I know there has been a long discussion in similar threads and I will read them. But I would appreciate a direct help and answer to my situation. I am a turkish girl who accepted to follow Sikhism sincerely when I learned about this faith. After a couple of years of serious consideration, me and a Punjabi-Sikh guy we wanted to get married. We are both mature (30 years old), highly educated people earning our own living, and we didn't make a haste decision. My friend’s father understood that I am a real nice girl and a sincere Sikh, and I am capable of fitting into their culture. He agreed to our wish, but obviously his mother doesn’t want me. My friend has siblings and they are already married. The mother says that if he marries a non-Punjabi Sikh, then in the future (maybe 20 years down the line) it will create problems for the (yet unborn) children of the siblings, because good Sikh families won't want to let their kids to marry someone in whose family there is an outsider like me. I understand that some families may think that way, but I can't accept that all good Sikh families should support the caste/race divisions which is clearly in contradiction with Gurus’ teachings. Would this really be the case? Would the children of my friend's siblings not find spouses because my friend marries a non-indian sikh? Is this such a insurmountable problem or is it just exaggeration and unreal fear? To be exact, my question is: would the kids of my friends' sisters/brothers not find marriage offers from good Sikh families, because there is a white Sikh in the family?