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Grief in Sikhism

Discussion in 'Questions and Answers' started by angrisha, Nov 27, 2013.

  1. angrisha

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    Forgive me if I posted this in the wrong place, please feel free to move it.

    I have a question which I would like some general insight into (it is a bit hard to articulate as im not sure exactly what im trying to ask), I've been thinking of this idea of grief or other emotions in relationship to events that we typically have little control over. Such as a sudden death of someone in your life.

    While intellectually I understand the concept of Hukam.... Im trying to reconcile the natural human emotions and what place they play with in Sikhi. I understand that perhaps the greater goal is to reach a level which is beyond these emotional dualities, but in practical every day life is it possible to experience these emotions while living within Hukam? If so, how does the SGGS guide us to do that?

    Right now, I'm struggling to find a middle ground. Where if I want to move beyond the duality then its almost like denying the actual feelings that come up....
     
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  3. aristotle

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    That is a very Buddhist stance angrisha Ji.

    From whatever I have yet gathered of the Sikh Philosophy, denying one's basic emotions of grief, sadness or dejection is never expected, that is just quiet mental torture inflicted on oneself.

    What do we do when we lose a dear one?
    Not cry? Not express grief?

    Sikhi does not require this. Guru Granth Sahib does, however extort us to see the big picture. If someone dies, we shall also die someday. If someone is facing a particular hardship, ours might be the next turn. And it all happens within the Hukam. Acceptance of the Hukam is one of the most basic teachings of the Guru Granth Sahib, and probably the hardest one too. But, we are all, students of faith and of life, and Guru Sahib guides us on our spiritual journey.

    Sadness on a particular hardship is not duality. Duality is however forgetting that everything transpires in the Hukam, and we too shall not remain forever.

    Even while writing this post, I feel myself unworthy of 'answering' such a significant question. I am just a student, a novice, perhaps I may not have understood your question, or perhaps I may be entirely wrong at all. But this is all I have to offer at this moment.
     
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