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ਰਾਗੁ ਸਿਰੀਰਾਗੁ | Raag Siree-Raag
Gurbani (14-53)
Ashtpadiyan (53-71)
Gurbani (71-74)
Pahre (74-78)
Chhant (78-81)
Vanjara (81-82)
Vaar Siri Raag (83-91)
Bhagat Bani (91-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਝ | Raag Maajh
Gurbani (94-109)
Ashtpadi (109)
Ashtpadiyan (110-129)
Ashtpadi (129-130)
Ashtpadiyan (130-133)
Bara Maha (133-136)
Din Raen (136-137)
Vaar Maajh Ki (137-150)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗਉੜੀ | Raag Gauree
Gurbani (151-185)
Quartets/Couplets (185-220)
Ashtpadiyan (220-234)
Karhalei (234-235)
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Baavan Akhari (340-343)
Thintteen (343-344)
Vaar Kabir (344-345)
Bhagat Bani (345-346)
ਰਾਗੁ ਆਸਾ | Raag Aasaa
Gurbani (347-348)
Chaupaday (348-364)
Panchpadde (364-365)
Kaafee (365-409)
Aasaavaree (409-411)
Ashtpadiyan (411-432)
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Chhant (435-462)
Vaar Aasaa (462-475)
Bhagat Bani (475-488)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੂਜਰੀ | Raag Goojaree
Gurbani (489-503)
Ashtpadiyan (503-508)
Vaar Gujari (508-517)
Vaar Gujari (517-526)
ਰਾਗੁ ਦੇਵਗੰਧਾਰੀ | Raag Dayv-Gandhaaree
Gurbani (527-536)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਹਾਗੜਾ | Raag Bihaagraa
Gurbani (537-556)
Chhant (538-548)
Vaar Bihaagraa (548-556)
ਰਾਗੁ ਵਡਹੰਸ | Raag Wadhans
Gurbani (557-564)
Ashtpadiyan (564-565)
Chhant (565-575)
Ghoriaan (575-578)
Alaahaniiaa (578-582)
Vaar Wadhans (582-594)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੋਰਠਿ | Raag Sorath
Gurbani (595-634)
Asatpadhiya (634-642)
Vaar Sorath (642-659)
ਰਾਗੁ ਧਨਾਸਰੀ | Raag Dhanasaree
Gurbani (660-685)
Astpadhiya (685-687)
Chhant (687-691)
Bhagat Bani (691-695)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਤਸਰੀ | Raag Jaitsree
Gurbani (696-703)
Chhant (703-705)
Vaar Jaitsaree (705-710)
Bhagat Bani (710)
ਰਾਗੁ ਟੋਡੀ | Raag Todee
ਰਾਗੁ ਬੈਰਾੜੀ | Raag Bairaaree
ਰਾਗੁ ਤਿਲੰਗ | Raag Tilang
Gurbani (721-727)
Bhagat Bani (727)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੂਹੀ | Raag Suhi
Gurbani (728-750)
Ashtpadiyan (750-761)
Kaafee (761-762)
Suchajee (762)
Gunvantee (763)
Chhant (763-785)
Vaar Soohee (785-792)
Bhagat Bani (792-794)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਲਾਵਲੁ | Raag Bilaaval
Gurbani (795-831)
Ashtpadiyan (831-838)
Thitteen (838-840)
Vaar Sat (841-843)
Chhant (843-848)
Vaar Bilaaval (849-855)
Bhagat Bani (855-858)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੋਂਡ | Raag Gond
Gurbani (859-869)
Ashtpadiyan (869)
Bhagat Bani (870-875)
ਰਾਗੁ ਰਾਮਕਲੀ | Raag Ramkalee
Ashtpadiyan (902-916)
Gurbani (876-902)
Anand (917-922)
Sadd (923-924)
Chhant (924-929)
Dakhnee (929-938)
Sidh Gosat (938-946)
Vaar Ramkalee (947-968)
ਰਾਗੁ ਨਟ ਨਾਰਾਇਨ | Raag Nat Narayan
Gurbani (975-980)
Ashtpadiyan (980-983)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਲੀ ਗਉੜਾ | Raag Maalee Gauraa
Gurbani (984-988)
Bhagat Bani (988)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਰੂ | Raag Maaroo
Gurbani (889-1008)
Ashtpadiyan (1008-1014)
Kaafee (1014-1016)
Ashtpadiyan (1016-1019)
Anjulian (1019-1020)
Solhe (1020-1033)
Dakhni (1033-1043)
ਰਾਗੁ ਤੁਖਾਰੀ | Raag Tukhaari
Bara Maha (1107-1110)
Chhant (1110-1117)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕੇਦਾਰਾ | Raag Kedara
Gurbani (1118-1123)
Bhagat Bani (1123-1124)
ਰਾਗੁ ਭੈਰਉ | Raag Bhairo
Gurbani (1125-1152)
Partaal (1153)
Ashtpadiyan (1153-1167)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਸੰਤੁ | Raag Basant
Gurbani (1168-1187)
Ashtpadiyan (1187-1193)
Vaar Basant (1193-1196)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਾਰਗ | Raag Saarag
Gurbani (1197-1200)
Partaal (1200-1231)
Ashtpadiyan (1232-1236)
Chhant (1236-1237)
Vaar Saarang (1237-1253)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਲਾਰ | Raag Malaar
Gurbani (1254-1293)
Partaal (1265-1273)
Ashtpadiyan (1273-1278)
Chhant (1278)
Vaar Malaar (1278-91)
Bhagat Bani (1292-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਾਨੜਾ | Raag Kaanraa
Gurbani (1294-96)
Partaal (1296-1318)
Ashtpadiyan (1308-1312)
Chhant (1312)
Vaar Kaanraa
Bhagat Bani (1318)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਲਿਆਨ | Raag Kalyaan
Gurbani (1319-23)
Ashtpadiyan (1323-26)
ਰਾਗੁ ਪ੍ਰਭਾਤੀ | Raag Prabhaatee
Gurbani (1327-1341)
Ashtpadiyan (1342-51)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਜਾਵੰਤੀ | Raag Jaijaiwanti
Gurbani (1352-53)
