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ਸੋ ਦਰੁ | So Dar
ਸੋਹਿਲਾ | Sohilaa
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਿਰੀਰਾਗੁ | Raag Siree-Raag
Gurbani (14-53)
Ashtpadiyan (53-71)
Gurbani (71-74)
Pahre (74-78)
Chhant (78-81)
Vanjara (81-82)
Vaar Siri Raag (83-91)
Bhagat Bani (91-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਝ | Raag Maajh
Gurbani (94-109)
Ashtpadi (109)
Ashtpadiyan (110-129)
Ashtpadi (129-130)
Ashtpadiyan (130-133)
Bara Maha (133-136)
Din Raen (136-137)
Vaar Maajh Ki (137-150)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗਉੜੀ | Raag Gauree
Gurbani (151-185)
Quartets/Couplets (185-220)
Ashtpadiyan (220-234)
Karhalei (234-235)
Ashtpadiyan (235-242)
Chhant (242-249)
Baavan Akhari (250-262)
Sukhmani (262-296)
Thittee (296-300)
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Gurbani (323-330)
Ashtpadiyan (330-340)
Baavan Akhari (340-343)
Thintteen (343-344)
Vaar Kabir (344-345)
Bhagat Bani (345-346)
ਰਾਗੁ ਆਸਾ | Raag Aasaa
Gurbani (347-348)
Chaupaday (348-364)
Panchpadde (364-365)
Kaafee (365-409)
Aasaavaree (409-411)
Ashtpadiyan (411-432)
Patee (432-435)
Chhant (435-462)
Vaar Aasaa (462-475)
Bhagat Bani (475-488)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੂਜਰੀ | Raag Goojaree
Gurbani (489-503)
Ashtpadiyan (503-508)
Vaar Gujari (508-517)
Vaar Gujari (517-526)
ਰਾਗੁ ਦੇਵਗੰਧਾਰੀ | Raag Dayv-Gandhaaree
Gurbani (527-536)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਹਾਗੜਾ | Raag Bihaagraa
Gurbani (537-556)
Chhant (538-548)
Vaar Bihaagraa (548-556)
ਰਾਗੁ ਵਡਹੰਸ | Raag Wadhans
Gurbani (557-564)
Ashtpadiyan (564-565)
Chhant (565-575)
Ghoriaan (575-578)
Alaahaniiaa (578-582)
Vaar Wadhans (582-594)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੋਰਠਿ | Raag Sorath
Gurbani (595-634)
Asatpadhiya (634-642)
Vaar Sorath (642-659)
ਰਾਗੁ ਧਨਾਸਰੀ | Raag Dhanasaree
Gurbani (660-685)
Astpadhiya (685-687)
Chhant (687-691)
Bhagat Bani (691-695)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਤਸਰੀ | Raag Jaitsree
Gurbani (696-703)
Chhant (703-705)
Vaar Jaitsaree (705-710)
Bhagat Bani (710)
ਰਾਗੁ ਟੋਡੀ | Raag Todee
ਰਾਗੁ ਬੈਰਾੜੀ | Raag Bairaaree
ਰਾਗੁ ਤਿਲੰਗ | Raag Tilang
Gurbani (721-727)
Bhagat Bani (727)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸੂਹੀ | Raag Suhi
Gurbani (728-750)
Ashtpadiyan (750-761)
Kaafee (761-762)
Suchajee (762)
Gunvantee (763)
Chhant (763-785)
Vaar Soohee (785-792)
Bhagat Bani (792-794)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਿਲਾਵਲੁ | Raag Bilaaval
Gurbani (795-831)
Ashtpadiyan (831-838)
Thitteen (838-840)
Vaar Sat (841-843)
Chhant (843-848)
Vaar Bilaaval (849-855)
Bhagat Bani (855-858)
ਰਾਗੁ ਗੋਂਡ | Raag Gond
Gurbani (859-869)
Ashtpadiyan (869)
Bhagat Bani (870-875)
ਰਾਗੁ ਰਾਮਕਲੀ | Raag Ramkalee
Ashtpadiyan (902-916)
Gurbani (876-902)
Anand (917-922)
Sadd (923-924)
Chhant (924-929)
Dakhnee (929-938)
Sidh Gosat (938-946)
Vaar Ramkalee (947-968)
ਰਾਗੁ ਨਟ ਨਾਰਾਇਨ | Raag Nat Narayan
Gurbani (975-980)
