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Gurbani (14-53)
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Pahre (74-78)
Chhant (78-81)
Vanjara (81-82)
Vaar Siri Raag (83-91)
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ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਝ | Raag Maajh
Gurbani (94-109)
Ashtpadi (109)
Ashtpadiyan (110-129)
Ashtpadi (129-130)
Ashtpadiyan (130-133)
Bara Maha (133-136)
Din Raen (136-137)
Vaar Maajh Ki (137-150)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗਉੜੀ | Raag Gauree
Gurbani (151-185)
Quartets/Couplets (185-220)
Ashtpadiyan (220-234)
Karhalei (234-235)
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Thintteen (343-344)
Vaar Kabir (344-345)
Bhagat Bani (345-346)
ਰਾਗੁ ਆਸਾ | Raag Aasaa
Gurbani (347-348)
Chaupaday (348-364)
Panchpadde (364-365)
Kaafee (365-409)
Aasaavaree (409-411)
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Chhant (435-462)
Vaar Aasaa (462-475)
Bhagat Bani (475-488)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੂਜਰੀ | Raag Goojaree
Gurbani (489-503)
Ashtpadiyan (503-508)
Vaar Gujari (508-517)
Vaar Gujari (517-526)
ਰਾਗੁ ਦੇਵਗੰਧਾਰੀ | Raag Dayv-Gandhaaree
Gurbani (527-536)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਹਾਗੜਾ | Raag Bihaagraa
Gurbani (537-556)
Chhant (538-548)
Vaar Bihaagraa (548-556)
ਰਾਗੁ ਵਡਹੰਸ | Raag Wadhans
Gurbani (557-564)
Ashtpadiyan (564-565)
Chhant (565-575)
Ghoriaan (575-578)
Alaahaniiaa (578-582)
Vaar Wadhans (582-594)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੋਰਠਿ | Raag Sorath
Gurbani (595-634)
Asatpadhiya (634-642)
Vaar Sorath (642-659)
ਰਾਗੁ ਧਨਾਸਰੀ | Raag Dhanasaree
Gurbani (660-685)
Astpadhiya (685-687)
Chhant (687-691)
Bhagat Bani (691-695)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਤਸਰੀ | Raag Jaitsree
Gurbani (696-703)
Chhant (703-705)
Vaar Jaitsaree (705-710)
Bhagat Bani (710)
ਰਾਗੁ ਟੋਡੀ | Raag Todee
ਰਾਗੁ ਬੈਰਾੜੀ | Raag Bairaaree
ਰਾਗੁ ਤਿਲੰਗ | Raag Tilang
Gurbani (721-727)
Bhagat Bani (727)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੂਹੀ | Raag Suhi
Gurbani (728-750)
Ashtpadiyan (750-761)
Kaafee (761-762)
Suchajee (762)
Gunvantee (763)
Chhant (763-785)
Vaar Soohee (785-792)
Bhagat Bani (792-794)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਲਾਵਲੁ | Raag Bilaaval
Gurbani (795-831)
Ashtpadiyan (831-838)
Thitteen (838-840)
Vaar Sat (841-843)
Chhant (843-848)
Vaar Bilaaval (849-855)
Bhagat Bani (855-858)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੋਂਡ | Raag Gond
Gurbani (859-869)
Ashtpadiyan (869)
Bhagat Bani (870-875)
ਰਾਗੁ ਰਾਮਕਲੀ | Raag Ramkalee
Ashtpadiyan (902-916)
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Anand (917-922)
Sadd (923-924)
Chhant (924-929)
Dakhnee (929-938)
Sidh Gosat (938-946)
Vaar Ramkalee (947-968)
ਰਾਗੁ ਨਟ ਨਾਰਾਇਨ | Raag Nat Narayan
Gurbani (975-980)
Ashtpadiyan (980-983)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਲੀ ਗਉੜਾ | Raag Maalee Gauraa
Gurbani (984-988)
Bhagat Bani (988)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਰੂ | Raag Maaroo
Gurbani (889-1008)
Ashtpadiyan (1008-1014)
Kaafee (1014-1016)
Ashtpadiyan (1016-1019)
Anjulian (1019-1020)
Solhe (1020-1033)
Dakhni (1033-1043)
ਰਾਗੁ ਤੁਖਾਰੀ | Raag Tukhaari
Bara Maha (1107-1110)
Chhant (1110-1117)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕੇਦਾਰਾ | Raag Kedara
Gurbani (1118-1123)
Bhagat Bani (1123-1124)
ਰਾਗੁ ਭੈਰਉ | Raag Bhairo
Gurbani (1125-1152)
Partaal (1153)
Ashtpadiyan (1153-1167)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਸੰਤੁ | Raag Basant
Gurbani (1168-1187)
Ashtpadiyan (1187-1193)
Vaar Basant (1193-1196)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਾਰਗ | Raag Saarag
Gurbani (1197-1200)
Partaal (1200-1231)
Ashtpadiyan (1232-1236)
Chhant (1236-1237)
Vaar Saarang (1237-1253)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਲਾਰ | Raag Malaar
Gurbani (1254-1293)
Partaal (1265-1273)
Ashtpadiyan (1273-1278)
Chhant (1278)
Vaar Malaar (1278-91)
Bhagat Bani (1292-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਾਨੜਾ | Raag Kaanraa
Gurbani (1294-96)
Partaal (1296-1318)
Ashtpadiyan (1308-1312)
Chhant (1312)
Vaar Kaanraa
Bhagat Bani (1318)
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Gurbani (1319-23)
Ashtpadiyan (1323-26)
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Gurbani (1327-1341)
Ashtpadiyan (1342-51)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਜਾਵੰਤੀ | Raag Jaijaiwanti
Gurbani (1352-53)
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<blockquote data-quote="Archived_Member16" data-source="post: 13456" data-attributes="member: 884"><p><strong><span style="font-family: 'Arial'"><span style="color: blue">Character and Integrity</span></span></strong></p><p><strong><span style="font-family: 'Arial'"><span style="color: blue"></span></span></strong><span style="font-size: 9px"><span style="font-family: 'Arial'"><span style="color: blue">by Wendy Betterini</span></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 9px"><span style="font-family: 'Arial'"><span style="color: blue"></span></span><a href="http://www.wingsfortheheart.com/" target="_blank"><span style="font-family: 'Arial'"><span style="color: blue">http://www.wingsfortheheart.com</span></span></a></span></p><p></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Arial'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="color: blue">It's been said that character is defined by what you do when you think no one is watching. What an illuminating concept that is.