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<blockquote data-quote="Archived_Member16" data-source="post: 118874" data-attributes="member: 884"><p><span style="font-family: 'Arial'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="color: #000080">source:</span> <a href="http://www.{censored}/news/todays-paper/year+offers+opportunity+climb/2449118/story.html" target="_blank"><span style="color: #810081">http://www.{censored}/news/todays-paper/year+offers+opportunity+climb/2449118/story.html</span></a></span></span></p><p> </p><p><strong><span style="font-size: 18px"><span style="color: #000080">New year offers opportunity </span></span></strong></p><p><strong><span style="font-size: 18px"><span style="color: #000080">to climb out of rut</span></span></strong></p><p> </p><p> </p><p><strong><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: #000080"><em>Letting go of grudges and accepting constructive criticism is key to your mental health!</em></span></span></strong></p><p> </p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #000080"><strong>By Jennifer Newman & Darry Grigg, Special To The Sun - </strong>January 16, 2010</span></p><p> </p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #000080">Many of us may have personal New Year's resolutions--lose weight, exercise more, quit smoking.</span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #000080">The New Year is also a chance to clean up and shed outmoded ways of thinking, feeling and behaving in your work life, especially if they are holding you back professionally.</span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #000080">It's easy to get into a rut at work and repeat unproductive patterns of interacting with others and yourself -- patterns that can actually limit you, emotionally, socially and professionally.</span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #000080">There are six common behaviours that can paralyze your professional growth:</span></p><p> </p><p><strong><span style="font-size: 15px"><span style="color: #000080">Harbouring Resentments</span></span></strong></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #000080">As the adage goes: "Resentment is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die." The longer you work at an organization, the more time you have to collect hurts, slights and memories of unpleasant interactions with others. Some you can let go of but more significant issues are worth discussion. When you don't bring your lingering complaints forward to those with whom you had the bad encounters, you end up hurting yourself. Asking yourself why it's so important to play a victim role in your relationships is key to clearing out this tired old way of interacting with others. Often, a need to be in control explains why people hang on to resentments. Control is maintained through passive-aggressive behaviours. Looking at this issue will ensure that you are more proactive and assertive. Otherwise, you escape being accountable for your behaviour. Instead, you cast yourself as a victim. Maintaining this position will ensure that you either get hurt or cause others to avoid working with you. So--let the resentment go.</span></p><p> </p><p><strong><span style="font-size: 15px"><span style="color: #000080">Defensiveness</span></span></strong></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #000080">Reacting defensively to negative feedback is a typical communication pattern that should be sidelined. Instead, you should reflect on what the other person has told you. Most people will not bother to give feedback, as it takes courage (the receiver might not take it well) and an interest the working relationship, and many can't be bothered. When you get feedback, see it as a gift. Seriously consider what applies to you and how you might use what you heard for your own benefit. By making excuses or deflecting what another is saying, you rob yourself of the opportunity to learn something new about yourself.</span></p><p> </p><p><strong><span style="font-size: 15px"><span style="color: #000080">Negative self talk</span></span></strong></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #000080">Do you have an inner critic who tells you that you are stupid or calls you names when you make a mistake? Do you tell yourself that you are not competent or that things aren't going to work out? Watching out for ways you undermine yourself is important to getting ahead; there's no point in being your own worst enemy. Clearing up any tendency to self-denigrate is a great way to begin the year.</span></p><p> </p><p><strong><span style="font-size: 15px"><span style="color: #000080">Ledger keeping</span></span></strong></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #000080">Good accounting practices are always welcome in any organization, but should be kept in the payroll department. When interpersonal scorekeeping takes place, teamwork is stifled. Comparing how much you do against how little others do causes resentment and bitterness. If you find yourself pulling more than your weight, analyze why that's happening. Was the company downsizing and handing you someone else's job, as well as your own? Do you have trouble saying "No" when your plate is full? Or do other people know you'll step up if they hang back a few minutes when an assignment is given? If you answered "yes" to these questions and tend to keep track of how you are "doing everything," then you may have fallen into the trap of interpersonal ledger keeping. Instead, try not taking on extra assignments. Tell people you'll have to pass this time or consider why it's so important to overdo it at work. If, upon analysis, you believe you would lose your job if you didn't take on extra assignments, end the ledger keeping and tackle the work. Ledger keeping in this scenario will only add to your exhaustion.