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ਜਪੁ | Jup
ਸੋ ਦਰੁ | So Dar
ਸੋਹਿਲਾ | Sohilaa
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਿਰੀਰਾਗੁ | Raag Siree-Raag
Gurbani (14-53)
Ashtpadiyan (53-71)
Gurbani (71-74)
Pahre (74-78)
Chhant (78-81)
Vanjara (81-82)
Vaar Siri Raag (83-91)
Bhagat Bani (91-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਝ | Raag Maajh
Gurbani (94-109)
Ashtpadi (109)
Ashtpadiyan (110-129)
Ashtpadi (129-130)
Ashtpadiyan (130-133)
Bara Maha (133-136)
Din Raen (136-137)
Vaar Maajh Ki (137-150)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗਉੜੀ | Raag Gauree
Gurbani (151-185)
Quartets/Couplets (185-220)
Ashtpadiyan (220-234)
Karhalei (234-235)
Ashtpadiyan (235-242)
Chhant (242-249)
Baavan Akhari (250-262)
Sukhmani (262-296)
Thittee (296-300)
Gauree kii Vaar (300-323)
Gurbani (323-330)
Ashtpadiyan (330-340)
Baavan Akhari (340-343)
Thintteen (343-344)
Vaar Kabir (344-345)
Bhagat Bani (345-346)
ਰਾਗੁ ਆਸਾ | Raag Aasaa
Gurbani (347-348)
Chaupaday (348-364)
Panchpadde (364-365)
Kaafee (365-409)
Aasaavaree (409-411)
Ashtpadiyan (411-432)
Patee (432-435)
Chhant (435-462)
Vaar Aasaa (462-475)
Bhagat Bani (475-488)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੂਜਰੀ | Raag Goojaree
Gurbani (489-503)
Ashtpadiyan (503-508)
Vaar Gujari (508-517)
Vaar Gujari (517-526)
ਰਾਗੁ ਦੇਵਗੰਧਾਰੀ | Raag Dayv-Gandhaaree
Gurbani (527-536)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਹਾਗੜਾ | Raag Bihaagraa
Gurbani (537-556)
Chhant (538-548)
Vaar Bihaagraa (548-556)
ਰਾਗੁ ਵਡਹੰਸ | Raag Wadhans
Gurbani (557-564)
Ashtpadiyan (564-565)
Chhant (565-575)
Ghoriaan (575-578)
Alaahaniiaa (578-582)
Vaar Wadhans (582-594)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੋਰਠਿ | Raag Sorath
Gurbani (595-634)
Asatpadhiya (634-642)
Vaar Sorath (642-659)
ਰਾਗੁ ਧਨਾਸਰੀ | Raag Dhanasaree
Gurbani (660-685)
Astpadhiya (685-687)
Chhant (687-691)
Bhagat Bani (691-695)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਤਸਰੀ | Raag Jaitsree
Gurbani (696-703)
Chhant (703-705)
Vaar Jaitsaree (705-710)
Bhagat Bani (710)
ਰਾਗੁ ਟੋਡੀ | Raag Todee
ਰਾਗੁ ਬੈਰਾੜੀ | Raag Bairaaree
ਰਾਗੁ ਤਿਲੰਗ | Raag Tilang
Gurbani (721-727)
Bhagat Bani (727)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੂਹੀ | Raag Suhi
Gurbani (728-750)
Ashtpadiyan (750-761)
Kaafee (761-762)
Suchajee (762)
Gunvantee (763)
Chhant (763-785)
Vaar Soohee (785-792)
Bhagat Bani (792-794)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਲਾਵਲੁ | Raag Bilaaval
Gurbani (795-831)
Ashtpadiyan (831-838)
Thitteen (838-840)
Vaar Sat (841-843)
Chhant (843-848)
Vaar Bilaaval (849-855)
Bhagat Bani (855-858)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੋਂਡ | Raag Gond
Gurbani (859-869)
Ashtpadiyan (869)
Bhagat Bani (870-875)
ਰਾਗੁ ਰਾਮਕਲੀ | Raag Ramkalee
Ashtpadiyan (902-916)
Gurbani (876-902)
Anand (917-922)
Sadd (923-924)
Chhant (924-929)
Dakhnee (929-938)
Sidh Gosat (938-946)
Vaar Ramkalee (947-968)
ਰਾਗੁ ਨਟ ਨਾਰਾਇਨ | Raag Nat Narayan
Gurbani (975-980)
Ashtpadiyan (980-983)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਲੀ ਗਉੜਾ | Raag Maalee Gauraa
Gurbani (984-988)
Bhagat Bani (988)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਰੂ | Raag Maaroo
Gurbani (889-1008)
Ashtpadiyan (1008-1014)
Kaafee (1014-1016)
Ashtpadiyan (1016-1019)
Anjulian (1019-1020)
Solhe (1020-1033)
Dakhni (1033-1043)
ਰਾਗੁ ਤੁਖਾਰੀ | Raag Tukhaari
Bara Maha (1107-1110)
Chhant (1110-1117)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕੇਦਾਰਾ | Raag Kedara
Gurbani (1118-1123)
Bhagat Bani (1123-1124)
ਰਾਗੁ ਭੈਰਉ | Raag Bhairo
Gurbani (1125-1152)
Partaal (1153)
Ashtpadiyan (1153-1167)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਸੰਤੁ | Raag Basant
