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<blockquote data-quote="Admin" data-source="post: 207779" data-attributes="member: 1"><p>[USER=19755]@Seeker2013[/USER] Ji</p><p></p><p>First of all, you are not alone in this battle. We all face bullies in our daily lives. Bullying can start from a country bullying another country to an individual bullying you or me.</p><p></p><p>Clearly, they feed on our fears. Your one act of defiance/dare had shivers down their spines... so, you have already won a part of the battle...</p><p></p><p>Recently read a very relevant article...</p><p></p><p>Truthfully, I think that dealing with bullying customers is actually pretty easy, relatively speaking.</p><p></p><p>Why?</p><p></p><p><em>Because bully customers eventually leave.</em></p><p></p><p>Bully co-workers will be waiting for you when you show up to work today, tomorrow, the day after that… you get the picture! That fact alone adds a layer of complexity to the mix, but that doesn’t mean that dealing with them is impossible.</p><p></p><p>With bullying coworkers, the first step is understanding the truth behind what makes a bully a bully.</p><p></p><p><strong>Bullies at their core, are cowards. </strong></p><p></p><p>We have to remember this, because knowledge of this fact is your silver bullet in your fight against bullies of any kind. Sure, they might not seem like cowards when they’re pulling the tough guy/gal routine on you, but please don’t be fooled by it – <em>every bully walking the face of the earth needs your fear to survive</em>.</p><p></p><p>Without your fear, they are nothing. Inside of each bully is a pathetic, sad, pitiful shell of a human being who seeks out people who they feel they can intimidate and control. Intimidation and control makes these people feel powerful, and to ensure that they keep feeling powerful, they seek out targets who have a disinterest in confrontation so that they get their jollies by emotionally destroying them.</p><p></p><p><em>There is overwhelming evidence that the higher the level of self-esteem, the more likely one will be to treat others with respect, kindness, and generosity.” -Nathaniel Branden</em></p><p></p><p>All cruelty is based in weakness–and cruelty is act of cowardice, not courage. So, how do you deal with a bully coworker?</p><p></p><p>You have to be the opposite of a coward. <em>You have to be brave. </em>Here are two ways you can be brave, starting today!</p><p></p><p><strong>A) Don’t Let Them See You Sweat</strong></p><p></p><p>Bullies love to get a reaction–in fact, your reaction of pain, sadness, and anger is the fuel that keeps them going. Sick I know, but it’s the absolute truth with these types of people.</p><p></p><p>I know that this is much easier said than done, but y<em>ou cannot give them the reaction that they want.</em> Ever. If a bully coworker passive-aggressively excludes you from a team lunch outing or is overly critical of your work, don’t let him know that his behavior is getting to you.</p><p></p><p>Vent to someone you trust. Walk away. Rise above his foolishness. You might not be in control of his bullying behavior, but you’re <em>always</em> in control of yours. Many bullies will stop targeting you if they don’t get the reaction that they’re looking for from you. Unfortunately, this technique won’t work with all bullies.</p><p></p><p>Some of the really persistent bullies won’t stop if they’re ignored. In fact, the bullying might increase if they feel that they’re failing to get a reaction out of you. So, in that case, you’ll have to use this strategy instead…</p><p></p><p><strong>B) Stand up for Yourself</strong></p><p></p><p>Remember, we’re talking about a bully coworker–you don’t report to this person. Don’t be afraid to stand up for yourself.</p><p></p><p>Intimidation and immaturity are the only weapons that the bully has in her pathetic {censored}nal, and if you make the decision that you will not be bullied by her, the bully is effectively screwed because she doesn’t have a Plan B if Plan A fails.</p><p></p><p>If you choose to stand up for yourself, please do it when you’re not emotionally charged by the situation (yes, this is possible).</p><p></p><p>Approach the bully and be assertive, but not aggressive about what is bothering you. Equally as important, focus solely on the bully’s behavior, not the bully himself/herself.</p><p></p><p>For example, there’s a huge difference between, <em>“Susie, I’m sick of you acting like a {censored} towards me during our team meetings”</em> than <em>“Susie, in the past two team meetings, I’ve felt personally attacked when you called my ideas stupid in front of the team, and I don’t feel that it’s appropriate.”</em></p><p></p><p>Sure, she might deny it or get defensive, but from that moment forward, she knows that<em> you know</em> that you’re on to her childish bullying games.</p><p></p><p>Also, if your goal in this discussion is to simply make the bully aware of her bullying behavior, then you’re totally missing the point–please trust that the bully is fully aware of what she’s doing and how it makes you feel. She actually gets off on it.</p><p></p><p>You’re bringing this to her attention to put her on notice that <em>her behavior is not okay with you and that you’d like it to stop</em>.</p><p></p><p>Most bullies never expect to be called out on their behavior, and now that you’ve put it out there, she’ll have to make the difficult choice of either stopping her behavior or continue to prove that you are right about her foolishness all along.</p><p></p><p>Most importantly, when it comes to bully coworkers, you have to know which battles are worth fighting and which ones aren’t worth your time.</p><p></p><p>I know that there are always some people who believe that standing up to bullies is a bad idea because it could backfire on you. But to those people, I have a question: <em>If you’re not going to stand up for yourself, then who will?</em></p><p></p><p>Like I said earlier, no one said that dealing with bullies is fun, <em>but it’s necessary</em>.