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<blockquote data-quote="Archived_Member16" data-source="post: 153737" data-attributes="member: 884"><p><strong><span style="color: Red"><u>FOOD FOR THOUGHT:</u></span></strong></p><p></p><p><strong><span style="color: Navy"><span style="font-family: 'Franklin Gothic Medium'">"The True Sikhs of the Guru go to Gurdwara to pray, to learn something, to do Darshan of the Guru and His Sangat, to do some sewa, to listen to the Guru’s Kirten and HIS messages. The Gurdwara is their spiritual life. They don’t bother with the gossip, the fashion, the show offs etc. They sit straight with full concentration ( inner focus ); listen to the Kirten, Katha, Ardas and hukum attentively. They respect everyone and get respect themselves. They don’t care what others think of them and don’t waste time thinking of others or judging them. They don’t care if there are very few people in this category. All they care is what the Guru thinks of them and thus endeavor to please the Guru. Every Sikh is accountable directly to the Guru for his / her actions or inactions!"</span></span></strong><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">*************************************************</span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"><strong>Gary Zukav : How To Stop Judging Others</strong></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">According to Gary, when we judge others, it is because we are seeing the world the way we want to see it — not the way it is. When you judge, it can affect your body physically and cause you pain. Judging others is a result of your own feelings of inferiority. Rather than experiencing and addressing the pain of your feelings, it's easier to judge others. </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">In a moment of judgment, you are experiencing the feeling of powerlessness. Gary says most people don't take the time to become aware of that feeling of powerlessness, instead we lash out to keep from feeling the pain. According to Gary, when you judge, you're trying to change another person, and in turn, trying to make yourself feel more powerful. </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">To get past the judging, Gary says you must make the effort to see what you're actually feeling, instead of acting out. To get to the heart of your judging, Gary explains, you must do some inner work, and have the determination to look at yourself with clarity. You must go deep inside yourself. Until you find the root of this painful experience and heal it, it will continue to recur. </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">Another effective way to challenge your urge to judge, according to Gary, is to put yourself in the other person's shoes. Once you begin to see through their eyes, your perception of them will change. As you do this more often, you will gain strength and power, which Gary says are some of the keys to a more joyful life. </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">Gary explains that it's not imperative that you stop judging. However, if you don't stop, you will simply continue to create the same consequences in your life. Judging does not bring you joy. It brings pain and blocks you from giving the gifts you were born to give. Gary says that if you do decide to challenge the judging, you will create consequences that are more nourishing, more fruitful, and more empowering for you.</span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">*********************************************</span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"><strong><span style="font-size: 12px">How to Stop Judging Other People</span></strong></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"><strong><span style="font-size: 12px">By: Brian Kim</span></strong></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">Let’s face it. </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">We all do it. </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">We judge. We like to label others. Put them in boxes. We don’t like “undefined” people. </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">We extrapolate based on our interactions and observations. </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">Judging makes us feel safe, comfortable because we’ve “defined” a person and because we have that definition, we know how to act accordingly. We move on to the next person and do the same until our entire social circle is defined. It helps give us a sense of control, of safety and you could probably trace it back to primal days when we needed to make quick snap judgments of another person in terms of whether or not they posed a threat. </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">But despite our best efforts to judge, we all know deep down inside we can’t really judge another person. </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">The most obvious reason? </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">Who are we to judge? </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">Seriously. </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">If you think about it, nobody can really say they themselves can rightfully judge another. </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">But aside from that obvious reason, another foolish reason to judge is this: </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">We don’t know the whole story. </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">It’s foolish to assume we know everything there is to know about a person without knowing the back story. One observation, one interaction, one action, or even several of those shouldn’t become the basis for our judgments of others but we often peg our judgments on just that. </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">Those are some of the more obvious reasons we shouldn’t judge. </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">Yet we still do, and the subtle reason in terms of why we judge is that what we’re “confirming” ourselves