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    Let's ask how we contribute to rape

    http://www.thehindu.com/opinion/op-ed/lets-ask-how-we-contribute-to-rape/article4235902.ece

    by Urvashi Butalia

    As I write this, there are protests going on all over Delhi, and in other parts of the country, against the gang-rape of a young woman on a moving bus a few days ago in the city. People are out there in large numbers — young, old, male, female, rich, poor — and they’re angry. They want the rapists to be caught, they want them to be taught a lesson, many are suggesting they should be hanged, or castrated, but also that the State should act, bring in effective laws, fast track courts, police procedures and more. Not since the Mathura rape case have there been such widespread protests. The difference is that then, it was mainly women’s groups who were protesting; today’s protests are more diverse. Sometimes, tragically, it takes a case like this to awaken public consciousness, to make people realise that rape and sexual assault are not merely ‘women’s issues,’ they’re a symbol of the deep-seated violence that women — and other marginalised people — experience every day in our society.

    At a time when every politician, no matter what colour, is crying foul, every judge and lawyer, no matter what their loyalties, is joining the chorus, every policeperson, no matter from where, is adding his/her voice, it is worth remembering some key things. First, more than 90 per cent of rapes are committed by people known to the victim/survivor, a staggering number of rapists are family members. When we demand the death penalty, do we mean therefore that we should kill large numbers of uncles, fathers, brothers, husbands, neighbours? How many of us would even report cases of rape then? What we’re seeing now — the slow, painful increase in even reports being filed — will all disappear. Second, the death penalty has never been a deterrent against anything — where, for example, is the evidence that death penalties have reduced the incidence of murders? Quite apart from the fact that the State should never be given the right to take life, there is an argument to be made that imposing the death penalty will further reduce the rate of conviction, as no judge will award it.

    Then, and this is something that women’s groups grasped long ago: a large number of rapes are committed in custody, many of these by the police. Mathura was raped by two policemen, Rameezabee was raped inside a police station by police personnel, Suman Rani was raped by policemen. There are countless other cases: will we hang all police rapists? Put together, that’s a lot of people to hang.

    Police action is, in fact, one of the demands. Yet, the police’s record, whether in recording cases or in conducting investigations, is nothing to write home about. On a recent television show, a police officer put his finger on it when he said: how can we expect that police personnel, who are, after all, made of the same stuff as the men who gang-raped the young woman last week, to suddenly and miraculously behave differently? I was reminded of a study done by a local newsmagazine not so long ago of the attitudes of high ranking police officers in Delhi about rape. Roughly 90 per cent of them felt the woman deserved it, that she asked for it, that she should not have been out alone, or should not have been dressed in a particular fashion. Strange that women’s bodies should invite such reactions — could it be that the problem is in the eye of the beholder? Why, for example, does it seem to be more ‘legitimate’ for women to be out during daylight hours, but not at night?

    Lawyers and judges too have joined the protests — and this is all to the good for the more diverse the protests, the more impact they will have. But it’s lawyers who use every ruse in the book to allow rapists to get away, judges who make concessions because the rapists are ‘young men who have their whole lives in front of them’ and so on. Do women’s lives not have a value then?

    And then there are our politicians. Perhaps we need to ask how many politicians have rape cases, or allegations of rape pending against them. Perhaps we need to ask why no one is asking this question: that here you have an elected politician, your next prime ministerial candidate, someone under whose rule Muslim women in Gujarat were not only subjected to horrendous rape but also to equally dreadful violence. How can we, how can the media, how can journalists — all of whom are lauding the success of this politician, how can they not raise, and particularly at this time, the question of his sanctioning, encouraging the use of rape as a weapon of war? And more, we need to ask: if the politicians are indeed serious about this issue, why are they not out there with the protestors? When Anna Hazare was fasting, there wasn’t a day that went by when one or other politician did not go to see him. Where are they now?

    Rape happens everywhere: it happens inside homes, in families, in neighbourhoods, in police stations, in towns and cities, in villages, and its incidence increases, as is happening in India, as society goes through change, as women’s roles begin to change, as economies slow down and the slice of the pie becomes smaller — and it is connected to all these things. Just as it is integrally and fundamentally connected to the disregard, and indeed the hatred, for females that is so evident in the killing of female foetuses. For so widespread a crime, band aid solutions are not the answer.

