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Old 23-01-2008, 06:56 AM
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hey
I have a small question to ask u guys:
Why do so many of our Sikh girls like Punjabi munde who cut their hair?
I think in Gurudwara....they should teach these girls about it because most of our brothers our cutting their hair only due to these girls.
I know so many instances where a guy cuts his hair after marrying to a girl or even if they are going out.....I'm in University studying engineering and i know this is true.
Most of the Sikh girls prefer a clean-shaven guy and not a guy who has beard and turban.......This has happened with me, that a girl wanted to go out with me only if i would cut my hair.
'main onu kya ki tere wargiyan mainu lakh mil jaogi par meri pag nahin uthru gi'

I just want to tell the Sikh girls on this website to please tell your friends that 'Sardars' are maintaining this religion and we look handsome with a turban n beard........we've got style & are educated so you'll have to change ur perception about us or they'll b no religion such as Sikhism in near future coz our future generation will just look like hindus.

Thats all I have to say!!!!!!
Plz comment....i want to hear some reviews




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i agree!

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that's quite a broad and negative generalization of Sikh girls.

unless she's holding a gun to his head, no girl can make a guy cut his hair. he does it because he wants to.

you cannot blame the downfall of Sikh guys on women. i know it's easier if it's the girls' fault, but it's not true and it's not fair.

if you don't know girls who prefer gursikhs, you don't know the right girls. maybe you should start looking somewhere else.




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I think this is the condition that is prevailing in India also. It may be due to lack of identification with some great Icon. We have very little amongst sikhs and those that we have are basking in thier personal glory. I happen to know a gentleman who started a production facility of ICs in India with US collaboration.The project clicked and the gentleman migrated to US and is lost in the crowd there. He gave a damn to sikhi. Likewise the ranbaxy's promoters are also not doing anything for sikhi. We do not have much to say that as a Sikh we are proud of except the religion is simple and preaches us spirituality in a simple way.




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that's quite a broad and negative generalization of Sikh girls.

unless she's holding a gun to his head, no girl can make a guy cut his hair. he does it because he wants to.

you cannot blame the downfall of Sikh guys on women. i know it's easier if it's the girls' fault, but it's not true and it's not fair.

if you don't know girls who prefer gursikhs, you don't know the right girls. maybe you should start looking somewhere else.
Dear jasleen

The pressure of society,could force a boy to cut his hair.If his cousin's,friend's are all having cut hair and you will find girls dying over them while despite being respectful and good you cannot get a girl so its obvious if a boy want's to cut hair.What I don't understand is that why religious Sikh girls like you don't want to accept that this problem exists in Sikh community.If a person tells me that Sikh men do plenty of drinking then I am not going to argue with him because I know that Sikh men drink though there is hardly any man in my family who drinks.

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hey
I have a small question to ask u guys:
Why do so many of our Sikh girls like Punjabi munde who cut their hair?
I think in Gurudwara....they should teach these girls about it because most of our brothers our cutting their hair only due to these girls.
I know so many instances where a guy cuts his hair after marrying to a girl or even if they are going out.....I'm in University studying engineering and i know this is true.
Most of the Sikh girls prefer a clean-shaven guy and not a guy who has beard and turban.......This has happened with me, that a girl wanted to go out with me only if i would cut my hair.
'main onu kya ki tere wargiyan mainu lakh mil jaogi par meri pag nahin uthru gi'

I just want to tell the Sikh girls on this website to please tell your friends that 'Sardars' are maintaining this religion and we look handsome with a turban n beard........we've got style & are educated so you'll have to change ur perception about us or they'll b no religion such as Sikhism in near future coz our future generation will just look like hindus.

Thats all I have to say!!!!!!
Plz comment....i want to hear some reviews
There is another side of story and that is religious Sikh girls mainly belongs to tradition families and I don't think in indian parents accept there daughter dating with someone so
Its obvious that they will go for arrange marriage

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I think this is the condition that is prevailing in India also. It may be due to lack of identification with some great Icon. We have very little amongst sikhs and those that we have are basking in thier personal glory. I happen to know a gentleman who started a production facility of ICs in India with US collaboration.The project clicked and the gentleman migrated to US and is lost in the crowd there. He gave a damn to sikhi. Likewise the ranbaxy's promoters are also not doing anything for sikhi. We do not have much to say that as a Sikh we are proud of except the religion is simple and preaches us spirituality in a simple way.
Dear sikh80

As i mentioned above In India there is hardly any chance of religious Sikh girl dating.As we were discussing income in other threads let me tell you that dating mainly starts from upper middle class bracket.good middle clas youngsters have to study day and night
to get admission in good engineering or medicalor any other college.The culture of dating is disastrous for middle class boys.I know hindu boys who just ruin their life because of this only to realise at the age of 23-24 that all doors of good careers are closed
for them.




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Kds ji,
All that you state is ok. But what is the solution.? How will this trend be reversed.? I have no solution.If you happen to visit Punjab it is difficult to analyse as to why the situation is so adverse and no one seems to be worried.




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Kds ji,
All that you state is ok. But what is the solution.? How will this trend be reversed.? I have no solution.If you happen to visit Punjab it is difficult to analyse as to why the situation is so adverse and no one seems to be worried.

There is no solution. It is not reversible. Humanity goes in a one-way, irreversible path.

Globalization of the world leads to a monoculture atmosphere. People who are very proud of only their own culture and practice only the core elements of their culture will not survive.

Unless a time occurs where individual Sikhs need to band together for a community cause (Govt. secluding and killing sikhs) there is no need for a Sikh to pick one method over another if all options are equal, and he wants to remain the most "fit" for the society he lives in. You simply won't see it happening.