</p><p></p><p><a href="http://thepositivitysolution.com/the-enemy-within/" target="_blank">Fighting through your fear to do the right thing for yourself and others</a> is the epitome of bravery. In my experience, bravery will always win against the cowardice of a bully every day of the week.</p><p></p><p>This daily battle goes on... All the best!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Admin, post: 207779, member: 1"] [USER=19755]@Seeker2013[/USER] Ji First of all, you are not alone in this battle. We all face bullies in our daily lives. Bullying can start from a country bullying another country to an individual bullying you or me. Clearly, they feed on our fears. Your one act of defiance/dare had shivers down their spines... so, you have already won a part of the battle... Recently read a very relevant article... Truthfully, I think that dealing with bullying customers is actually pretty easy, relatively speaking. Why? [I]Because bully customers eventually leave.[/I] Bully co-workers will be waiting for you when you show up to work today, tomorrow, the day after that… you get the picture! That fact alone adds a layer of complexity to the mix, but that doesn’t mean that dealing with them is impossible. With bullying coworkers, the first step is understanding the truth behind what makes a bully a bully. [B]Bullies at their core, are cowards. [/B] We have to remember this, because knowledge of this fact is your silver bullet in your fight against bullies of any kind. Sure, they might not seem like cowards when they’re pulling the tough guy/gal routine on you, but please don’t be fooled by it – [I]every bully walking the face of the earth needs your fear to survive[/I]. Without your fear, they are nothing. Inside of each bully is a pathetic, sad, pitiful shell of a human being who seeks out people who they feel they can intimidate and control. Intimidation and control makes these people feel powerful, and to ensure that they keep feeling powerful, they seek out targets who have a disinterest in confrontation so that they get their jollies by emotionally destroying them. [I]There is overwhelming evidence that the higher the level of self-esteem, the more likely one will be to treat others with respect, kindness, and generosity.” -Nathaniel Branden[/I] All cruelty is based in weakness–and cruelty is act of cowardice, not courage. So, how do you deal with a bully coworker? You have to be the opposite of a coward. [I]You have to be brave. [/I]Here are two ways you can be brave, starting today! [B]A) Don’t Let Them See You Sweat[/B] Bullies love to get a reaction–in fact, your reaction of pain, sadness, and anger is the fuel that keeps them going. Sick I know, but it’s the absolute truth with these types of people. I know that this is much easier said than done, but y[I]ou cannot give them the reaction that they want.[/I] Ever. If a bully coworker passive-aggressively excludes you from a team lunch outing or is overly critical of your work, don’t let him know that his behavior is getting to you. Vent to someone you trust. Walk away. Rise above his foolishness. You might not be in control of his bullying behavior, but you’re [I]always[/I] in control of yours. Many bullies will stop targeting you if they don’t get the reaction that they’re looking for from you. Unfortunately, this technique won’t work with all bullies. Some of the really persistent bullies won’t stop if they’re ignored. In fact, the bullying might increase if they feel that they’re failing to get a reaction out of you. So, in that case, you’ll have to use this strategy instead… [B]B) Stand up for Yourself[/B] Remember, we’re talking about a bully coworker–you don’t report to this person. Don’t be afraid to stand up for yourself. Intimidation and immaturity are the only weapons that the bully has in her pathetic {censored}nal, and if you make the decision that you will not be bullied by her, the bully is effectively screwed because she doesn’t have a Plan B if Plan A fails. If you choose to stand up for yourself, please do it when you’re not emotionally charged by the situation (yes, this is possible). Approach the bully and be assertive, but not aggressive about what is bothering you. Equally as important, focus solely on the bully’s behavior, not the bully himself/herself. For example, there’s a huge difference between, [I]“Susie, I’m sick of you acting like a {censored} towards me during our team meetings”[/I] than [I]“Susie, in the past two team meetings, I’ve felt personally attacked when you called my ideas stupid in front of the team, and I don’t feel that it’s appropriate.”[/I] Sure, she might deny it or get defensive, but from that moment forward, she knows that[I] you know[/I] that you’re on to her childish bullying games. Also, if your goal in this discussion is to simply make the bully aware of her bullying behavior, then you’re totally missing the point–please trust that the bully is fully aware of what she’s doing and how it makes you feel. She actually gets off on it. You’re bringing this to her attention to put her on notice that [I]her behavior is not okay with you and that you’d like it to stop[/I]. Most bullies never expect to be called out on their behavior, and now that you’ve put it out there, she’ll have to make the difficult choice of either stopping her behavior or continue to prove that you are right about her foolishness all along. Most importantly, when it comes to bully coworkers, you have to know which battles are worth fighting and which ones aren’t worth your time. I know that there are always some people who believe that standing up to bullies is a bad idea because it could backfire on you. But to those people, I have a question: [I]If you’re not going to stand up for yourself, then who will?[/I] Like I said earlier, no one said that dealing with bullies is fun, [I]but it’s necessary[/I]. [URL='http://thepositivitysolution.com/the-enemy-within/']Fighting through your fear to do the right thing for yourself and others[/URL] is the epitome of bravery. In my experience, bravery will always win against the cowardice of a bully every day of the week. This daily battle goes on... All the best! [/QUOTE]
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