Convincing A Sikh Girl To Marry A Sikh Boy

My cousin is interested in marrying a Hindu guy who she has fallen in love with. My large family is all Sikh.
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Can people suggest how can we convince her to marry a Sikh Guy. One suggestion also has come to ask the guy to become Hindu. Any suggestions will be appreciated.


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".....come to ask the guy to become a SIKH you mean?"

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its funny to even think of asking someone to change religions... it must come from inside..

interesting question though... how do sikh rehat have a take on this?

does a sikh become non sikh if they marry a non sikh?
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and another point...may i dare to ask... how can you say that the girl is a sikh?

does she follow all the rehat ?

we have had many interesting debates on that...who is sikh and who is not

There is no reason to tell her to marry a guy who is Sikh rather than Hindu. A Sikh guy could turn out to be a complete tosser. So that is the wrong reason.
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A reason you could use is religions are quite different, historically they are tight arses, they are not warriers and play political games. But that is only generally speaking of course....not focusing on the man.

You cannot push her out of it...you must provide valid arguments and logical thoughts in this one.

We have a large family and all family is married totally in Sikhs. She is the first one marrying out and I am thinking that life will become very hard for her not only because Sikhism has totally denounced Hinduism but also Sikhi if you follow seriously helps you live a very happy content spiritual life as well. My question is what points can we make to help her marry a sikh guy so she sees the value of marrying in Sikh Religion.

i really dont think its a good idea to force the girl into marrying a sikh guy instead because if she fell in love with this hindu guy,that means she fell for the person and probably doesnt care about the religion aspect.i mean as long as the guy respects her, then its good. The guy can follow his religion and she can follow Sikhi. Religion shouldnt be an issue when it comes to the matters of the heart. As one writer said "Love is bottling the common sense and uncorking the imagination."

Pyar or love when it happens with any soul is a realy eternal . One do not have to prove by marring other. That is not the end of love . Love ,it makes no differences what group or faith you have come from as love is main teachings of all the relegions.Any institutinalnal approch towards any relegion has caused vast indiiferences among the society and division by forgetting that there is one God and Love is the only truth exist.

But if you are making a choice by your liking or infatuations one has to be very serious to commit life long union considering not only love weather the couple is ready to accept each other's traditions and life styles.

Because after some time when you hit the real life as a married couple ,the love evporate and more responsabilities surround you.That is where your real love colors will appear when unforseen problems start rising from family and fiancial problems. You better be rich otherwise love will not be served in the plate to live and feed your childerens.

So marry a person because you both knows that it is your choice. Good luck.

jaspi

Pyar or love when it happens with any soul is a realy eternal . One do not have to prove by marring other. That is not the end of love . Love ,it makes no differences what group or faith you have come from as love is main teachings of all the relegions.Any institutinalnal approch towards any relegion has caused vast indiiferences among the society and division by forgetting that there is one God and Love is the only truth exist.

But if you are making a choice by your liking or infatuations one has to be very serious to commit life long union considering not only love weather the couple is ready to accept each other's traditions and life styles.

Because after some time when you hit the real life as a married couple ,the love evporate and more responsabilities surround you.That is where your real love colors will appear when unforseen problems start rising from family and fiancial problems. You better be rich otherwise love will not be served in the plate to live and feed your childerens.

So marry a person because you both knows that it is your choice. Good luck.

jaspi

From what I have observed, marriages between Punjabi Hindu's and Sikhs happen and seem to go on ok, because many Punjabi Hindu's believe in the Guru's.

It maybe an idea to ask this guy to become a Sikh because of family objections, but if your family do not accept him then life for her will be hell.