</span></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Arial'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="color: blue"></span></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Arial'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="color: blue">Most of us have a public face and a private face. There are parts of ourselves we don't want the world to see. Typically, we tend to hide the aspects that would not be viewed favorably by society. Greed, lust, jealousy, pettiness, fear and so on. We also tend to hide our weaknesses. No one needs to know that we can wolf down a gallon of ice cream in an hour, do they? ;-)</span></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Arial'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="color: blue"></span></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Arial'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="color: blue">I think most people are "good" at their core; decent, loving, compassionate and kind. However, even those we perceive to be good people are capable of unspeakable acts. How many times have you heard a convicted murderer's family member or friend say, "I just can't believe he would be capable of something like that. It's so unlike him." The killer projected one identity to the world, while secretly he was someone else entirely.</span></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Arial'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="color: blue"></span></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Arial'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="color: blue">Okay, most of us are not murderers. Yet, even those of us who would be considered "good people" often think nothing of stealing, cheating on our spouses, or worse. What does that say about our character? Is it wrong only if we get caught?</span></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Arial'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="color: blue"></span></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Arial'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="color: blue">How many times have you done something that you probably wouldn't have done if others had been there to see it? Would you feel embarrassed if these things were brought to public awareness? Did you act on your impulses only because you felt sure no one would ever find out?</span></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Arial'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="color: blue"></span></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Arial'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="color: blue">I've been thinking a lot about the concept of "sin" lately. What is sin exactly? In the Christian religion, sin refers to that which displeases (or dishonors) God. The Ten Commandments warn us against adultery, theft, murder and more. Supposedly if you follow that list, you will remain in God's good graces.</span></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Arial'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="color: blue"></span></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Arial'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="color: blue">In some earth religions, there is only one commandment: Harm None; which basically covers all angles in two words. Do nothing that would cause harm to yourself or another. Seems simple enough.</span></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Arial'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="color: blue"></span></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Arial'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="color: blue">Yet, in both of these examples there are gray areas, aren't there? Sometimes it's hard to tell what's right or wrong. If we find money on the street and pick it up, is that stealing? Does it make a difference if it was $5.00 or $500.00? If we lie to protect someone's feelings, is that wrong? If we take some paper clips home from the office, is that stealing? Does it "harm" the company, really? If we flirt with someone other than our spouse, or fantasize about them, is that cheating? Or is cheating only the physical act of sexual intercourse?</span></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Arial'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="color: blue"></span></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Arial'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="color: blue">In situations like these, how do we know the right course of action? How do we balance integrity with our impulses and desires? I think it can help to examine your motives and the possible consequences. What is your intent in this situation? What do you hope to gain from it? Could your actions harm another, or yourself? If your actions became public knowledge, would you be okay with that?