Gurbani (1168-1187)
Ashtpadiyan (1187-1193)
Vaar Basant (1193-1196)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਾਰਗ | Raag Saarag
Gurbani (1197-1200)
Partaal (1200-1231)
Ashtpadiyan (1232-1236)
Chhant (1236-1237)
Vaar Saarang (1237-1253)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਲਾਰ | Raag Malaar
Gurbani (1254-1293)
Partaal (1265-1273)
Ashtpadiyan (1273-1278)
Chhant (1278)
Vaar Malaar (1278-91)
Bhagat Bani (1292-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਾਨੜਾ | Raag Kaanraa
Gurbani (1294-96)
Partaal (1296-1318)
Ashtpadiyan (1308-1312)
Chhant (1312)
Vaar Kaanraa
Bhagat Bani (1318)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਲਿਆਨ | Raag Kalyaan
Gurbani (1319-23)
Ashtpadiyan (1323-26)
ਰਾਗੁ ਪ੍ਰਭਾਤੀ | Raag Prabhaatee
Gurbani (1327-1341)
Ashtpadiyan (1342-51)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਜਾਵੰਤੀ | Raag Jaijaiwanti
Gurbani (1352-53)
Salok | Gatha | Phunahe | Chaubole | Swayiye
Sehskritee Mahala 1
Sehskritee Mahala 5
Gaathaa Mahala 5
Phunhay Mahala 5
Chaubolae Mahala 5
Shaloks Bhagat Kabir
Shaloks Sheikh Farid
Swaiyyae Mahala 5
Swaiyyae in Praise of Gurus
Shaloks in Addition To Vaars
Shalok Ninth Mehl
Mundavanee Mehl 5
ਰਾਗ ਮਾਲਾ, Raag Maalaa
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<blockquote data-quote="Seeker2013" data-source="post: 207774" data-attributes="member: 19755"><p>Remember I told you about how my first job itself was a miracle , a gurprasad , waheguruji's blessing</p><p>However it seems like the colleagues are a curse.</p><p></p><p>Since day one, I was harassed during lunch breaks in canteen and joked upon and bullied by one person . He's a south indian and a bodybuilder . He called me names , ridiculed my dastaar and also ridiculed kirpan. NO ONE scolded him for it when infact he called me names in front of everyone .</p><p>He used to say things like "Why do you wear that thing on your head?" , "How do you deal if you got an itch on your scalp?" , "How do you wear helmets ?" ,"If a sikh lady is wearing kirpan and she's cutting vegetables and loses her knife, can she cut using kirpan ?"</p><p>He mocked me to no extent , ridiculed my faith , ridiculed my apparent-sexuality (they think I am gay) , called my technical skills a joke and joked on the fact that I have at times seeked help from more experienced colleagues.</p><p></p><p>[ATTACH=full]19911[/ATTACH] </p><p></p><p>The HR manager (now he has left ) also used to hate me, because he didn't really want me to join . He also held a dislike for me since day one.</p><p></p><p>Now you must be wondering why I don't complain . Because sometimes , when I have felt it unbearable , I have lashed it out on them. They say if I complain to the HR , they will unite and complain against me . This is my first job , I don't have any previous experience .</p><p>Today morning in his absence , I said something like to one of my other colleagues "I pray he (south indian bully) would die by infected by maggots " (keede peh ke mar jaave). I agree I shouldn't have said so , but TBH the times he has bullied me so much, even my spiteful remark would fall pale in front of it</p><p></p><p>But as usual , everyone turned against me . One of my colleagues came close to me and she said "how can you even say something so spiteful ? he just jokes with you "</p><p>other said in a stern voice "how you even got so much dare to say such a thing"</p><p></p><p>I felt so panicked and scared I ran away from office and came home, citing poor health.</p><p></p><p>I agree I have shortcomings, I am naive , I can be idiot at times, but the way he started it all by ridiculing me in lunch breaks in front of everyone, not once but multiple times.