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ਸੋ ਦਰੁ | So Dar
ਸੋਹਿਲਾ | Sohilaa
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਿਰੀਰਾਗੁ | Raag Siree-Raag
Gurbani (14-53)
Ashtpadiyan (53-71)
Gurbani (71-74)
Pahre (74-78)
Chhant (78-81)
Vanjara (81-82)
Vaar Siri Raag (83-91)
Bhagat Bani (91-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਝ | Raag Maajh
Gurbani (94-109)
Ashtpadi (109)
Ashtpadiyan (110-129)
Ashtpadi (129-130)
Ashtpadiyan (130-133)
Bara Maha (133-136)
Din Raen (136-137)
Vaar Maajh Ki (137-150)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗਉੜੀ | Raag Gauree
Gurbani (151-185)
Quartets/Couplets (185-220)
Ashtpadiyan (220-234)
Karhalei (234-235)
Ashtpadiyan (235-242)
Chhant (242-249)
Baavan Akhari (250-262)
Sukhmani (262-296)
Thittee (296-300)
Gauree kii Vaar (300-323)
Gurbani (323-330)
Ashtpadiyan (330-340)
Baavan Akhari (340-343)
Thintteen (343-344)
Vaar Kabir (344-345)
Bhagat Bani (345-346)
ਰਾਗੁ ਆਸਾ | Raag Aasaa
Gurbani (347-348)
Chaupaday (348-364)
Panchpadde (364-365)
Kaafee (365-409)
Aasaavaree (409-411)
Ashtpadiyan (411-432)
Patee (432-435)
Chhant (435-462)
Vaar Aasaa (462-475)
Bhagat Bani (475-488)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੂਜਰੀ | Raag Goojaree
Gurbani (489-503)
Ashtpadiyan (503-508)
Vaar Gujari (508-517)
Vaar Gujari (517-526)
ਰਾਗੁ ਦੇਵਗੰਧਾਰੀ | Raag Dayv-Gandhaaree
Gurbani (527-536)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਹਾਗੜਾ | Raag Bihaagraa
Gurbani (537-556)
Chhant (538-548)
Vaar Bihaagraa (548-556)
ਰਾਗੁ ਵਡਹੰਸ | Raag Wadhans
Gurbani (557-564)
Ashtpadiyan (564-565)
Chhant (565-575)
Ghoriaan (575-578)
Alaahaniiaa (578-582)
Vaar Wadhans (582-594)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੋਰਠਿ | Raag Sorath
Gurbani (595-634)
Asatpadhiya (634-642)
Vaar Sorath (642-659)
ਰਾਗੁ ਧਨਾਸਰੀ | Raag Dhanasaree
Gurbani (660-685)
Astpadhiya (685-687)
Chhant (687-691)
Bhagat Bani (691-695)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਤਸਰੀ | Raag Jaitsree
Gurbani (696-703)
Chhant (703-705)
Vaar Jaitsaree (705-710)
Bhagat Bani (710)
ਰਾਗੁ ਟੋਡੀ | Raag Todee
ਰਾਗੁ ਬੈਰਾੜੀ | Raag Bairaaree
ਰਾਗੁ ਤਿਲੰਗ | Raag Tilang
Gurbani (721-727)
Bhagat Bani (727)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੂਹੀ | Raag Suhi
Gurbani (728-750)
Ashtpadiyan (750-761)
Kaafee (761-762)
Suchajee (762)
Gunvantee (763)
Chhant (763-785)
Vaar Soohee (785-792)
Bhagat Bani (792-794)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਲਾਵਲੁ | Raag Bilaaval
Gurbani (795-831)
Ashtpadiyan (831-838)
Thitteen (838-840)
Vaar Sat (841-843)
Chhant (843-848)
Vaar Bilaaval (849-855)
Bhagat Bani (855-858)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੋਂਡ | Raag Gond
Gurbani (859-869)
Ashtpadiyan (869)
Bhagat Bani (870-875)
ਰਾਗੁ ਰਾਮਕਲੀ | Raag Ramkalee
Ashtpadiyan (902-916)
Gurbani (876-902)
Anand (917-922)
Sadd (923-924)
Chhant (924-929)
Dakhnee (929-938)
Sidh Gosat (938-946)
Vaar Ramkalee (947-968)
ਰਾਗੁ ਨਟ ਨਾਰਾਇਨ | Raag Nat Narayan
Gurbani (975-980)
Ashtpadiyan (980-983)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਲੀ ਗਉੜਾ | Raag Maalee Gauraa
Gurbani (984-988)
Bhagat Bani (988)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਰੂ | Raag Maaroo
Gurbani (889-1008)
Ashtpadiyan (1008-1014)
Kaafee (1014-1016)
Ashtpadiyan (1016-1019)
Anjulian (1019-1020)
Solhe (1020-1033)
Dakhni (1033-1043)
ਰਾਗੁ ਤੁਖਾਰੀ | Raag Tukhaari
Bara Maha (1107-1110)
Chhant (1110-1117)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕੇਦਾਰਾ | Raag Kedara
Gurbani (1118-1123)
Bhagat Bani (1123-1124)
ਰਾਗੁ ਭੈਰਉ | Raag Bhairo
Gurbani (1125-1152)
Partaal (1153)
Ashtpadiyan (1153-1167)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਸੰਤੁ | Raag Basant
Gurbani (1168-1187)
Ashtpadiyan (1187-1193)
Vaar Basant (1193-1196)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਾਰਗ | Raag Saarag
Gurbani (1197-1200)
Partaal (1200-1231)
Ashtpadiyan (1232-1236)
Chhant (1236-1237)
Vaar Saarang (1237-1253)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਲਾਰ | Raag Malaar
Gurbani (1254-1293)
Partaal (1265-1273)
Ashtpadiyan (1273-1278)
Chhant (1278)
Vaar Malaar (1278-91)
Bhagat Bani (1292-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਾਨੜਾ | Raag Kaanraa
Gurbani (1294-96)
Partaal (1296-1318)
Ashtpadiyan (1308-1312)
Chhant (1312)
Vaar Kaanraa
Bhagat Bani (1318)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਲਿਆਨ | Raag Kalyaan
Gurbani (1319-23)
Ashtpadiyan (1323-26)
ਰਾਗੁ ਪ੍ਰਭਾਤੀ | Raag Prabhaatee
Gurbani (1327-1341)
Ashtpadiyan (1342-51)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਜਾਵੰਤੀ | Raag Jaijaiwanti
Gurbani (1352-53)
Salok | Gatha | Phunahe | Chaubole | Swayiye
Sehskritee Mahala 1