in a sense when we do it. It’s a built in mental defense mechanism. </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">If others are living the lives we are, they’re good people. The people that aren’t – they’re ignorant, bad, not doing the right thing, etc. </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">Realize this: </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">The act of judging another person REFLECTS VASTLY MORE ON THE PERSON JUDGING than the person being judged. </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">We tend to project our own values and beliefs on others and if others fall in line with what we value and believe, we judge them as “good” and the rest “bad”. Then we treat the two groups accordingly. </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">It’s a fail safe mechanism to convince ourselves that the way we are living is “right” and that others who don’t match are “wrong”. </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">Classic example. </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">The person who judges those who have a ton of money as dishonest, greedy, backstabbing, etc. </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">But really, what you’re seeing is what that person thinks a person must do to come into a lot of money. It reflects their belief system. You see the person judging A LOT MORE clearly than the person being judged. Flip the tables. </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">Those with a ton of money judging those who don’t as lazy, incompetent, unworthy, etc. </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">Again, it’s a reflection more on what they believe money stands for, where their values lie, etc. </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">And of course, the back stories. </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">Perhaps the person judging those with a ton of money has had unpleasant experiences with those kinds of people. </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">Perhaps the person well off was brought up in an environment where he saw people not working at all, just gaming the system, and living off the government. </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">There’s certainly a lot going on beneath the surface when it comes to judging. It’s not as cut and dry as we would like it to be. </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">So how do you free yourself from this natural urge to judge? </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">Like I said before, if you think about it, nobody has the ABSOLUTE right to judge. </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">Nobody. </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">And everybody as a story. </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">EVERYBODY.</span></p><p> <span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">It’s stupid to judge in the first place, but even should you decide to judge, it’s stupid to do so without knowing that story. Everyone has a story that shapes who they are and why they do the things you do. </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">But even if you still judge after knowing the story or still judge without knowing the story, realize that you are just speaking volumes about yourself when you judge. </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">Instead of judging, just accept. </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">Acceptance is the key. </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">We are not judge and jury. It’s arrogant for one individual to judge everybody. Just accept the fact that everyone has a story and everyone has free will to decide what they want to do, how they want to live their life, and that it’s all relative to their story, values and beliefs. </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">Accept that. </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">And if you want to go a step further to deepen the relationship, seek to understand by learning about their story. </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">It will give you great perspective on what that person is all about. </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">The thing is, the minute you start judging, you’re walking on very thin ice because it becomes so damn easy to judge yourself. </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">And as we all know, there’s way too much stress in that.</span></p><p> <span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">When you accept and understand others, it’s so much easier to accept and understand yourself. </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">When we stop judging others, we become less critical of others and in doing so, less critical of ourselves. </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">We become less influenced by the judgment of others because we realize that nobody has the right to judge another and even though people still judge us – they don’t know the whole story so their judgments lie on faulty foundations. </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">And even should they choose to stick to their judgments and act on them, we know that it’s speaking volumes more about them than ourselves. </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">A funny thing happens when you stop judging too. </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">Opportunities come knocking down your door. </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">When you accept others, SO MANY doors begin to open, whereas before, you would’ve closed them BECAUSE OF YOUR JUDGMENTS. </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">People are one of the greatest gateways to opportunities and when you ACCEPT another, which is something rare these days, you open a door instead of closing it by judging, and in the process, bank a lot of goodwill indirectly, which can translate into