You know, there are many things that we wish had happened differently, whether it was pain caused to a loved one. or a direction in life that changed. But we have to remind ourselves that we're not here alone, not by any chance. A careless God? No. A God that teaches through experience & pain? Yes. gosh, i thought i would have more to say on this topic, but not really, as it stands, time passes, new things come... you must be ready for it, or you will get stuck in the imobile Past, it's ok to commemorate the loss of those who were close to you, or were generally good people, but it's not ok to hold onto them, they wouldn't want that, they'd want you to live your life well.