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<blockquote data-quote="Abneet" data-source="post: 194452" data-attributes="member: 19402"><p>You both are right. Maybe I don't see from a mother or father's perspective view. But I must agree my parents have made huge amount of sacrifices for me and that's why I want to give back to them later on in life. I am lucky to even be alive! Talk about how many children in the US are being aborted each day because their parents can't afford them or some other bad excuse. Everyone deserves a chance to live no matter what. </p><p></p><p>Back on the topic, I want to say Punjabi parents in Punjab area or around India have a little more time off their back caring about their children. Over there parents don't have to worry about them fitting in with society and many other things. But when Sikh families are outside of India where Sikhism isn't that well known can be a struggle. It really all depends on the Sikh parents and how they were brought up. I really don't know how our ancestors did parenting.</p><p></p><p>I also have to argue against some Sikh parents when getting advice from someone telling them what they should do according to Sikhi but some parents say, "worry about your own business and family." What does this mean? No one can stand up and tell someone the real truth what they should do just as advice? Even though I might be fixing myself I still have the right to tell someone what they should ought to do. In my community it was a great Sikh Sangat back in the 90's. Now parents have no control once their kid goes to college. They start to do drugs and alcohol and the parenting has done absolutely nothing to them. I even seen very religious uncles and auntis of mine be mad for their sons cutting their hair. But they forgive them after a while! What non sense is this! The kids who cut their hair say they can't take it anymore, but now I see them getting wasted and lusting after girls. It shows they cut their hair to fit in society which is a big issue. We are ought to stand out as we were told.</p><p></p><p>Sikh parents think its fine to say "okay I understand your pain and suffering and having long hair in this kind of world it is hard to keep and maintain so go cut it for your own good." This is about 50% of the cases I know of. These Sikh parents just give up and don't even think not even for a second what their ancestors did to bring them into this world. They leave everything behind and move on with their lives it is truly tragic. This is even affecting their dads. How many Sikh fathers you see have trimmed beard? There are apparently a lot. Where are they getting this idea from I don't know. When they have their own child they are more probable to let their child shave. You know a good amount of those Sikh children who shave end up cutting their hair. That is a BIG SIGN to Sikh parents. If you see shaving of your child and he wears a pagh, you see he is trying to fit in. </p><p></p><p>Other cases when a Sikh girl or boy cuts their hair they get kicked out of their house or their dad beats them and ignores them. Stick with me to this fact, Sikh Dads even Amritdharis whose sons or daughters cut their hair will be very aggressive and angry towards their children. Even in those situations I have been through, never have I heard a Sikh dad control his angry. You might think I might be crazy but an angry Sikh dad must control his anger when a situation like this happens. In my opinion, I don't know what a Sikh dad should do. One should tell them what they did was unacceptable and teach his Sikhi until he or she understands. If not I don't know what else to say.I'm trying to give advise to any Sikh parent who might go through these kind of crisis with their child. I want to help them notice what might happen when their child is at that stage of life where they question their own faith.</p><p></p><p></p><p>Our gurdwara is only one of five in our state. It is sad how no one gives lectures about alcohol abuse and lust among the Sangat. One thing that bothers me is that even most of the sangat will ignore the message trying to be reached out only for guidance. I may be repeating what I said last time but I'm doing it because it is a big point on this topic. One should give advice for all Sangat not just on these topics but for all. I might no be qualified to do this, but it should be done. It could bring a great change to minor Sikh communities in the world that have trouble keeping up with their faith. They need to be told right in front of them and if they choose to ignore let them be then forcing isn't acceptable either maybe in some circumstances.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Abneet, post: 194452, member: 19402"] You both are right. Maybe I don't see from a mother or father's perspective view. But I must agree my parents have made huge amount of sacrifices for me and that's why I want to give back to them later on in life. I am lucky to even be alive! Talk about how many children in the US are being aborted each day because their parents can't afford them or some other bad excuse. Everyone deserves a chance to live no matter what. Back on the topic, I want to say Punjabi parents in Punjab area or around India have a little more time off their back caring about their children. Over there parents don't have to worry about them fitting in with society and many other things. But when Sikh families are outside of India where Sikhism isn't that well known can be a struggle. It really all depends on the Sikh parents and how they were brought up. I really don't know how our ancestors did parenting. I also have to argue against some Sikh parents when getting advice from someone telling them what they should do according to Sikhi but some parents say, "worry about your own business and family." What does this mean? No one can stand up and tell someone the real truth what they should do just as advice? Even though I might be fixing myself I still have the right to tell someone what they should ought to do. In my community it was a great Sikh Sangat back in the 90's. Now parents have no control once their kid goes to college. They start to do drugs and alcohol and the parenting has done absolutely nothing to them. I even seen very religious uncles and auntis of mine be mad for their sons cutting their hair. But they forgive them after a while! What non sense is this! The kids who cut their hair say they can't take it anymore, but now I see them getting wasted and lusting after girls. It shows they cut their hair to fit in society which is a big issue. We are ought to stand out as we were told. Sikh parents think its fine to say "okay I understand your pain and suffering and having long hair in this kind of world it is hard to keep and maintain so go cut it for your own good." This is about 50% of the cases I know of. These Sikh parents just give up and don't even think not even for a second what their ancestors did to bring them into this world. They leave everything behind and move on with their lives it is truly tragic. This is even affecting their dads. How many Sikh fathers you see have trimmed beard? There are apparently a lot. Where are they getting this idea from I don't know. When they have their own child they are more probable to let their child shave. You know a good amount of those Sikh children who shave end up cutting their hair. That is a BIG SIGN to Sikh parents. If you see shaving of your child and he wears a pagh, you see he is trying to fit in. Other cases when a Sikh girl or boy cuts their hair they get kicked out of their house or their dad beats them and ignores them. Stick with me to this fact, Sikh Dads even Amritdharis whose sons or daughters cut their hair will be very aggressive and angry towards their children. Even in those situations I have been through, never have I heard a Sikh dad control his angry. You might think I might be crazy but an angry Sikh dad must control his anger when a situation like this happens. In my opinion, I don't know what a Sikh dad should do. One should tell them what they did was unacceptable and teach his Sikhi until he or she understands. If not I don't know what else to say.I'm trying to give advise to any Sikh parent who might go through these kind of crisis with their child. I want to help them notice what might happen when their child is at that stage of life where they question their own faith. Our gurdwara is only one of five in our state. It is sad how no one gives lectures about alcohol abuse and lust among the Sangat. One thing that bothers me is that even most of the sangat will ignore the message trying to be reached out only for guidance. I may be repeating what I said last time but I'm doing it because it is a big point on this topic. One should give advice for all Sangat not just on these topics but for all. I might no be qualified to do this, but it should be done. It could bring a great change to minor Sikh communities in the world that have trouble keeping up with their faith. They need to be told right in front of them and if they choose to ignore let them be then forcing isn't acceptable either maybe in some circumstances. [/QUOTE]
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