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<blockquote data-quote="Archived_Member16" data-source="post: 139222" data-attributes="member: 884"><p><strong><span style="font-size: 18px"><span style="color: #002060">They take the money and run</span></span></strong></p><p> </p><p><strong><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"><span style="font-size: 15px"><span style="color: #002060">Many non-resident Indian men marry solely for the dowry offered by bride's family</span></span></span></strong></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #002060"><strong>By Rupam Jain Nair, Agence France-Presse - December 29, 2010</strong></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #002060">A velvet-bound album of wedding photographs and two unused train tickets for her honeymoon are the only remnants of Amanjyot Kaur's marriage.</span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #002060">One week after the gra</span><span style="color: #002060">nd wedding ceremony in a small village in the Indian state of Punjab, Kaur's husband, who lives in Montreal, returned home, promising to send his new wife documents she needed for a visa. </span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #002060">But the papers never arrived and when Kaur finally managed to get in touch with her husband, he refused to recognize her.</span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #002060">"I wrote 120 letters, made nearly 500 phone calls to reach him in Canada but nothing moved him," said 22-year-old Kaur, who has suffered chronic depression since her wedding two years ago.</span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #002060">"I hate myself for loving an insensitive man. He cheated me, and my family," she said, gesturing to her father who had to sell four acres of farmland to meet the lavish wedding expenses. </span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #002060">Kaur is just one of thousands of brides abandoned in India by expatriate Indians who return to the country for arranged marriages and then flee -- taking the dowry money with them.</span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #002060">According to the Lok Bhalai party, a small political organization in Punjab, more than 22,000 abandoned brides have registered criminal cases against their NRI (non-resident Indian) grooms.</span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #002060">The party's founder, B. Ramoowalia, calculated that in the past 10 years he has helped 1,200 deserted brides trace their husbands.</span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #002060">"Marriage is the easiest way to make money for these men. They plan their exit from the country as soon as they get the dowry," he said.</span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #002060">"The real number is unknown because many women from conservative backgrounds worry that complaining could bring shame on their families."</span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #002060">In India, paying and accepting a dowry has been illegal since 1961, but the centuries-old tradition of the bride's parents presenting gifts of cash, clothes and jewelry to the groom's family remains strong across society.</span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #002060">Kaur declines to reveal how much dowry her husband collected, but the figure is often thousands of dollars.</span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #002060">The Indian wedding season is in full swing, with young Indian men who live in Canada, Britain and other western countries travelling to their ancestral villages to find a bride as their parents insist on traditional daughters-in-law. </span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #002060">Young girls are often desperate to emigrate to escape mundane village life and aspire to settle overseas -- but many unions last just days. </span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #002060">"I always dreamed of living in a foreign country," said Kaur, who remains in the village of Bilga, where she mourns the happy life she believes she has been denied. </span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #002060">"Every woman wants a good husband and a happy family, but I don't think I will ever have one." </span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #002060">Dubbed as "holiday brides," the women are unable to marry again, feel guilty for being a burden on their parents, and often hold onto the distant hope that their husbands will change their minds and rescue them. </span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #002060">"But this never happens. The grooms never come back to the village, fearing that they would be arrested or beaten up by the villagers," said Radha Navin, a bride abandoned by an English-Indian man in 2004. </span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #002060">She now runs a tailoring business staffed by abandoned women in Punjab's capital city, Chandigarh.</span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #002060">"Go to any village in Punjab and you will find at least one 'holiday bride' living with her parents or forced to depend on relatives for financial handouts," she said. "The government needs to recognize this massive social problem." </span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #002060">Navin tells how, just days after her wedding, her husband said he had a European girlfriend and that he would only help with her visa if Navin agreed to live with the "other woman" in the same house in Southall in London.</span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #002060">"I refused his offer and filed a police complaint but he managed to escape by bribing some of the police officers," she said.</span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #002060">Other stories recount how the groom leaves India and then demands more and more cash from the bride's family, saying that unless the money is paid, he will never collect her. </span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #002060">A 2007 report by the Punjab University stated that about 25,000 abandoned women in Punjab alone faced an uphill battle against a legal system which provides little hope of justice. </span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #002060">It suggested the Indian government should stamp the marital status of NRIs in their passports and bring in new laws to protect vulnerable women. </span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #002060">But Navin said there was a reluctance for politicians in Punjab to tackle the issue as many of the expatriate grooms involved come from families who provide parties with donations. </span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #002060">"Why would a political party want to upset their donors? For some NRIs marriages are not made in heaven but on the basis of money," she said.