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How can I make decent and useful friends and from where ?? most people have a problem with me

Discussion in 'Sikh Youth' started by Seeker2013, Oct 23, 2013.

  1. Seeker2013

    Seeker2013 India
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    Most ppl have a problem with me . At first I used to brush it off as 'these people are just being jerks' but when too many people dislike u , then obviously so many people cannot be wrong

    I am judged quite often . but I also have very few friends
    I have a problem being friends or maintaining friendships with most straight guys . I don't know perhaps becoz our interests are different . Whenever they congregate , its always about the alcohol , chics and such things for them
    I don't like alcohol or chics coz m gay but I can't tell them so , we sort of end up operating at different frequencies and very soon I feel left out of the group

    How do I make new friends who are interesting and of some value ?

    Most people detect something in me for the first time meet which makes both of us feel uncomfortable . Don't know what it is
    There was this guy who met me first time or so and said 'ur gay , aren't u ?'
    I later asked him how did he knew and he said 'same way as you can differentiate an apple and an orange'
    didn't get him and he didn't explained it either

    I need friends , but most people don't wanna be friends with me . They think I am boring and dull and quite often my gayish lisp in accent makes people go away from me
    Would I have to change myself ?
     
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  3. ExploringSikhi

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    I don't see how you can change your orientation, unless being gay is a choice, which I don't think it is, because I could never imagine being attracted to a man, so I assume it is the same way for you, you could never force yourself to be attracted to a woman.

    What you need to do is get hobbies and interests, you gotta do something with your life. You can't change your homosexuality, but you can change being "dull and boring."

    The more you put yourself out there, the better your chances of making new friends. Join a club, play sports, start going to the gym, volunteer, your social skills will be chisseled and you'll find it much easier to talk and relate with other people.
     
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    why dont you focus on your exams and studies first before finding more problems
     
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  5. harmanpreet singh

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    hi seeker ji ,

    you can join langar sewa at weekends .



    blessings
     
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    Do homosexuals in India have the same "gayish lisp" as they do in, say, America? I never thought of that.

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zdL-_ILynl4

    Some people seem to be able to "get" the whole friendship scene, they can socialise and make conversation and connect with people, then some of us can't. When I find the solution I'll let you know. I do know that Guruji is the ultimate friend though. It's pretty good company too. :)
     
  7. Seeker2013

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    my next paper is done . thats why
     
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    not so much !
    its not really so much , but people do notice something different
     
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