opportunity. </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">Another great thing that happens when you stop judging is the “social weight” of fearing how others will judge you should you decide to take a different direction in life than the masses, gets lifted right off your shoulder </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">It evaporates. </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">You feel FREE. </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">FREE from the social judgment of others, even though you know they still do it. </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">Before, when you judged, you could “extrapolate” what the mental chatter would be of those who judged you because you yourself were judging. </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">But when you stop judging, that mental chatter that fuels the fear of how others will judge you and act toward you accordingly – it changes. </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">Into what exactly? </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">First, you realize they don’t have the right to judge at all but you know in reality they still do it. But you realize it could be anything really. Before, when you were judging, you always assumed the worst case scenario. </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">But now you don’t know for sure. </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">Why? </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">You realize you don’t know the whole story of the people you think are judging you. </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">Why waste your time trying to figure out what’s going on in someone else’s head? For all you know, it could be the complete opposite of what you think. Or they may not even be thinking of you at all! </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">And because you don’t know their entire stories for sure which means you don’t know how they will judge, you feel FREE. </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">So you let it go. It doesn’t bother you at all. </span></p><p><span style="color: Navy"></span></p><p><span style="color: Navy">And you keep on doing what you want to do, free from the heavy weight of the judgment ball.</span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Archived_Member16, post: 153737, member: 884"] [B][COLOR="Red"][U]FOOD FOR THOUGHT:[/U][/COLOR][/B] [B][COLOR="Navy"][FONT="Franklin Gothic Medium"]"The True Sikhs of the Guru go to Gurdwara to pray, to learn something, to do Darshan of the Guru and His Sangat, to do some sewa, to listen to the Guru’s Kirten and HIS messages. The Gurdwara is their spiritual life. They don’t bother with the gossip, the fashion, the show offs etc. They sit straight with full concentration ( inner focus ); listen to the Kirten, Katha, Ardas and hukum attentively. They respect everyone and get respect themselves. They don’t care what others think of them and don’t waste time thinking of others or judging them. They don’t care if there are very few people in this category. All they care is what the Guru thinks of them and thus endeavor to please the Guru. Every Sikh is accountable directly to the Guru for his / her actions or inactions!"[/FONT][/COLOR][/B][COLOR="Navy"] ************************************************* [B]Gary Zukav : How To Stop Judging Others[/B] According to Gary, when we judge others, it is because we are seeing the world the way we want to see it — not the way it is. When you judge, it can affect your body physically and cause you pain. Judging others is a result of your own feelings of inferiority. Rather than experiencing and addressing the pain of your feelings, it's easier to judge others. In a moment of judgment, you are experiencing the feeling of powerlessness. Gary says most people don't take the time to become aware of that feeling of powerlessness, instead we lash out to keep from feeling the pain. According to Gary, when you judge, you're trying to change another person, and in turn, trying to make yourself feel more powerful. To get past the judging, Gary says you must make the effort to see what you're actually feeling, instead of acting out. To get to the heart of your judging, Gary explains, you must do some inner work, and have the determination to look at yourself with clarity. You must go deep inside yourself. Until you find the root of this painful experience and heal it, it will continue to recur. Another effective way to challenge your urge to judge, according to Gary, is to put yourself in the other person's shoes. Once you begin to see through their eyes, your perception of them will change. As you do this more often, you will gain strength and power, which Gary says are some of the keys to a more joyful life. Gary explains that it's not imperative that you stop judging. However, if you don't stop, you will simply continue to create the same consequences in your life. Judging does not bring you joy. It brings pain and blocks you from giving the gifts you were born to give. Gary says that if you do decide to challenge the judging, you will create consequences that are more nourishing, more fruitful, and more empowering for you. ********************************************* [B][SIZE="3"]How to Stop Judging Other People By: Brian Kim[/SIZE][/B] Let’s face it. We all do it. We judge. We like to label others. Put them in boxes. We don’t like “undefined” people. We extrapolate based on our interactions and observations. Judging makes us feel safe, comfortable because we’ve “defined” a person and because we have that definition, we know how to act accordingly. We move on to the next person and do the same until our entire social circle is defined. It helps give us a sense of control, of safety and you could probably trace it back to primal days when we needed to make quick snap judgments of another person in terms of whether or not they posed a threat. But despite our best efforts to judge, we all know deep down inside we can’t really judge another person. The most obvious reason? Who are we to