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ਜਪੁ | Jup
ਸੋ ਦਰੁ | So Dar
ਸੋਹਿਲਾ | Sohilaa
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਿਰੀਰਾਗੁ | Raag Siree-Raag
Gurbani (14-53)
Ashtpadiyan (53-71)
Gurbani (71-74)
Pahre (74-78)
Chhant (78-81)
Vanjara (81-82)
Vaar Siri Raag (83-91)
Bhagat Bani (91-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਝ | Raag Maajh
Gurbani (94-109)
Ashtpadi (109)
Ashtpadiyan (110-129)
Ashtpadi (129-130)
Ashtpadiyan (130-133)
Bara Maha (133-136)
Din Raen (136-137)
Vaar Maajh Ki (137-150)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗਉੜੀ | Raag Gauree
Gurbani (151-185)
Quartets/Couplets (185-220)
Ashtpadiyan (220-234)
Karhalei (234-235)
Ashtpadiyan (235-242)
Chhant (242-249)
Baavan Akhari (250-262)
Sukhmani (262-296)
Thittee (296-300)
Gauree kii Vaar (300-323)
Gurbani (323-330)
Ashtpadiyan (330-340)
Baavan Akhari (340-343)
Thintteen (343-344)
Vaar Kabir (344-345)
Bhagat Bani (345-346)
ਰਾਗੁ ਆਸਾ | Raag Aasaa
Gurbani (347-348)
Chaupaday (348-364)
Panchpadde (364-365)
Kaafee (365-409)
Aasaavaree (409-411)
Ashtpadiyan (411-432)
Patee (432-435)
Chhant (435-462)
Vaar Aasaa (462-475)
Bhagat Bani (475-488)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੂਜਰੀ | Raag Goojaree
Gurbani (489-503)
Ashtpadiyan (503-508)
Vaar Gujari (508-517)
Vaar Gujari (517-526)
ਰਾਗੁ ਦੇਵਗੰਧਾਰੀ | Raag Dayv-Gandhaaree
Gurbani (527-536)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਹਾਗੜਾ | Raag Bihaagraa
Gurbani (537-556)
Chhant (538-548)
Vaar Bihaagraa (548-556)
ਰਾਗੁ ਵਡਹੰਸ | Raag Wadhans
Gurbani (557-564)
Ashtpadiyan (564-565)
Chhant (565-575)
Ghoriaan (575-578)
Alaahaniiaa (578-582)
Vaar Wadhans (582-594)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੋਰਠਿ | Raag Sorath
Gurbani (595-634)
Asatpadhiya (634-642)
Vaar Sorath (642-659)
ਰਾਗੁ ਧਨਾਸਰੀ | Raag Dhanasaree
Gurbani (660-685)
Astpadhiya (685-687)
Chhant (687-691)
Bhagat Bani (691-695)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਤਸਰੀ | Raag Jaitsree
Gurbani (696-703)
Chhant (703-705)
Vaar Jaitsaree (705-710)
Bhagat Bani (710)
ਰਾਗੁ ਟੋਡੀ | Raag Todee
ਰਾਗੁ ਬੈਰਾੜੀ | Raag Bairaaree
ਰਾਗੁ ਤਿਲੰਗ | Raag Tilang
Gurbani (721-727)
Bhagat Bani (727)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੂਹੀ | Raag Suhi
Gurbani (728-750)
Ashtpadiyan (750-761)
Kaafee (761-762)
Suchajee (762)
Gunvantee (763)
Chhant (763-785)
Vaar Soohee (785-792)
Bhagat Bani (792-794)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਲਾਵਲੁ | Raag Bilaaval
Gurbani (795-831)
Ashtpadiyan (831-838)
Thitteen (838-840)
Vaar Sat (841-843)
Chhant (843-848)
Vaar Bilaaval (849-855)
Bhagat Bani (855-858)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੋਂਡ | Raag Gond
Gurbani (859-869)
Ashtpadiyan (869)
Bhagat Bani (870-875)
ਰਾਗੁ ਰਾਮਕਲੀ | Raag Ramkalee
Ashtpadiyan (902-916)
Gurbani (876-902)
Anand (917-922)
Sadd (923-924)
Chhant (924-929)
Dakhnee (929-938)
Sidh Gosat (938-946)
Vaar Ramkalee (947-968)
ਰਾਗੁ ਨਟ ਨਾਰਾਇਨ | Raag Nat Narayan
Gurbani (975-980)
Ashtpadiyan (980-983)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਲੀ ਗਉੜਾ | Raag Maalee Gauraa
Gurbani (984-988)
Bhagat Bani (988)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਰੂ | Raag Maaroo
Gurbani (889-1008)
Ashtpadiyan (1008-1014)
Kaafee (1014-1016)
Ashtpadiyan (1016-1019)
Anjulian (1019-1020)
Solhe (1020-1033)
Dakhni (1033-1043)
ਰਾਗੁ ਤੁਖਾਰੀ | Raag Tukhaari
Bara Maha (1107-1110)
Chhant (1110-1117)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕੇਦਾਰਾ | Raag Kedara
Gurbani (1118-1123)
Bhagat Bani (1123-1124)
ਰਾਗੁ ਭੈਰਉ | Raag Bhairo
Gurbani (1125-1152)
Partaal (1153)
Ashtpadiyan (1153-1167)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਸੰਤੁ | Raag Basant
Gurbani (1168-1187)
Ashtpadiyan (1187-1193)
Vaar Basant (1193-1196)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਾਰਗ | Raag Saarag
Gurbani (1197-1200)
Partaal (1200-1231)
Ashtpadiyan (1232-1236)
Chhant (1236-1237)
