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Opinion Looking Different and Differently Looking

Discussion in 'Breaking News' started by findingmyway, May 16, 2012.

  1. findingmyway

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    Simran Jeet Singh
    Doctoral Candidate in Religion, Columbia University


    As far as I can remember, I've always looked different. In elementary school, my classmates called me a girl, a genie and Aladdin. In middle school, I was a raghead, a diaperhead and Sadam Hussein. And in high school, some kids were convinced that I was Osama bin Laden. These sorts of challenges come with looking different.

    On the other hand, looking different has its advantages. People pay attention when I walk into a room. I'm noticeable and memorable. In fact, people don't forget meeting me. This is a huge benefit that comes with having a distinctive appearance.

    And in my experiences, the benefits of looking different outweigh the challenges. For example, "looking different" has led me to "look differently." My Sikh identity has been linked to major moments in my life, and these unique experiences have shaped the way in which I view the world.

    Like too many others, I've been discriminated against because of my unique appearance. While I wouldn't wish it on anyone else, being the target of discrimination has helped open my eyes to various types of inequalities in our world.

    These experiences have taught me to identify with the struggles faced by others from diverse backgrounds and worldviews, and the resulting empathy keeps me from drawing assumptions or judgments about others.

    Discrimination has also helped me build character and discipline. It's always tough to stay cool while others shout obscenities and racial slurs. But at the same time, accounting for ignorance and reacting with compassion and love have come to feature prominently in my interactions with society.

    At the same time, the benefits of "looking different" do not only emerge from alienation; in fact, I've received far more support and encouragement from strangers than hate and animosity, and these interactions constantly inspire me to view the world more positively.
    While it's easy to focus on the negative, I can't help but be constantly amazed by the bombardment of love and support I receive from people who appreciate the values represented by my Sikh identity.

    It's this sort of optimism that makes me believe that "looking different" has played a significant role in my way of "looking differently."


    http://www.huffingtonpost.com/simra...ferent-and-differently-looking_b_1475661.html
     

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  3. Archived_member15

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    This is a beautiful and poignant article Finding my dear brother/sister kaurhug

    I never could nor can understand why people cannot lovingly accept others for their uniqueness, and humanity for its unity in diversity. We are all one buit diverse and multiform, and that is the beauty of it.


    "...The nightingale
    does not resent
    the cuckoo's song.
    But you, if I don't sing,
    like you,
    mock me as wrong.

    While gazing at the Sun
    I almost lost my sight.
    The fault lies in my eye -
    Not in the Light

    Until One-ness
    has absorbed all Otherness
    no man can find
    his Suchness

    Love's power
    to restore the broken shards
    into one whole
    is the supreme attainment
    of the human soul

    Do not malign
    a single thing
    for God
    not only is its maker
    but also its design

    A ruby
    is not lovelier
    than a rock,
    an angel
    not more glorious
    than a frog

    In God all things are one,
    he does not separate;
    with me as with a gnat
    does He communicate

    How short our span!
    If you once realized how brief,
    you would refrain
    from causing any beast or man
    the smallest grief, the slightest pain..."


    - Angelus Silesius (1624 – 1677), Catholic mystic and poet
     
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  4. Harry Haller

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    Vouthonji,

    FYI, each name has an icon next to it for the feminine and masculine
    ♀ Girl
    ♂ Boy

    wonderful quote, btw, my wife says that if you are 19 then she is the Queen of Sheba lol
     
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  5. Archived_member15

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    lol My dear brother Harry ji peacesignkaur

    How on earth have I never noticed the feminine/masculine icons? lol Thank you very much for alerting me to them! It certainly makes it a lot easier to know the gender of the person you are addressing! lol

    I am so glad that you liked the quote, I love Angelus and yes I am 100% 19 years of age so I guess that makes your lovely wife the Queen of Sheba lol
     
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    I have been on here for some time I never noticed them symbols either, another sikh moment. Maybe I did notice them but I did not know what they represented. Each day we learn! :singhbhangra:
     
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  7. Randeep Kaur

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    its very common for sikhs
    even my classmates say to make hair style, to wear make-up and so on
    At first I felt bad but then
    my long hair ( jungle types) and not so attractive looks makes me to feel no superior ,,,and its something positive, i believe
     
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  8. TigerStyleZ

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    Yes, this looking different makes on strong - It helps one the way of finding the truth and build up a character.

    @Randeep Kaur

    what do you mean , is common for Sikhs?
     
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    Wearing a turban in the 80's in the East End of London is the closest I think I have been to hell on Earth, but Waheguru kept me going.
     
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  10. Luckysingh

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    Well I thought they were all amateur attempts trying to draw the 'prince' symbol.
     
  11. Kamala

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    The person who said this is right, they shouldn't care if theyre popular in school because fame in school is nothing in the work industry~
     
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    Well I'm not too sure about that.
    I'im still enjoying my fame and pleasure at becoming the 'Prom King' and then eventually marrying the 'Prom Queen' !!!!!!!!

    My fame at school is part of my living life now.
    :)
     
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  13. Randeep Kaur

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    some friends I meet in the Gurudwara have too the same feeling,,not everyone because not every Sikh boy wears turban and not every sikh girl avoid make-up or hairstyle...
     
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  14. TigerStyleZ

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    Mhh, ok I see don´t really got your point , but it´s ok.


    Edit: Ah i see , you are from german as well - Vielleicht kannst du es mir auf Deutsch erklären? :)
     
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    Private: If they're calling you Hussein and Bin Laden, I wonder if your gender symbol (female) may be wrong.
     
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    Lucky Singh ji,

    I hope I am mistaken, but I have an inkling that you have misspelled or/and misused the word: 'Prom' by mistake. :)
     

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