judge? Seriously. If you think about it, nobody can really say they themselves can rightfully judge another. But aside from that obvious reason, another foolish reason to judge is this: We don’t know the whole story. It’s foolish to assume we know everything there is to know about a person without knowing the back story. One observation, one interaction, one action, or even several of those shouldn’t become the basis for our judgments of others but we often peg our judgments on just that. Those are some of the more obvious reasons we shouldn’t judge. Yet we still do, and the subtle reason in terms of why we judge is that what we’re “confirming” ourselves in a sense when we do it. It’s a built in mental defense mechanism. If others are living the lives we are, they’re good people. The people that aren’t – they’re ignorant, bad, not doing the right thing, etc. Realize this: The act of judging another person REFLECTS VASTLY MORE ON THE PERSON JUDGING than the person being judged. We tend to project our own values and beliefs on others and if others fall in line with what we value and believe, we judge them as “good” and the rest “bad”. Then we treat the two groups accordingly. It’s a fail safe mechanism to convince ourselves that the way we are living is “right” and that others who don’t match are “wrong”. Classic example. The person who judges those who have a ton of money as dishonest, greedy, backstabbing, etc. But really, what you’re seeing is what that person thinks a person must do to come into a lot of money. It reflects their belief system. You see the person judging A LOT MORE clearly than the person being judged. Flip the tables. Those with a ton of money judging those who don’t as lazy, incompetent, unworthy, etc. Again, it’s a reflection more on what they believe money stands for, where their values lie, etc. And of course, the back stories. Perhaps the person judging those with a ton of money has had unpleasant experiences with those kinds of people. Perhaps the person well off was brought up in an environment where he saw people not working at all, just gaming the system, and living off the government. There’s certainly a lot going on beneath the surface when it comes to judging. It’s not as cut and dry as we would like it to be. So how do you free yourself from this natural urge to judge? Like I said before, if you think about it, nobody has the ABSOLUTE right to judge. Nobody. And everybody as a story. EVERYBODY. It’s stupid to judge in the first place, but even should you decide to judge, it’s stupid to do so without knowing that story. Everyone has a story that shapes who they are and why they do the things you do. But even if you still judge after knowing the story or still judge without knowing the story, realize that you are just speaking volumes about yourself when you judge. Instead of judging, just accept. Acceptance is the key. We are not judge and jury. It’s arrogant for one individual to judge everybody. Just accept the fact that everyone has a story and everyone has free will to decide what they want to do, how they want to live their life, and that it’s all relative to their story, values and beliefs. Accept that. And if you want to go a step further to deepen the relationship, seek to understand by learning about their story. It will give you great perspective on what that person is all about. The thing is, the minute you start judging, you’re walking on very thin ice because it becomes so damn easy to judge yourself. And as we all know, there’s way too much stress in that. When you accept and understand others, it’s so much easier to accept and understand yourself. When we stop judging others, we become less critical of others and in doing so, less critical of ourselves. We become less influenced by the judgment of others because we realize that nobody has the right to judge another and even though people still judge us – they don’t know the whole story so their judgments lie on faulty foundations. And even should they choose to stick to their judgments and act on them, we know that it’s speaking volumes more about them than ourselves. A funny thing happens when you stop judging too. Opportunities come knocking down your door. When you accept others, SO MANY doors begin to open, whereas before, you would’ve closed them BECAUSE OF YOUR JUDGMENTS. People are one of the greatest gateways to opportunities and when you ACCEPT another, which is something rare these days, you open a door instead of closing it by judging, and in the process, bank a lot of goodwill indirectly, which can translate into opportunity. Another great thing that happens when you stop judging is the “social weight” of fearing how others will judge you should you decide to take a different direction in life than the masses, gets lifted right off your shoulder It evaporates. You feel FREE. FREE from the social judgment of others, even though you know they still do it. Before, when you judged, you could “extrapolate” what the mental chatter would be of those who judged you because you yourself were judging. But when you stop judging, that mental chatter that fuels the fear of how others will judge you and act toward you accordingly – it changes. Into what exactly? First, you realize they don’t have the right to judge at all but you know in reality they still do it. But you realize it could be anything really. Before, when you were judging, you always assumed the worst case scenario. But now you don’t know for sure. Why? You realize you don’t know the whole story of the people you think are judging you. Why waste your time trying to figure out what’s going on in someone else’s head? For all you know, it could be the complete opposite of what you think. Or they may not even be thinking of you at all! And because you don’t know their entire stories for sure which means you don’t know how they will judge, you feel FREE. So you let it go. It doesn’t bother you at all. And you keep on doing what you want to do, free from the heavy weight of the judgment ball.[/COLOR] [/QUOTE]
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