</span></p><p> </p><p><strong><span style="font-size: 15px"><span style="color: #000080">Feuds and grudges</span></span></strong></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #000080">Along with resentments, which you tend to internalize, and ledger keeping, which tends to be based on comparisons between yourself and others, there's the harmful habit of keeping feuds going. If you have trouble resolving conflict with others and harbour bad feelings and revenge fantasies, it is highly challenging to work with the person you carry the grudge against. And it makes resolution impossible. Ending feuds and grudges helps clear out old, unproductive ways of behaving. If you need legitimate justice due to a grievance at work, find a constructive way to obtain it such as approaching your HR department, supervisor or union representative rather than taking revenge through sabotage or undermining behaviours. Transfer from the department if you can't make the situation better for yourself or declare a cease-fire to hostilities.</span></p><p> </p><p><strong><span style="font-size: 15px"><span style="color: #000080">Fears</span></span></strong></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #000080">What holds you back from taking a risk, trying something new or shedding outmoded ways of being? It's likely a fear of some sort. Looking hard at your fears and letting them go helps clear out your emotional closet and work better with others. Also, your performance and productivity is based largely on the risks and challenges you are willing to take on. These can range from taking on a project that is a bit unfamiliar, to trying your hand at a completely new task or job. It can also mean taking the initiative to change your relationships at work or reflect on how you might like to change how you treat yourself.</span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #000080">The main point is to clear out the old ways of feeling and thinking by recognizing the benefits of change and making it happen before the year gets too old.</span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #000080"><em>Dr. Jennifer Newman and Dr. Darryl Grigg are registered psychologists and directors of Newman & Grigg Psychological and Consulting Services Ltd., a Vancouver-based corporate training and development partnership. Identifying information in cases cited has been changed to protect confidentiality. They can be contacted at:</em></span></p><p><span style="color: #000080"><a href="mailto:sunmail@newmangrigg.com">sunmail@newmangrigg.com</a></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #000080">© Copyright (c) The Vancouver Sun</span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Archived_Member16, post: 118874, member: 884"] [FONT=Arial][SIZE=2][COLOR=#000080]source:[/COLOR] [URL="http://www.{censored}/news/todays-paper/year+offers+opportunity+climb/2449118/story.html"][COLOR=#810081]http://www.{censored}/news/todays-paper/year+offers+opportunity+climb/2449118/story.html[/COLOR][/URL][/SIZE][/FONT] [B][SIZE=5][COLOR=#000080]New year offers opportunity [/COLOR][/SIZE][/B] [B][SIZE=5][COLOR=#000080]to climb out of rut[/COLOR][/SIZE][/B] [B][SIZE=3][COLOR=#000080][I]Letting go of grudges and accepting constructive criticism is key to your mental health![/I][/COLOR][/SIZE][/B] [COLOR=#000080][B]By Jennifer Newman & Darry Grigg, Special To The Sun - [/B]January 16, 2010[/COLOR] [COLOR=#000080]Many of us may have personal New Year's resolutions--lose weight, exercise more, quit smoking.[/COLOR] [COLOR=#000080]The New Year is also a chance to clean up and shed outmoded ways of thinking, feeling and behaving in your work life, especially if they are holding you back professionally.[/COLOR] [COLOR=#000080]It's easy to get into a rut at work and repeat unproductive patterns of interacting with others and yourself -- patterns that can actually limit you, emotionally, socially and professionally.[/COLOR] [COLOR=#000080]There are six common behaviours that can paralyze your professional growth:[/COLOR] [B][SIZE=4][COLOR=#000080]Harbouring Resentments[/COLOR][/SIZE][/B] [COLOR=#000080]As the adage goes: "Resentment is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die." The longer you work at an organization, the more time you have to collect hurts, slights and memories of unpleasant interactions with others. Some you can let go of but more significant issues are worth discussion. When you don't bring your lingering complaints forward to those with whom you had the bad encounters, you end up hurting yourself. Asking yourself why it's so important to play a victim role in your relationships is key to clearing out this tired old way of interacting with others. Often, a need to be in control explains why people hang on to resentments. Control is maintained through passive-aggressive behaviours. Looking at this issue will ensure that you are more proactive and assertive. Otherwise, you escape being accountable for your behaviour. Instead, you cast yourself as a victim. Maintaining this position will ensure that you either get hurt or cause others to avoid working with you. So--let the resentment go.