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ਜਪੁ | Jup
ਸੋ ਦਰੁ | So Dar
ਸੋਹਿਲਾ | Sohilaa
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਿਰੀਰਾਗੁ | Raag Siree-Raag
Gurbani (14-53)
Ashtpadiyan (53-71)
Gurbani (71-74)
Pahre (74-78)
Chhant (78-81)
Vanjara (81-82)
Vaar Siri Raag (83-91)
Bhagat Bani (91-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਝ | Raag Maajh
Gurbani (94-109)
Ashtpadi (109)
Ashtpadiyan (110-129)
Ashtpadi (129-130)
Ashtpadiyan (130-133)
Bara Maha (133-136)
Din Raen (136-137)
Vaar Maajh Ki (137-150)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗਉੜੀ | Raag Gauree
Gurbani (151-185)
Quartets/Couplets (185-220)
Ashtpadiyan (220-234)
Karhalei (234-235)
Ashtpadiyan (235-242)
Chhant (242-249)
Baavan Akhari (250-262)
Sukhmani (262-296)
Thittee (296-300)
Gauree kii Vaar (300-323)
Gurbani (323-330)
Ashtpadiyan (330-340)
Baavan Akhari (340-343)
Thintteen (343-344)
Vaar Kabir (344-345)
Bhagat Bani (345-346)
ਰਾਗੁ ਆਸਾ | Raag Aasaa
Gurbani (347-348)
Chaupaday (348-364)
Panchpadde (364-365)
Kaafee (365-409)
Aasaavaree (409-411)
Ashtpadiyan (411-432)
Patee (432-435)
Chhant (435-462)
Vaar Aasaa (462-475)
Bhagat Bani (475-488)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੂਜਰੀ | Raag Goojaree
Gurbani (489-503)
Ashtpadiyan (503-508)
Vaar Gujari (508-517)
Vaar Gujari (517-526)
ਰਾਗੁ ਦੇਵਗੰਧਾਰੀ | Raag Dayv-Gandhaaree
Gurbani (527-536)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਹਾਗੜਾ | Raag Bihaagraa
Gurbani (537-556)
Chhant (538-548)
Vaar Bihaagraa (548-556)
ਰਾਗੁ ਵਡਹੰਸ | Raag Wadhans
Gurbani (557-564)
Ashtpadiyan (564-565)
Chhant (565-575)
Ghoriaan (575-578)
Alaahaniiaa (578-582)
Vaar Wadhans (582-594)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੋਰਠਿ | Raag Sorath
Gurbani (595-634)
Asatpadhiya (634-642)
Vaar Sorath (642-659)
ਰਾਗੁ ਧਨਾਸਰੀ | Raag Dhanasaree
Gurbani (660-685)
Astpadhiya (685-687)
Chhant (687-691)
Bhagat Bani (691-695)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਤਸਰੀ | Raag Jaitsree
Gurbani (696-703)
Chhant (703-705)
Vaar Jaitsaree (705-710)
Bhagat Bani (710)
ਰਾਗੁ ਟੋਡੀ | Raag Todee
ਰਾਗੁ ਬੈਰਾੜੀ | Raag Bairaaree
ਰਾਗੁ ਤਿਲੰਗ | Raag Tilang
Gurbani (721-727)
Bhagat Bani (727)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੂਹੀ | Raag Suhi
Gurbani (728-750)
Ashtpadiyan (750-761)
Kaafee (761-762)
Suchajee (762)
Gunvantee (763)
Chhant (763-785)
Vaar Soohee (785-792)
Bhagat Bani (792-794)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਲਾਵਲੁ | Raag Bilaaval
Gurbani (795-831)
Ashtpadiyan (831-838)
Thitteen (838-840)
Vaar Sat (841-843)
Chhant (843-848)
Vaar Bilaaval (849-855)
Bhagat Bani (855-858)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੋਂਡ | Raag Gond
Gurbani (859-869)
Ashtpadiyan (869)
Bhagat Bani (870-875)
ਰਾਗੁ ਰਾਮਕਲੀ | Raag Ramkalee
Ashtpadiyan (902-916)
Gurbani (876-902)
Anand (917-922)
Sadd (923-924)
Chhant (924-929)
Dakhnee (929-938)
Sidh Gosat (938-946)
Vaar Ramkalee (947-968)
ਰਾਗੁ ਨਟ ਨਾਰਾਇਨ | Raag Nat Narayan
Gurbani (975-980)
Ashtpadiyan (980-983)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਲੀ ਗਉੜਾ | Raag Maalee Gauraa
Gurbani (984-988)
Bhagat Bani (988)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਰੂ | Raag Maaroo
Gurbani (889-1008)
Ashtpadiyan (1008-1014)
Kaafee (1014-1016)
Ashtpadiyan (1016-1019)
Anjulian (1019-1020)
Solhe (1020-1033)
Dakhni (1033-1043)
ਰਾਗੁ ਤੁਖਾਰੀ | Raag Tukhaari
Bara Maha (1107-1110)
Chhant (1110-1117)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕੇਦਾਰਾ | Raag Kedara
Gurbani (1118-1123)
Bhagat Bani (1123-1124)
ਰਾਗੁ ਭੈਰਉ | Raag Bhairo
Gurbani (1125-1152)
Partaal (1153)
Ashtpadiyan (1153-1167)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਸੰਤੁ | Raag Basant
Gurbani (1168-1187)
Ashtpadiyan (1187-1193)
Vaar Basant (1193-1196)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਾਰਗ | Raag Saarag