</p><p></p><p>I feel so helpless.</p><p>I don't know what to do .</p><p>Why this is happening with me when I don't wish bad for everyone (except today morning which was like an outburst after days of frustration. silly , dangerous and immature I agree but why was I treated so in the first place. did I deserve it <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /></p><p></p><p>PS : why everyone either ignores or laughs in when I am being bullied , but when I retaliate, then I am the bad guy and everyone is ready to criticize. I am having a hard time having faith in this concept of friendship. I feel traumatized and incidents like these force me to question myself</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Seeker2013, post: 207774, member: 19755"] Remember I told you about how my first job itself was a miracle , a gurprasad , waheguruji's blessing However it seems like the colleagues are a curse. Since day one, I was harassed during lunch breaks in canteen and joked upon and bullied by one person . He's a south indian and a bodybuilder . He called me names , ridiculed my dastaar and also ridiculed kirpan. NO ONE scolded him for it when infact he called me names in front of everyone . He used to say things like "Why do you wear that thing on your head?" , "How do you deal if you got an itch on your scalp?" , "How do you wear helmets ?" ,"If a sikh lady is wearing kirpan and she's cutting vegetables and loses her knife, can she cut using kirpan ?" He mocked me to no extent , ridiculed my faith , ridiculed my apparent-sexuality (they think I am gay) , called my technical skills a joke and joked on the fact that I have at times seeked help from more experienced colleagues. [ATTACH=full]19911[/ATTACH] The HR manager (now he has left ) also used to hate me, because he didn't really want me to join . He also held a dislike for me since day one. Now you must be wondering why I don't complain . Because sometimes , when I have felt it unbearable , I have lashed it out on them. They say if I complain to the HR , they will unite and complain against me . This is my first job , I don't have any previous experience . Today morning in his absence , I said something like to one of my other colleagues "I pray he (south indian bully) would die by infected by maggots " (keede peh ke mar jaave). I agree I shouldn't have said so , but TBH the times he has bullied me so much, even my spiteful remark would fall pale in front of it But as usual , everyone turned against me . One of my colleagues came close to me and she said "how can you even say something so spiteful ? he just jokes with you " other said in a stern voice "how you even got so much dare to say such a thing" I felt so panicked and scared I ran away from office and came home, citing poor health. I agree I have shortcomings, I am naive , I can be idiot at times, but the way he started it all by ridiculing me in lunch breaks in front of everyone, not once but multiple times. I feel so helpless. I don't know what to do . Why this is happening with me when I don't wish bad for everyone (except today morning which was like an outburst after days of frustration. silly , dangerous and immature I agree but why was I treated so in the first place. did I deserve it :( PS : why everyone either ignores or laughs in when I am being bullied , but when I retaliate, then I am the bad guy and everyone is ready to criticize. I am having a hard time having faith in this concept of friendship. I feel traumatized and incidents like these force me to question myself [/QUOTE]
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