</span></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Arial'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="color: blue"></span></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Arial'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="color: blue">Maybe some of you are rolling your eyes at me right now, thinking, <em>"What's the big deal? So what if I take a few things from work, or cheat on my wife? What they don't know won't hurt them."</em> That may be true, but doesn't it hurt <em>you</em> in the long run? Don't those actions detract from the kind of person you are? Don't they dim your inner light? If it's true that we are all connected, then isn't it also true that harming another means harming ourselves? By disrespecting others, we disrespect ourselves and God.</span></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Arial'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="color: blue"></span></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Arial'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="color: blue">Personally, I don't believe that God is angry and judgmental, sitting up in the clouds waiting to cast us into the pits of Hell for our transgressions. I do believe there will be a final "review" of our lives, and we will have to answer for the things we've done. But I think we will be our own judges. In the deepest part of ourselves, we know right from wrong.</span></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Arial'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="color: blue"></span></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Arial'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="color: blue">We're not perfect, and no one is expecting us to be. We all make mistakes and do things we are later ashamed of. We are human, after all. But there is a big difference between making a mistake, and purposely doing something we know is wrong. We may try to fool ourselves at times and justify our actions. Maybe your husband doesn't pay attention to you, so you try to convince yourself that it's okay to have an affair with a man who does. Or your employer gives you a crappy raise, so you decide to make up for it in other ways, like stealing supplies or fudging your time sheet. They asked for it, right? You certainly have the right to do these things, and probably no one will stop you. Our greatest gift in life is Free Will. Unfortunately, it is also often our greatest curse. There are always consequences to our actions, whether they come now or later.</span></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Arial'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="color: blue"></span></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Arial'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="color: blue">In the end, it's all a matter of personal accountability. Do we want to be a person of character, or not? It doesn't matter if we get caught or not. What matters is that we are <em>defined by our actions</em>. If I take something that doesn't belong to me, I am a thief. If I cheat on my spouse, I am an adultress. If I don't want to get caught, I probably shouldn't do these things in the first place. The truth has a way of making itself known.</span></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Arial'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="color: blue"></span></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Arial'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><span style="color: blue">© </span><em><span style="color: blue">Copyright 2005</span></em></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Arial'"><span style="font-size: 10px"><em><span style="color: blue">Wendy Betterini</span></em></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Arial'"><span style="font-size: 9px"><span style="color: blue"><a href="http://www.wingsfortheheart.com/" target="_blank">http://www.wingsfortheheart.com</a></span></span></span></p><p></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Arial'"><span style="font-size: 9px"><span style="color: blue">Wendy Betterini is an inspirational writer who strives to motivate, uplift, and inspire you to make your dreams a reality. Visit her website, </span><a href="http://www.wingsfortheheart.com/" target="_blank"><span style="color: blue">http://www.WingsForTheHeart.com</span></a><span style="color: blue"> for more positive thoughts to help you on your journey.</span></span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Archived_Member16, post: 13456, member: 884"] [B][FONT=Arial][COLOR=blue]Character and Integrity [/COLOR][/FONT][/B][SIZE=1][FONT=Arial][COLOR=blue]by Wendy Betterini [/COLOR][/FONT][URL="http://www.wingsfortheheart.com/"][FONT=Arial][COLOR=blue]http://www.wingsfortheheart.com[/COLOR][/FONT][/URL][/SIZE] [FONT=Arial][SIZE=2][COLOR=blue]It's been said that character is defined by what you do when you think no one is watching. What an illuminating concept that is. Most of us have a public face and a private face. There are parts of ourselves we don't want the world to see. Typically, we tend to hide the aspects that would not be viewed favorably by society. Greed, lust, jealousy, pettiness, fear and so on. We also tend to hide our weaknesses. No one needs to know that we can wolf down a gallon of ice cream in an hour, do they? ;-) I think most people are "good" at their