</span></p><p> </p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #002060">© Copyright (c) The Vancouver Sun</span></p><p> </p><p> </p><p><strong><span style="color: #002060">source: </span></strong></p><p><a href="http://www.{censored}/news/todays-paper/They+take+money/4035366/story.html" target="_blank"><u><span style="color: #002060">http://www.{censored}/news/todays-paper/They+take+money/4035366/story.html</span></u></a></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Archived_Member16, post: 139222, member: 884"] [B][SIZE=5][COLOR=#002060]They take the money and run[/COLOR][/SIZE][/B] [B][FONT=Comic Sans MS][SIZE=4][COLOR=#002060]Many non-resident Indian men marry solely for the dowry offered by bride's family[/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT][/B] [COLOR=#002060][B]By Rupam Jain Nair, Agence France-Presse - December 29, 2010[/B][/COLOR] [COLOR=#002060]A velvet-bound album of wedding photographs and two unused train tickets for her honeymoon are the only remnants of Amanjyot Kaur's marriage.[/COLOR] [COLOR=#002060]One week after the gra[/COLOR][COLOR=#002060]nd wedding ceremony in a small village in the Indian state of Punjab, Kaur's husband, who lives in Montreal, returned home, promising to send his new wife documents she needed for a visa. [/COLOR] [COLOR=#002060]But the papers never arrived and when Kaur finally managed to get in touch with her husband, he refused to recognize her.[/COLOR] [COLOR=#002060]"I wrote 120 letters, made nearly 500 phone calls to reach him in Canada but nothing moved him," said 22-year-old Kaur, who has suffered chronic depression since her wedding two years ago.[/COLOR] [COLOR=#002060]"I hate myself for loving an insensitive man. He cheated me, and my family," she said, gesturing to her father who had to sell four acres of farmland to meet the lavish wedding expenses. [/COLOR] [COLOR=#002060]Kaur is just one of thousands of brides abandoned in India by expatriate Indians who return to the country for arranged marriages and then flee -- taking the dowry money with them.[/COLOR] [COLOR=#002060]According to the Lok Bhalai party, a small political organization in Punjab, more than 22,000 abandoned brides have registered criminal cases against their NRI (non-resident Indian) grooms.[/COLOR] [COLOR=#002060]The party's founder, B. Ramoowalia, calculated that in the past 10 years he has helped 1,200 deserted brides trace their husbands.[/COLOR] [COLOR=#002060]"Marriage is the easiest way to make money for these men. They plan their exit from the country as soon as they get the dowry," he said.[/COLOR] [COLOR=#002060]"The real number is unknown because many women from conservative backgrounds worry that complaining could bring shame on their families."[/COLOR] [COLOR=#002060]In India, paying and accepting a dowry has been illegal since 1961, but the centuries-old tradition of the bride's parents presenting gifts of cash, clothes and jewelry to the groom's family remains strong across society.[/COLOR] [COLOR=#002060]Kaur declines to reveal how much dowry her husband collected, but the figure is often thousands of dollars.[/COLOR] [COLOR=#002060]The Indian wedding season is in full swing, with young Indian men who live in Canada, Britain and other western countries travelling to their ancestral villages to find a bride as their parents insist on traditional daughters-in-law. [/COLOR] [COLOR=#002060]Young girls are often desperate to emigrate to escape mundane village life and aspire to settle overseas -- but many unions last just days. [/COLOR] [COLOR=#002060]"I always dreamed of living in a foreign country," said Kaur, who remains in the village of Bilga, where she mourns the happy life she believes she has been denied. [/COLOR] [COLOR=#002060]"Every woman wants a good husband and a happy family, but I don't think I will ever have one." [/COLOR] [COLOR=#002060]Dubbed as "holiday brides," the women are unable to marry again, feel guilty for being a burden on their parents, and often hold onto the distant hope that their husbands will change their minds and rescue them. [/COLOR] [COLOR=#002060]"But this never happens. The grooms never come back to the village, fearing that they would be arrested or beaten up by the villagers," said Radha Navin, a bride abandoned by an English-Indian man in 2004. [/COLOR] [COLOR=#002060]She now runs a tailoring business staffed by abandoned women in Punjab's capital city, Chandigarh.[/COLOR] [COLOR=#002060]"Go to any village in Punjab and you will find at least one 'holiday bride' living with her parents or forced to depend on relatives for financial handouts," she said. "The government needs to recognize this massive social problem." [/COLOR] [COLOR=#002060]Navin tells how, just days after her wedding, her husband said he had a European girlfriend and that he would only help with her visa if Navin agreed to live with the "other woman" in the same house in Southall in London.[/COLOR] [COLOR=#002060]"I refused his offer and filed a police complaint but he managed to escape by bribing some of the police officers," she said.[/COLOR] [COLOR=#002060]Other stories recount how the groom leaves India and then demands more and more cash from the bride's family, saying that unless the money is paid, he will never collect her. [/COLOR] [COLOR=#002060]A 2007 report by the Punjab University stated that about 25,000 abandoned women in Punjab alone faced an uphill battle against a legal system which provides little hope of justice. [/COLOR] [COLOR=#002060]It suggested the Indian government should stamp the marital status of NRIs in their passports and bring in new laws to protect vulnerable women. [/COLOR] [COLOR=#002060]But Navin said there was a reluctance for politicians in Punjab to tackle the issue as many of the expatriate grooms involved come from families who provide parties with donations. [/COLOR] [COLOR=#002060]"Why would a political party want to upset their donors? For some NRIs marriages are not made in heaven but on the basis of money," she said.[/COLOR] [COLOR=#002060]© Copyright (c) The Vancouver Sun[/COLOR] [B][COLOR=#002060]source: [/COLOR][/B] [URL="http://www.{censored}/news/todays-paper/They+take+money/4035366/story.html"][U][COLOR=#002060]http://www.{censored}/news/todays-paper/They+take+money/4035366/story.html[/COLOR][/U][/URL] [/QUOTE]
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