Well folks, compatibility, in marriage, is really important.
Nobody becomes a good Sikh just because s/he classifies her/himself as Sikh, nor could two people become compatible just because they are both Sikhs.
When I refer to good Sikh, I am referring to Sikhs who actually have achieve state of mind where they think like Gurus and Saints did. So, since gurus and saints believed in equality of all mankind, a Sikh can only be a good Sikh if sees all as one. So, for good Sikh, there is no reason at all to discriminate based up religion, caste, color or race or anything else that puts us into different classifications.
Since a good sikh is supposed to treat both Sikh and Muslim the same, does this mean he is required to marry a Muslim. Not at all, because in a marriage compatibility "should be" more important than anything else, religion, caste, race or color.
But does religion, caste, race or color have effect on compatibility? Sometimes, it does but some other times, it doesn't.
So does it really make sense for someone, whose behaviour and attitude is affected by his/her religion, caste or race, thus affecting his/her compatibility with someone else of different religion, caste or race, to marry someone of different religion, caste or race? I don't think so.
So, I don't believe it's wrong for anyone to desire marry into his/her own religion, caste or race, especially if religion, race or caste determines compatibility.
Now what's really ironing is that those who yelling their lungs out that Sikhi is about treating the whole humanity the same are the same people who are saying that they wouldn't even hire someone unless they were Amritdharis.
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Now dear Sis,
Like I said on Sikhnet, if you really wanna get married to this guy, first you need to make sure that relationship is all genuine. You should not go against your parents. Instead try talking to them first starting with your mom.
Although our family's bad experience with inter-caste or inter-religious marriages does not mean that all inter-caste or inter-religious marriage are going to end up this way, it helps to understand that sometimes love alone isn't good enough in a marriage.
One of my cousins married a Sikh of different caste and the other two married non-Sikhs of different races. Rest of us are married within caste and religion and had arranged marriages. Those who married to someone of different caste, religion and race are all divorced today and rest of us, who had arranged marriages within caste and religion, are happily married. The ones married to someone of different religions stayed married for ten years but the one who married a Sikh of different caste ended up in divorce only after two months. But like I said, of course it doesn't mean that all inter-caste and inter-religious love marriages are going to end up like this but this is something to think about whether or not, your relationship is really genuine...