core; decent, loving, compassionate and kind. However, even those we perceive to be good people are capable of unspeakable acts. How many times have you heard a convicted murderer's family member or friend say, "I just can't believe he would be capable of something like that. It's so unlike him." The killer projected one identity to the world, while secretly he was someone else entirely. Okay, most of us are not murderers. Yet, even those of us who would be considered "good people" often think nothing of stealing, cheating on our spouses, or worse. What does that say about our character? Is it wrong only if we get caught? How many times have you done something that you probably wouldn't have done if others had been there to see it? Would you feel embarrassed if these things were brought to public awareness? Did you act on your impulses only because you felt sure no one would ever find out? I've been thinking a lot about the concept of "sin" lately. What is sin exactly? In the Christian religion, sin refers to that which displeases (or dishonors) God. The Ten Commandments warn us against adultery, theft, murder and more. Supposedly if you follow that list, you will remain in God's good graces. In some earth religions, there is only one commandment: Harm None; which basically covers all angles in two words. Do nothing that would cause harm to yourself or another. Seems simple enough. Yet, in both of these examples there are gray areas, aren't there? Sometimes it's hard to tell what's right or wrong. If we find money on the street and pick it up, is that stealing? Does it make a difference if it was $5.00 or $500.00? If we lie to protect someone's feelings, is that wrong? If we take some paper clips home from the office, is that stealing? Does it "harm" the company, really? If we flirt with someone other than our spouse, or fantasize about them, is that cheating? Or is cheating only the physical act of sexual intercourse? In situations like these, how do we know the right course of action? How do we balance integrity with our impulses and desires? I think it can help to examine your motives and the possible consequences. What is your intent in this situation? What do you hope to gain from it? Could your actions harm another, or yourself? If your actions became public knowledge, would you be okay with that? Maybe some of you are rolling your eyes at me right now, thinking, [I]"What's the big deal? So what if I take a few things from work, or cheat on my wife? What they don't know won't hurt them."[/I] That may be true, but doesn't it hurt [I]you[/I] in the long run? Don't those actions detract from the kind of person you are? Don't they dim your inner light? If it's true that we are all connected, then isn't it also true that harming another means harming ourselves? By disrespecting others, we disrespect ourselves and God. Personally, I don't believe that God is angry and judgmental, sitting up in the clouds waiting to cast us into the pits of Hell for our transgressions. I do believe there will be a final "review" of our lives, and we will have to answer for the things we've done. But I think we will be our own judges. In the deepest part of ourselves, we know right from wrong. We're not perfect, and no one is expecting us to be. We all make mistakes and do things we are later ashamed of. We are human, after all. But there is a big difference between making a mistake, and purposely doing something we know is wrong. We may try to fool ourselves at times and justify our actions. Maybe your husband doesn't pay attention to you, so you try to convince yourself that it's okay to have an affair with a man who does. Or your employer gives you a crappy raise, so you decide to make up for it in other ways, like stealing supplies or fudging your time sheet. They asked for it, right? You certainly have the right to do these things, and probably no one will stop you. Our greatest gift in life is Free Will. Unfortunately, it is also often our greatest curse. There are always consequences to our actions, whether they come now or later. In the end, it's all a matter of personal accountability. Do we want to be a person of character, or not? It doesn't matter if we get caught or not. What matters is that we are [I]defined by our actions[/I]. If I take something that doesn't belong to me, I am a thief. If I cheat on my spouse, I am an adultress. If I don't want to get caught, I probably shouldn't do these things in the first place. The truth has a way of making itself known. © [/COLOR][I][COLOR=blue]Copyright 2005 Wendy Betterini[/COLOR][/I][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Arial][SIZE=1][COLOR=blue][URL="http://www.wingsfortheheart.com/"]http://www.wingsfortheheart.com[/URL][/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Arial][SIZE=1][COLOR=blue]Wendy Betterini is an inspirational writer who strives to motivate, uplift, and inspire you to make your dreams a reality. Visit her website, [/COLOR][URL="http://www.wingsfortheheart.com/"][COLOR=blue]http://www.WingsForTheHeart.com[/COLOR][/URL][COLOR=blue] for more positive thoughts to help you on your journey.[/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [/QUOTE]
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