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<blockquote data-quote="Tejwant Singh" data-source="post: 184372" data-attributes="member: 138"><p>Akasha ji,</p><p></p><p>Guru Fateh.</p><p></p><p>My first thought is- Bravo!</p><p></p><p>I love your devotion, dedication and love for Sikhi. It must have brought you some good within for you to have this kind of feeling where you want this metamorphosis to be open for all to see and for you to savour.</p><p></p><p>In fact your naming yourself Kaur means a lot more to Sikhi that dwells within you than to many of the Kaurs and Singhs who have been handed this on a platter.</p><p></p><p>This is a big decision unlike for those ladies who get married and change their last names to their spouses', hyphenated or not. And when they get divorced, they erase that from all the papers. If they happen to get married again, the same continues in the similar fashion.</p><p></p><p>This is not your case of changing it to Kaur. You must think it through. How would the rest of the McDonald clan feel about it? By doing this, you are not marrying anyone but divorcing your "roots" perhaps in their mind. </p><p></p><p>Would you be shunned, respected, or it matters not to your aunt whom you only see at Christmas when she comes to know that you are a Kaur now and she does not get it why?</p><p></p><p>You do not have to worry about the Sikhs in my opinion. Most of the Sikhi dwellers will welcome you and applaud your courage with a tinge of envy. The reason being that many Singhs and Kaurs do not behave the way their name demands from them. They do not live their lives in the manner they should, rather to the contrary and that includes many who are Amritdharis. </p><p></p><p>In my opinion, one does not have to be Amrtidhari to have a name Kaur or Singh. An "outsider' who has come to Sikhi because s/he has found something that has made her/him better as a person should have the same right of those who are born in Sikh families and carry the name without taking Khandei di pahul.</p><p></p><p>Yes, there are some in our "Sikhidom" who may feel uneasy about that what I personally find nothing wrong with. In another Sikh Forum I used to visit, I used to use my first name and got scolded many times for not using Singh in the forum and via personal messages. I am known as Teji Malik to the world.</p><p></p><p>Now, I will give you my 2 cent worth. First, live Sikhi in your mind and heart without worrying about changing your name. If you still feel the inner urge which will not stop, then the day you decide to change it, check out the Hukamnaama of the day from Harmander Sahib. Use the first letter as your first name with Kaur as your last and voila. </p><p></p><p>If you ask the Gurdwara management for the same, they will demand you to take Khandei de pahul first which is unfair in my opinion. You may also ask some 'Aunties' you know in the Gurdwara and they may be willing to do the same at their home if they have Sri Guru Granth Sahib Ji and may love to do it.</p><p></p><p>The next step is to change it legally as you yourself mentioned that you feel more a Kaur than a McDonald. But all this is for you to feel free not to get shackled within.</p><p></p><p>It may be a small step for the world but a giant one for yourself. For this reason, live your Sikhi life giantly without worrying about the name. Allow the waves of Sikhi ocean mold you enough so this becomes your second nature.</p><p></p><p>I apologise for the long post.</p><p></p><p>Good luck in whatever you decide to do.</p><p></p><p>Thanks for sharing.</p><p></p><p>Regards</p><p></p><p>Tejwant Singh</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tejwant Singh, post: 184372, member: 138"] Akasha ji, Guru Fateh. My first thought is- Bravo! I love your devotion, dedication and love for Sikhi. It must have brought you some good within for you to have this kind of feeling where you want this metamorphosis to be open for all to see and for you to savour. In fact your naming yourself Kaur means a lot more to Sikhi that dwells within you than to many of the Kaurs and Singhs who have been handed this on a platter. This is a big decision unlike for those ladies who get married and change their last names to their spouses', hyphenated or not. And when they get divorced, they erase that from all the papers. If they happen to get married again, the same continues in the similar fashion. This is not your case of changing it to Kaur. You must think it through. How would the rest of the McDonald clan feel about it? By doing this, you are not marrying anyone but divorcing your "roots" perhaps in their mind. Would you be shunned, respected, or it matters not to your aunt whom you only see at Christmas when she comes to know that you are a Kaur now and she does not get it why? You do not have to worry about the Sikhs in my opinion. Most of the Sikhi dwellers will welcome you and applaud your courage with a tinge of envy. The reason being that many Singhs and Kaurs do not behave the way their name demands from them. They do not live their lives in the manner they should, rather to the contrary and that includes many who are Amritdharis. In my opinion, one does not have to be Amrtidhari to have a name Kaur or Singh. An "outsider' who has come to Sikhi because s/he has found something that has made her/him better as a person should have the same right of those who are born in Sikh families and carry the name without taking Khandei di pahul. Yes, there are some in our "Sikhidom" who may feel uneasy about that what I personally find nothing wrong with. In another Sikh Forum I used to visit, I used to use my first name and got scolded many times for not using Singh in the forum and via personal messages. I am known as Teji Malik to the world. Now, I will give you my 2 cent worth. First, live Sikhi in your mind and heart without worrying about changing your name. If you still feel the inner urge which will not stop, then the day you decide to change it, check out the Hukamnaama of the day from Harmander Sahib. Use the first letter as your first name with Kaur as your last and voila. If you ask the Gurdwara management for the same, they will demand you to take Khandei de pahul first which is unfair in my opinion. You may also ask some 'Aunties' you know in the Gurdwara and they may be willing to do the same at their home if they have Sri Guru Granth Sahib Ji and may love to do it. The next step is to change it legally as you yourself mentioned that you feel more a Kaur than a McDonald. But all this is for you to feel free not to get shackled within. It may be a small step for the world but a giant one for yourself. For this reason, live your Sikhi life giantly without worrying about the name. Allow the waves of Sikhi ocean mold you enough so this becomes your second nature. I apologise for the long post. Good luck in whatever you decide to do. Thanks for sharing. Regards Tejwant Singh [/QUOTE]
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