Gurbani (1197-1200)
Partaal (1200-1231)
Ashtpadiyan (1232-1236)
Chhant (1236-1237)
Vaar Saarang (1237-1253)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਲਾਰ | Raag Malaar
Gurbani (1254-1293)
Partaal (1265-1273)
Ashtpadiyan (1273-1278)
Chhant (1278)
Vaar Malaar (1278-91)
Bhagat Bani (1292-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਾਨੜਾ | Raag Kaanraa
Gurbani (1294-96)
Partaal (1296-1318)
Ashtpadiyan (1308-1312)
Chhant (1312)
Vaar Kaanraa
Bhagat Bani (1318)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਲਿਆਨ | Raag Kalyaan
Gurbani (1319-23)
Ashtpadiyan (1323-26)
ਰਾਗੁ ਪ੍ਰਭਾਤੀ | Raag Prabhaatee
Gurbani (1327-1341)
Ashtpadiyan (1342-51)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਜਾਵੰਤੀ | Raag Jaijaiwanti
Gurbani (1352-53)
Salok | Gatha | Phunahe | Chaubole | Swayiye
Sehskritee Mahala 1
Sehskritee Mahala 5
Gaathaa Mahala 5
Phunhay Mahala 5
Chaubolae Mahala 5
Shaloks Bhagat Kabir
Shaloks Sheikh Farid
Swaiyyae Mahala 5
Swaiyyae in Praise of Gurus
Shaloks in Addition To Vaars
Shalok Ninth Mehl
Mundavanee Mehl 5
ਰਾਗ ਮਾਲਾ, Raag Maalaa
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<blockquote data-quote="Kanwaljit.Singh" data-source="post: 159889" data-attributes="member: 14616"><p>I would say being men and women we have certain impulses programmed into us. And we have to be aware of our impulses and not act on them. That can only be done if our mind is controlled by Simran. And of course we have to acknowledge that we have such impulses.</p><p></p><p></p><p> </p><p>Yes it is not that I have ruled that out. That's why I also consider the goodies which come with Punjabi culture to be of high weightage.</p><p></p><p></p><p> </p><p>If the world has been bad to you, you can do either things... be bad to someone who comes under you. Or make a pledge not to have the future generation suffer the same fate as you.</p><p> </p><p>Saas Bahu stories are always very much on the edge. It could start with something as simple as the son/husband asking for his wife's cooked sabzi's second serving.</p><p></p><p></p><p> </p><p>I have seen an extreme where a woman with the most happiest life would torture her daughter in law, just to have sons and family's attention and be able to rule the roost.</p><p></p><p></p><p> </p><p>I guess one has to be ready for it when they know that the arranged marriage is inevitable. Marriage will always come with some + points and some - points. We just have to make sure the + are on higher side for both people. But later is the marriage, lesser is the chance people are willing to change themselves.</p><p></p><p></p><p> </p><p>I agree, but that bullying is so much part of how men hang together. In a group, all friends would make fun of each other. Same at work place. You always know who are your true friends, and casual ones and ones total enemies. But you don't get back at them with vengeance.</p><p> </p><p></p><p> </p><p>Yes showing off has always been the problem with Indian families. When I see the people in Western Culture, I respect them a lot for being 'anchored' in life, and not being a wild boat rocking around in the waves. E.g. they don't buy things they don't want with money they don't have to impress people they don't like.</p><p></p><p></p><p> </p><p>Every woman also has a fear of some other woman taking over her role. Men have it too, but I think they can handle it better. The web is full of comics, jokes, videos etc. parodying it. There is some truth to it. I think women are more stronger when there is a graver issue at hand, while men find it easy to ignore smaller issues.</p><p></p><p></p><p> </p><p>I love Yoda!</p><p></p><p></p><p> </p><p>Most probs figure out when someone (ie your spouse) is getting plagued by a fear and help them combat that.