Sehskritee Mahala 5
Gaathaa Mahala 5
Phunhay Mahala 5
Chaubolae Mahala 5
Shaloks Bhagat Kabir
Shaloks Sheikh Farid
Swaiyyae Mahala 5
Swaiyyae in Praise of Gurus
Shaloks in Addition To Vaars
Shalok Ninth Mehl
Mundavanee Mehl 5
ਰਾਗ ਮਾਲਾ, Raag Maalaa
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<blockquote data-quote="Ishna" data-source="post: 153774" data-attributes="member: 2709"><p>Thanks everyone for your replies. Please forgive me if I don't respond to you directly here:</p><p></p><p><strong>Harry </strong>bhaji: I don't think I'd ever have the courage to say anything to those people! It's just what goes through my mind. You said it's about letting people worship how they want to, without judging that... that's where I get stuck in my black-and-white thinking, where my brain goes "but the rule is THIS, and they're doing THAT". I'd make a very good Muslim, I think!</p><p></p><p>But you probably make a good point, that I should just let go and let be.</p><p></p><p>You and <strong>Sinner </strong>jio both make typical male comments - if you get that kind of display in Darbar Sahib, top points for the experience! I'm sure you're both saying it in jest (at least that's the reality I choose to believe, haha), but I'm not so irritated that she displayed her bottom like that, because personally I don't care and I don't think it matters one iota to Guruji, but I feel so sorry for the men in the sangat who might have seen that and it may have unsettled their focus.</p><p></p><p>SPNadmin ji, thanks for the reassurance. I don't think I want people to change to be more like me, I want them to follow the rules, like I'm trying to follow the rules. That sounds horrible. And hypocritical, because there will be a lot of people who follow the rules a lot better than me, and they probably look at me and go, "pfft, what a disrespect, she's still got pierced ears, she doesn't know how to recite anything past the 5th pauri of Japji Sahib, she doesn't pray 7 nitnem bania per day, she doesn't bathe in cold water at 3am..."... Actually, thank you for bringing me down this thought-path, admin ji, because I've just realised people are at different places on the path. That shouldn't bother me. I should be concerning myself with those further up the path than me, not catching up behind. And they are at that place due to hukam anyway. Thanks!</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Tejwant ji: Wow your Gurdwara sounds so cool! I think my Gurdwara Sahib has a long way to go before it catches up to yours.</p><p></p><p>Your comment about talking to the sangat got me thinking, and I will continue to ponder it, but I think it may come across as a bit of hubris, the only "white convert" in the sangat talking to Punjabi Sikhs about their own religion!! Maybe one day, but definately not yet. I would be more comfortable writing a short column for the newsletter. Maybe I'll ponder that!</p><p></p><p><strong>Ambarsaria: </strong>hehe, your wife must be brave. I won't dare! And thank you for your comment about children and their experiences with Gurdwara. I just worry, childhood is also a teaching time, and having fun is one thing, but isn't it important to teach them the times when you need to be serious for a minute? I dunno. I'm not a mother of small children, it really is not for me to speculate on such issues. So that settles that!</p><p></p><p>I am far too shy during langar, I barely make eye contact with the person I sit opposite to! I just scoff my langar and get into the kitchen where I feel more comfortable doing seva with others. One of the parts I removed from my first post was that the mum referred to her child's hair as being 'just a mop on her head'... again I shouldn't comment on child-rearing having never been there myself, but the attitude just seemed so... not Sikh. ... <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /> I'm doing it again! Remember the path Ishna, just keep looking forward.</p><p></p><p><strong>Kanwaljit </strong>ji: You're right, it is still a faux pas... she's the first person I've seen do it. She probably didn't realise her top would slide that far when she bowed. She probably didn't even think of it, let alone do it maliciously. Perhaps she stayed the night at a friend's house and didn't have any more appropriate clothing.</p><p></p><p>LOVED your comment on being one person in all places. And it got me thinking, I am so many different people in different places! At work I am generally steady and the same... at home I am absorbed in the Internet (probably to an unhealthy degree)... at Gurdwara I am meek and respectful... visiting family I am full of beans and looking for cheap laughs... I will ponder this for a while!