Vaar Saarang (1237-1253)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਲਾਰ | Raag Malaar
Gurbani (1254-1293)
Partaal (1265-1273)
Ashtpadiyan (1273-1278)
Chhant (1278)
Vaar Malaar (1278-91)
Bhagat Bani (1292-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਾਨੜਾ | Raag Kaanraa
Gurbani (1294-96)
Partaal (1296-1318)
Ashtpadiyan (1308-1312)
Chhant (1312)
Vaar Kaanraa
Bhagat Bani (1318)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਲਿਆਨ | Raag Kalyaan
Gurbani (1319-23)
Ashtpadiyan (1323-26)
ਰਾਗੁ ਪ੍ਰਭਾਤੀ | Raag Prabhaatee
Gurbani (1327-1341)
Ashtpadiyan (1342-51)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਜਾਵੰਤੀ | Raag Jaijaiwanti
Gurbani (1352-53)
Salok | Gatha | Phunahe | Chaubole | Swayiye
Sehskritee Mahala 1
Sehskritee Mahala 5
Gaathaa Mahala 5
Phunhay Mahala 5
Chaubolae Mahala 5
Shaloks Bhagat Kabir
Shaloks Sheikh Farid
Swaiyyae Mahala 5
Swaiyyae in Praise of Gurus
Shaloks in Addition To Vaars
Shalok Ninth Mehl
Mundavanee Mehl 5
ਰਾਗ ਮਾਲਾ, Raag Maalaa
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<blockquote data-quote="Seeker2013" data-source="post: 202961" data-attributes="member: 19755"><p>There was a small 5 yr old pacific boy who would prefer to play house with the girls rather than go play cricket or football in the ground . Sports scared him . He would prefer softer games like 'playing house' .</p><p>His father knowing his interests would only buy him mini tea sets and other mini models of utensils . His parents didn't seem to mind his playing inclinations.</p><p></p><p> [ATTACH=full]19683[/ATTACH] </p><p></p><p>His mother was very protective and aware of his 'soft' nature . His father on the other hand , somewhere on the inside, rejected the boy for his effeminacy.</p><p></p><p>Playing such games and other sillier games was his preferred way of enjoying his childhood.</p><p></p><p>He would fail miserably at sports activities in school and therefore avoided them altogether. he anyways disliked sports and had <strong>NO INTEREST</strong> in it whatsoever except refined sports like golf and billiards (which he couldn't have afford anyways) .</p><p></p><p>One day at the age of 12 , he develops a crush on one of his classmates . He doesn't have a word for it although to his innocent mind it seems perfectly ok . He doesn't even know anything about sex yet. All he knows is he feels warm, fuzzy feelings for this guy. He keeps thinking about him even after reaching home from school. He just likes to talk to him and "flirt" with him and in turn be flirted back.</p><p></p><p>He grows up into a man who has <strong>NO INTEREST</strong> in women, but rather feels on a romantic, emotional and sexual level towards men. But he discovers himself in a world which is not-at-all pleasant from his perspective and for people like him. He discovers he is a minority , in a world which for the most part hates and rejects him. His family, his relatives silently reject him. His govt criminalizes him. His very existence is known but still never talked of ! because its something that should be kept under covers. <strong>He is one of the unmentionables</strong> . <strong>So unworthy is he , worse than a woman in a patriarchal society where heterosexual men call the shots !</strong></p><p><strong></strong></p><p><strong>(I mean its totally ok if 6 straight men put a rod inside a young woman after raping her in a public bus, and spill her intestines out , leaving her to die naked on the side of the road in chilling winter in capital city . The next day Straight men can still share a rickshaw with their female colleagues without the latter saying "I am not safe with him" to her colleague. But a gay man perved on you in a urinal once in your life. So "we're not safe with him" is the motto you toss out to every gay guy even if you say that in a joking accent ! )</strong></p><p></p><p><strong>ok , sorry for my rhetoric but the question is </strong></p><p><strong>Would you think </strong></p><p><strong>1) his childhood gender non-conformity lead to him to develop feelings for same-sex ?? OR was it that</strong></p><p><strong>2) he was childhood gender non-conforming because he was gender-atypical to begin with ! </strong></p><p><strong></strong></p><p><strong>what do you think caused what ? or perhaps the fact he was gender non-conforming and same-sex attracted were just a coincident match !