I read somewhere that 90% of our relationship stress comes from 10% of those we communicate with. I rolled this in my head for two weeks before deciding what level of agreement I would give it and have come to complete agreement. This being the case I have started to look at relationships in my physical world and have questioned these individually if one of these relationships is in the 10%.
Eventually, I got to the "S" group which led me to my friend Dr. Singh. Now, here's a gentle soul who is big on serving, caring and being generous with his time. When I saw him last month at an annual event in this area and it was a joy to see him and to give him a hug. I began to wonder about his 10%. Does he have a 10%, how would he handle them?
So I watched him. All day. I watched my guru work the event. I watched how he talked to everyone, smiled, leaned into their conversation and how he seemed to bless each one. I was in awe.
Then I asked myself, "Am I his 10%?"
Then it hit me. I am my own 10%. That's right. Me. Myself.
Dr. Singh walked about that event caring and loving each person he talked to. He listened, he showed great compassion and he spoke words of love and healing. Then, he moved on.
Me, I move on with a little bit of offense or maybe a little bit of hurt feelings or something in my pocket from the encounter. I'm packing the hurt and self inflicted nonsense with me as I go on about. Never, just moving on.
The 90% of my relationship stress probably isn't even real. It's not what others put on me it what I put on myself.
Admission is the first step to recovery. Here's to taking the next step ....
Eventually, I got to the "S" group which led me to my friend Dr. Singh. Now, here's a gentle soul who is big on serving, caring and being generous with his time. When I saw him last month at an annual event in this area and it was a joy to see him and to give him a hug. I began to wonder about his 10%. Does he have a 10%, how would he handle them?
So I watched him. All day. I watched my guru work the event. I watched how he talked to everyone, smiled, leaned into their conversation and how he seemed to bless each one. I was in awe.
Then I asked myself, "Am I his 10%?"
Then it hit me. I am my own 10%. That's right. Me. Myself.
Dr. Singh walked about that event caring and loving each person he talked to. He listened, he showed great compassion and he spoke words of love and healing. Then, he moved on.
Me, I move on with a little bit of offense or maybe a little bit of hurt feelings or something in my pocket from the encounter. I'm packing the hurt and self inflicted nonsense with me as I go on about. Never, just moving on.
The 90% of my relationship stress probably isn't even real. It's not what others put on me it what I put on myself.
Admission is the first step to recovery. Here's to taking the next step ....