</p><p> </p><p></p><p> </p><p>Sure if you are nearing 30 and still single, you might be wanting it <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p></p><p></p><p> </p><p>I think that is the only answer which can guide people out of their miseries! Ego and jealousy will always keep you blind towards Guru.</p><p> </p><p></p><p> </p><p>Since men like to think they are earning for the family, and handling all its affairs, they </p><p>tend to be taken down by greed and anger more often.</p><p></p><p>Outside the scope of Gurbani and Gurmat, we might come up with points and plan of action. But it will not be effective as long as we don't have the khitch (string pulling) towards Waheguru.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Kanwaljit.Singh, post: 159889, member: 14616"] I would say being men and women we have certain impulses programmed into us. And we have to be aware of our impulses and not act on them. That can only be done if our mind is controlled by Simran. And of course we have to acknowledge that we have such impulses. Yes it is not that I have ruled that out. That's why I also consider the goodies which come with Punjabi culture to be of high weightage. If the world has been bad to you, you can do either things... be bad to someone who comes under you. Or make a pledge not to have the future generation suffer the same fate as you. Saas Bahu stories are always very much on the edge. It could start with something as simple as the son/husband asking for his wife's cooked sabzi's second serving. I have seen an extreme where a woman with the most happiest life would torture her daughter in law, just to have sons and family's attention and be able to rule the roost. I guess one has to be ready for it when they know that the arranged marriage is inevitable. Marriage will always come with some + points and some - points. We just have to make sure the + are on higher side for both people. But later is the marriage, lesser is the chance people are willing to change themselves. I agree, but that bullying is so much part of how men hang together. In a group, all friends would make fun of each other. Same at work place. You always know who are your true friends, and casual ones and ones total enemies. But you don't get back at them with vengeance. Yes showing off has always been the problem with Indian families. When I see the people in Western Culture, I respect them a lot for being 'anchored' in life, and not being a wild boat rocking around in the waves. E.g. they don't buy things they don't want with money they don't have to impress people they don't like. Every woman also has a fear of some other woman taking over her role. Men have it too, but I think they can handle it better. The web is full of comics, jokes, videos etc. parodying it. There is some truth to it. I think women are more stronger when there is a graver issue at hand, while men find it easy to ignore smaller issues. I love Yoda! Most probs figure out when someone (ie your spouse) is getting plagued by a fear and help them combat that. Sure if you are nearing 30 and still single, you might be wanting it :) I think that is the only answer which can guide people out of their miseries! Ego and jealousy will always keep you blind towards Guru. Since men like to think they are earning for the family, and handling all its affairs, they tend to be taken down by greed and anger more often. Outside the scope of Gurbani and Gurmat, we might come up with points and plan of action. But it will not be effective as long as we don't have the khitch (string pulling) towards Waheguru. [/QUOTE]
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