</p><p></p><p><strong>Soul_Jyot</strong> ji, I need to read your offering again!</p><p></p><p>Thanks again everyone for your valuable contributions.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Ishna, post: 153774, member: 2709"] Thanks everyone for your replies. Please forgive me if I don't respond to you directly here: [B]Harry [/B]bhaji: I don't think I'd ever have the courage to say anything to those people! It's just what goes through my mind. You said it's about letting people worship how they want to, without judging that... that's where I get stuck in my black-and-white thinking, where my brain goes "but the rule is THIS, and they're doing THAT". I'd make a very good Muslim, I think! But you probably make a good point, that I should just let go and let be. You and [B]Sinner [/B]jio both make typical male comments - if you get that kind of display in Darbar Sahib, top points for the experience! I'm sure you're both saying it in jest (at least that's the reality I choose to believe, haha), but I'm not so irritated that she displayed her bottom like that, because personally I don't care and I don't think it matters one iota to Guruji, but I feel so sorry for the men in the sangat who might have seen that and it may have unsettled their focus. SPNadmin ji, thanks for the reassurance. I don't think I want people to change to be more like me, I want them to follow the rules, like I'm trying to follow the rules. That sounds horrible. And hypocritical, because there will be a lot of people who follow the rules a lot better than me, and they probably look at me and go, "pfft, what a disrespect, she's still got pierced ears, she doesn't know how to recite anything past the 5th pauri of Japji Sahib, she doesn't pray 7 nitnem bania per day, she doesn't bathe in cold water at 3am..."... Actually, thank you for bringing me down this thought-path, admin ji, because I've just realised people are at different places on the path. That shouldn't bother me. I should be concerning myself with those further up the path than me, not catching up behind. And they are at that place due to hukam anyway. Thanks! Tejwant ji: Wow your Gurdwara sounds so cool! I think my Gurdwara Sahib has a long way to go before it catches up to yours. Your comment about talking to the sangat got me thinking, and I will continue to ponder it, but I think it may come across as a bit of hubris, the only "white convert" in the sangat talking to Punjabi Sikhs about their own religion!! Maybe one day, but definately not yet. I would be more comfortable writing a short column for the newsletter. Maybe I'll ponder that! [B]Ambarsaria: [/B]hehe, your wife must be brave. I won't dare! And thank you for your comment about children and their experiences with Gurdwara. I just worry, childhood is also a teaching time, and having fun is one thing, but isn't it important to teach them the times when you need to be serious for a minute? I dunno. I'm not a mother of small children, it really is not for me to speculate on such issues. So that settles that! I am far too shy during langar, I barely make eye contact with the person I sit opposite to! I just scoff my langar and get into the kitchen where I feel more comfortable doing seva with others. One of the parts I removed from my first post was that the mum referred to her child's hair as being 'just a mop on her head'... again I shouldn't comment on child-rearing having never been there myself, but the attitude just seemed so... not Sikh. ... :( I'm doing it again! Remember the path Ishna, just keep looking forward. [B]Kanwaljit [/B]ji: You're right, it is still a faux pas... she's the first person I've seen do it. She probably didn't realise her top would slide that far when she bowed. She probably didn't even think of it, let alone do it maliciously. Perhaps she stayed the night at a friend's house and didn't have any more appropriate clothing. LOVED your comment on being one person in all places. And it got me thinking, I am so many different people in different places! At work I am generally steady and the same... at home I am absorbed in the Internet (probably to an unhealthy degree)... at Gurdwara I am meek and respectful... visiting family I am full of beans and looking for cheap laughs... I will ponder this for a while! [B]Soul_Jyot[/B] ji, I need to read your offering again! Thanks again everyone for your valuable contributions. [/QUOTE]
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