</strong></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>PS: The boy in discussion was me and the theory is known as "Exotic (what is different to us in childhood) becomes Erotic (in adulthood) " !</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Seeker2013, post: 202961, member: 19755"] There was a small 5 yr old pacific boy who would prefer to play house with the girls rather than go play cricket or football in the ground . Sports scared him . He would prefer softer games like 'playing house' . His father knowing his interests would only buy him mini tea sets and other mini models of utensils . His parents didn't seem to mind his playing inclinations. [ATTACH=full]19683[/ATTACH] His mother was very protective and aware of his 'soft' nature . His father on the other hand , somewhere on the inside, rejected the boy for his effeminacy. Playing such games and other sillier games was his preferred way of enjoying his childhood. He would fail miserably at sports activities in school and therefore avoided them altogether. he anyways disliked sports and had [B]NO INTEREST[/B] in it whatsoever except refined sports like golf and billiards (which he couldn't have afford anyways) . One day at the age of 12 , he develops a crush on one of his classmates . He doesn't have a word for it although to his innocent mind it seems perfectly ok . He doesn't even know anything about sex yet. All he knows is he feels warm, fuzzy feelings for this guy. He keeps thinking about him even after reaching home from school. He just likes to talk to him and "flirt" with him and in turn be flirted back. He grows up into a man who has [B]NO INTEREST[/B] in women, but rather feels on a romantic, emotional and sexual level towards men. But he discovers himself in a world which is not-at-all pleasant from his perspective and for people like him. He discovers he is a minority , in a world which for the most part hates and rejects him. His family, his relatives silently reject him. His govt criminalizes him. His very existence is known but still never talked of ! because its something that should be kept under covers. [B]He is one of the unmentionables[/B] . [B]So unworthy is he , worse than a woman in a patriarchal society where heterosexual men call the shots ! (I mean its totally ok if 6 straight men put a rod inside a young woman after raping her in a public bus, and spill her intestines out , leaving her to die naked on the side of the road in chilling winter in capital city . The next day Straight men can still share a rickshaw with their female colleagues without the latter saying "I am not safe with him" to her colleague. But a gay man perved on you in a urinal once in your life. So "we're not safe with him" is the motto you toss out to every gay guy even if you say that in a joking accent ! )[/B] [B]ok , sorry for my rhetoric but the question is Would you think 1) his childhood gender non-conformity lead to him to develop feelings for same-sex ?? OR was it that 2) he was childhood gender non-conforming because he was gender-atypical to begin with ! what do you think caused what ? or perhaps the fact he was gender non-conforming and same-sex attracted were just a coincident match ![/B] PS: The boy in discussion was me and the theory is known as "Exotic (what is different to us in childhood) becomes Erotic (in adulthood) " ! [/QUOTE]
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