[/COLOR] [B][SIZE=4][COLOR=#000080]Defensiveness[/COLOR][/SIZE][/B] [COLOR=#000080]Reacting defensively to negative feedback is a typical communication pattern that should be sidelined. Instead, you should reflect on what the other person has told you. Most people will not bother to give feedback, as it takes courage (the receiver might not take it well) and an interest the working relationship, and many can't be bothered. When you get feedback, see it as a gift. Seriously consider what applies to you and how you might use what you heard for your own benefit. By making excuses or deflecting what another is saying, you rob yourself of the opportunity to learn something new about yourself.[/COLOR] [B][SIZE=4][COLOR=#000080]Negative self talk[/COLOR][/SIZE][/B] [COLOR=#000080]Do you have an inner critic who tells you that you are stupid or calls you names when you make a mistake? Do you tell yourself that you are not competent or that things aren't going to work out? Watching out for ways you undermine yourself is important to getting ahead; there's no point in being your own worst enemy. Clearing up any tendency to self-denigrate is a great way to begin the year.[/COLOR] [B][SIZE=4][COLOR=#000080]Ledger keeping[/COLOR][/SIZE][/B] [COLOR=#000080]Good accounting practices are always welcome in any organization, but should be kept in the payroll department. When interpersonal scorekeeping takes place, teamwork is stifled. Comparing how much you do against how little others do causes resentment and bitterness. If you find yourself pulling more than your weight, analyze why that's happening. Was the company downsizing and handing you someone else's job, as well as your own? Do you have trouble saying "No" when your plate is full? Or do other people know you'll step up if they hang back a few minutes when an assignment is given? If you answered "yes" to these questions and tend to keep track of how you are "doing everything," then you may have fallen into the trap of interpersonal ledger keeping. Instead, try not taking on extra assignments. Tell people you'll have to pass this time or consider why it's so important to overdo it at work. If, upon analysis, you believe you would lose your job if you didn't take on extra assignments, end the ledger keeping and tackle the work. Ledger keeping in this scenario will only add to your exhaustion.[/COLOR] [B][SIZE=4][COLOR=#000080]Feuds and grudges[/COLOR][/SIZE][/B] [COLOR=#000080]Along with resentments, which you tend to internalize, and ledger keeping, which tends to be based on comparisons between yourself and others, there's the harmful habit of keeping feuds going. If you have trouble resolving conflict with others and harbour bad feelings and revenge fantasies, it is highly challenging to work with the person you carry the grudge against. And it makes resolution impossible. Ending feuds and grudges helps clear out old, unproductive ways of behaving. If you need legitimate justice due to a grievance at work, find a constructive way to obtain it such as approaching your HR department, supervisor or union representative rather than taking revenge through sabotage or undermining behaviours. Transfer from the department if you can't make the situation better for yourself or declare a cease-fire to hostilities.[/COLOR] [B][SIZE=4][COLOR=#000080]Fears[/COLOR][/SIZE][/B] [COLOR=#000080]What holds you back from taking a risk, trying something new or shedding outmoded ways of being? It's likely a fear of some sort. Looking hard at your fears and letting them go helps clear out your emotional closet and work better with others. Also, your performance and productivity is based largely on the risks and challenges you are willing to take on. These can range from taking on a project that is a bit unfamiliar, to trying your hand at a completely new task or job. It can also mean taking the initiative to change your relationships at work or reflect on how you might like to change how you treat yourself.[/COLOR] [COLOR=#000080]The main point is to clear out the old ways of feeling and thinking by recognizing the benefits of change and making it happen before the year gets too old.[/COLOR] [COLOR=#000080][I]Dr. Jennifer Newman and Dr. Darryl Grigg are registered psychologists and directors of Newman & Grigg Psychological and Consulting Services Ltd., a Vancouver-based corporate training and development partnership. Identifying information in cases cited has been changed to protect confidentiality. They can be contacted at:[/I][/COLOR] [COLOR=#000080][EMAIL="sunmail@newmangrigg.com"]sunmail@newmangrigg.com[/EMAIL][/COLOR] [COLOR=#000080]© Copyright (c) The Vancouver Sun[/COLOR] [/QUOTE]
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