Unless you give someone an economic benefit to commit an individual goal to help a community cause, they simply will not care.

The essence of a democracy is to filter through all communities and make everyone think on an individual scale. "I can rise up on my own"

Although religious people have their motives, let's take it at face value that the majority of any community is not religious. "By keeping my hair the Sikh identity will last longer ... what does that do for me?" is the common question being asked. Yes, the religious observer will say "I am living Guru's words" and thats a reasonable answer. But, for the non-religious ... he gains no benefit on an element that only helps a community (not even help the community economically, just 'religiously' ) ...

Unless something drastic happens, humans in a democracy will continue to act only individually and seek economic benefit.

You'll see the same thing happen to the hijab once the middle east liberalizes...

Sikhs aren't the first people to ever see this trend.

On another note, there's a large trend in Male Sikhs who keep a turban and a beard and ogle at girls in mini-skirts. Unless you want all Sikhs to remove themselves from society, this trend won't stop. And if you want people to stop, you have to provide them with a suitable individual benefit that they will care for. The religious benefit of attaining "god" is no longer a viable option to sell to the masses, the power in the element of "god" is being lost in mainstream society.

Sometimes you have to leave things behind to find a new beginning.

I find it amazing, that after taking so many history courses (I'm assuming everyone here is well-educated), you somehow seem to believe Sikhs are an exception to the natural laws of humanity ? Cultures, and philosophies will always come and go, and continually be revised. Some elements may stay around, but like any culture before us, our time will come.

The Aztecs, Mayans, Samurai ... all these cultures have died before us or changed so much due to globalization that they are not nearly the same anymore ... but somehow you think Sikhs will overcome the global-culture threat ? Why would we want to ? What is the benefit in overcoming the global culture? More differences and boundaries ripened throughout humanity everywhere?




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hey
I have a small question to ask u guys:
Why do so many of our Sikh girls like Punjabi munde who cut their hair?
I think in Gurudwara....they should teach these girls about it because most of our brothers our cutting their hair only due to these girls.
Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa
Waheguru Ji ki Fateh bhaji

i really dnt want to sound rude..but ive heard the same question asked again and again..but i never really get a str8 ansa to my question that im going to ask u...

im assuming that the girl ur talking about ws a good amritdhari kurri hu keeps her kesh and follows Guru Jis rehat maryada ??..if so id questn the ammount of sikhi she has..if not.. then bhaji id have to ask u..how many keshdhari Sikh bhenjis u have approached?

again i dnt mean to sound rude..but theres always 2 sides to the story
fair enough alot of punjabi monia (cut hair) girls do prefer cut hair boys and some amritdhari girls are the same..but from wot ive seen..the oppisite is possibly more common..that guys dnt prefer the amritdhari/ kheshdhari girls.

Id realy like to hear ur oppinions on this..and if n e 1 disagrees with anything i have said plz do reply

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i really dnt want to sound rude..but ive heard the same question asked again and again..but i never really get a str8 ansa to my question that im going to ask u...

im assuming that the girl ur talking about ws a good amritdhari kurri hu keeps her kesh and follows Guru Jis rehat maryada ??..if so id questn the ammount of sikhi she has..if not.. then bhaji id have to ask u..how many keshdhari Sikh bhenjis u have approached?

again i dnt mean to sound rude..but theres always 2 sides to the story
fair enough alot of punjabi monia (cut hair) girls do prefer cut hair boys and some amritdhari girls are the same..but from wot ive seen..the oppisite is possibly more common..that guys dnt prefer the amritdhari/ kheshdhari girls.

Id realy like to hear ur oppinions on this..and if n e 1 disagrees with anything i have said plz do reply

Bhulchuk maaf karni jii
Wahegiri ji Ka Khalsa
Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh
i agree with this 100%. i think the problem is that these guys who would cut their hair for a girl actually PREFER cut haired girls, with waxed legs and threaded eyebrows. if they were talking to gursikh girls, no one would suggest they cut their hair... but they have what's called a "double standard". they want a girl who looks like a bollywood star while they keep their turban and beard. and they wonder why little miss bollywood has no interest in them.

i will never understand this. why do Sikh men prefer girls who cut their hair? and then complain that it's really the other way out?

how many of you guys who are complaining so much would go for a girl with heavy eyebrows or a mustache? if those things are a problem for you, think long and hard about why you're keeping your own kes, and meditate on the word "hypocrite".

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The pressure of society,could force a boy to cut his hair.If his cousin's,friend's are all having cut hair and you will find girls dying over them while despite being respectful and good you cannot get a girl so its obvious if a boy want's to cut hair.What I don't understand is that why religious Sikh girls like you don't want to accept that this problem exists in Sikh community.If a person tells me that Sikh men do plenty of drinking then I am not going to argue with him because I know that Sikh men drink though there is hardly any man in my family who drinks.

because if religious Sikh guys were going for religious Sikh girls, this "problem" wouldn't exist.

but instead they want to keep their kes and marry girls who wax and trim and pluck and thread.

sorry, it's probably not gonna happen.

interestingly, there are four mixed race marriages at my gurdwara, and ALL of the men have their kes. if your own women don't like you as you are, maybe it's time to think outside the box.

(don't kill me, i'm just joking. i know i'll probably get death threats from some angry punjabi woman for this... )




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but they have what's called a "double standard". they want a girl who looks like a bollywood star while they keep their turban and beard. and they wonder why little miss bollywood has no interest in them.

meditate on the word "hypocrite".
hehe bhenji..well said

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