriage is not an easy path. Marriage is a life. Marriage is not a ceremony,marriage is God.

    Marriage has not been understood by the Western world at all. It was understood by the Eastern world but it is forgottenthere too. So at this time, the institution of marriage is in total limbo. People do not know what to do with it; people do notknow what to do without it. So what we have found out via the media is that marriage then divorce and divorce then marriageis a continuous process.

    But actually if we all understand what marriage is, then perhaps we can do better. Marriage is an institution of willingness, inwhich two identities want to amalgamate. It’s an amalgamation of two egos to bring out a neutral new personality.

    What is the advantage of it and what is the disadvantage of it ? When this amalgamation happens then divine power in thepsyche starts to function. Without that, people are individuals and they will only yell and scream at each other and goodnesswill never come in that home. It is a granted fact.

    Marriage bring happiness. It’s an amalgamation of two psyches. And when these two psyches are amalgamated, neither oneis an individual. There is no question of he and she. That’s it. There is no loss, there is no gain and there is no bank account.

    "This is what my husband said" does not exist. "I will ask my wife" does not exist. If there is no confidence that the husbandcan speak on behalf of his wife and the wife can speak on behalf of her husband, they have not yet married. If this is thecommitment, that the husband cannot commit on behalf on his wife and the wife cannot commit on behalf of her husband, theydo not know what commitment is.

    To make an alloy, you take two elements and put them together. The alloy cannot be separated. You can boil it, you canform the alloy into a liquid, you can totally burn it, but once it becomes an alloy, it will totally keep its own quality, ownquantity, own weight, own molecules, own electrons, protons and neutrons, and own combination. Whatever made brassdoesn’t matter. Brass has its own faculty, own quality, own weight and own property.

    And that is what love is, that is what marriage is, that is what life is, that is what good luck is. There are no two opinions aboutit; when a male and a female merge together. That’s why we do it before God. That's why we do it before Guru."
     
  2. Suneet Kaur

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    Vahe Guru ji Ka Khalsa Vahe Guru Ji Ke Fateh

    Absolutely, quite true. This is what marriage is but unfortunately this is not happening. We marry because of happiness but happiness is totally out of site. We always hear women complaining, " “He did and said everything to keep me where he wanted me to be. He never acknowledged any of my accomplishments, not any I can recall. . . . When things seemed to be going pretty well, he'd figure out something else that I wasn't doing right and then he'd be on me every day about it. . . . See, the plants, I mean, every time I thought, they are looking beautiful here, they would be lifted up and moved somewhere else and I'd have to get all readjusted”.

    And men is heard saying, " She is not good cook, she does not listen to me and .................",

    Actually before marriage there are no expectations at all and both accept each other as they are without any conditions whatsoever but as soon as the same couple get into wed lock their expectations rises and these very expectations leads to discords.

    And now if we say wife and husband as one, this is just a mock that we are making on marriage. Marriage is now only an insititution- a business where parents puts lots of money at stake, not knowing wether they will get returns or not or it is just another futile business.



     

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