    Protest is important, it shakes the conscience of society, it brings people close to change, it makes them feel part of the change. And there is a good chance that the current wave of protests will lead to at least some results — perhaps even just fast track courts. But perspective is also important: we need to ask ourselves: if it had been the army in Manipur or Kashmir who had been the rapists, would we have protested in quite the same way? Very likely not, for there nationalism enters the picture. Remember Kunan Posphpora in the late nineties when the Rajasthan Rifles raped over 30 women? Even our liberal journalists found it difficult to credit that this could have happened, that the army could have been capable of this, and yet, the people of Kunan Poshpora know. Even today, women from this area find it difficult to marry — stigma has a long life. Would we have been as angry if the rape had taken place in a small town near Delhi and the victim had been Dalit? Remember Khairlanji? Why did that rape, of a mother and her daughter, gruesome, violent, heinous, and their subsequent murder not touch our consciences in quite the same way.

    It is important to raise our collective voice against rape. But rape is not something that occurs by itself. It is part of the continuing and embedded violence in society that targets women on a daily basis. Let’s raise our voices against such violence and let’s ask ourselves how we, in our daily actions, in our thoughts, contribute to this, rather than assume that the solution lies with someone else. Let’s ask ourselves how we, our society, we as people, create and sustain the mindset that leads to rape, how we make our men so violent, how we insult our women so regularly, let’s ask ourselves how privilege creates violence.

    It is important we raise our collective voice for women, but let’s raise it for all women, let’s raise it so that no woman, no matter that she be poor, rich, urban, rural, Dalit, Muslim, Hindu, or whatever, ever, in the future, has to face sexual violence, and no man assumes that because of the system and people’s mindsets, he can simply get away with it. And let’s raise it also for men, for transgenders, for the poor — all those who become targets of violence. Let’s not forget that the young rape survivor in Delhi was accompanied by a friend who too was subjected to violence and nearly killed. Let’s talk about him too.

    (Urvashi Butalia is a feminist writer and founder of Zubaan, an independent non-profit publishing house.)
     
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    Its very sad to say but Im convinced the only way a woman can make it "in the world" is to behave as a man. Have ur femininity, but not out all in the open. A woman must be Smart, know the skills & signs of someone or people who make her deeply uncomfortable & know the right moves to get the hell out of there or stand up. Same goes for children & the elderly.

    **I am by no means saying all men are bad or to be feared, but only in sync w/ the subject at hand which is female Rape. Women must learn to protect themselves, speak out & up rather than FIRST be "groomed" by their families as Subservient, helpless creatures & then to be tamed or captured by other groups who seek to Use them as such. Daughters must kno their value & in the case they end up Alone or in unfavorable circumstances, have a Pair. Never ever show fear.
     
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    That would be giving in. A woman should equally speak her mind and do what she wants to. And feminism wouldn't be there had there been any balance or equality (and in practice, could take infinite time to reach!).

    More important is to not be quiet. If you go quiet once (even if someone tries to invade your personal space), then that person is going to feel strong about it and do the same with someone else.
     
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    Kanwaljit Ji,
    Im sorry but I did say a few times about speaking out & standing up. I was only referring to femininity, the softer more vulnerable aspects of a woman, it's a sad truth that there is very little room for it in the world, save w/ family members who actually care about u. Other than that, a woman should absolutely speak out and defend herself. Im sorry if it appears differently (above, in my write up.
     
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    goodness and badness will always be there in maya-kaal, we cannot remove it completely.. it is required for the soul evolvement thru varies types experiences. but we can contol them, by our strength in a religion.
     
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    harcharanjitsinghdhillon ji

    Please respond to these questions.

    1. What do you mean when you say Maya-kaal is required for the 'soul evolvement through various types of experiences?"

    2. Are you saying that it is useless to improve a world where women are treated like someone's left-over property, to be trashed at will?

    3. Should we expect less than full commitment by all members of society, including leaders and legal institutions, to end honor killings, rapes, dowry murders, verbal and emotional abuse of women?

    4. Should we work to create a society where women are valued precisely because they are human beings?

    5. Are you saying that rape experiences are required for the souls of women to evolve? Are you saying it would hamper the spiritual progress of women if abuse and disrespect at every level were removed?

    6. Where in SGGS does it state the experiences of Maya-kaal are "required" for the soul to be liberated?

    I always thought that SGGS tells us that the experiences of Maya-kaal as you put it are real. That liberation of the soul comes in a different way. Gurprasad, through devotion with sadhsangat, honest living, and the life of a householder.

    I believe that those pillars of Sikhi nurture a society where rape is not tolerated and no one looks the other way when the law fails. Would you agree with me without reservation?

    If you do not agree, would you explain why you disagree?
     
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