Ashtpadiyan (980-983)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਲੀ ਗਉੜਾ | Raag Maalee Gauraa
Gurbani (984-988)
Bhagat Bani (988)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਾਰੂ | Raag Maaroo
Gurbani (889-1008)
Ashtpadiyan (1008-1014)
Kaafee (1014-1016)
Ashtpadiyan (1016-1019)
Anjulian (1019-1020)
Solhe (1020-1033)
Dakhni (1033-1043)
ਰਾਗੁ ਤੁਖਾਰੀ | Raag Tukhaari
Bara Maha (1107-1110)
Chhant (1110-1117)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕੇਦਾਰਾ | Raag Kedara
Gurbani (1118-1123)
Bhagat Bani (1123-1124)
ਰਾਗੁ ਭੈਰਉ | Raag Bhairo
Gurbani (1125-1152)
Partaal (1153)
Ashtpadiyan (1153-1167)
ਰਾਗੁ ਬਸੰਤੁ | Raag Basant
Gurbani (1168-1187)
Ashtpadiyan (1187-1193)
Vaar Basant (1193-1196)
ਰਾਗੁ ਸਾਰਗ | Raag Saarag
Gurbani (1197-1200)
Partaal (1200-1231)
Ashtpadiyan (1232-1236)
Chhant (1236-1237)
Vaar Saarang (1237-1253)
ਰਾਗੁ ਮਲਾਰ | Raag Malaar
Gurbani (1254-1293)
Partaal (1265-1273)
Ashtpadiyan (1273-1278)
Chhant (1278)
Vaar Malaar (1278-91)
Bhagat Bani (1292-93)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਾਨੜਾ | Raag Kaanraa
Gurbani (1294-96)
Partaal (1296-1318)
Ashtpadiyan (1308-1312)
Chhant (1312)
Vaar Kaanraa
Bhagat Bani (1318)
ਰਾਗੁ ਕਲਿਆਨ | Raag Kalyaan
Gurbani (1319-23)
Ashtpadiyan (1323-26)
ਰਾਗੁ ਪ੍ਰਭਾਤੀ | Raag Prabhaatee
Gurbani (1327-1341)
Ashtpadiyan (1342-51)
ਰਾਗੁ ਜੈਜਾਵੰਤੀ | Raag Jaijaiwanti
Gurbani (1352-53)
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Sehskritee Mahala 1
Sehskritee Mahala 5
Gaathaa Mahala 5
Phunhay Mahala 5
Chaubolae Mahala 5
Shaloks Bhagat Kabir
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Swaiyyae Mahala 5
Swaiyyae in Praise of Gurus
Shaloks in Addition To Vaars
Shalok Ninth Mehl
Mundavanee Mehl 5
ਰਾਗ ਮਾਲਾ, Raag Maalaa
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<blockquote data-quote="spnadmin" data-source="post: 195041" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>Ambarsaria ji</p><p></p><p>This comment is my personal reply. The poll does not capture my thoughts on this matter. The question of marriage and relationships is extremely complicated. I have the greatest difficulty responding when the subject comes up as a new thread in which a member is describing a deep personal problem.</p><p></p><p>There are too many issues to consider. You will see why I cannot reply to the poll.</p><p></p><ol> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">My individual inclination is to follow the Sikh Rehat Maryada. At the same time I recognize that in the area of marriage and relationships the SRM can be unhelpful in modern times. <br /> </li> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">Then there is the issue of the law to consider. Bigamy is illegal in most parts of the world (save for Muslim theocracies like Saudi Arabia). Therefore, even if the rehat permitted it, how could it be an option to take seriously? <br /> </li> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">Caste is not supposed to be considered according to Sri Guru Granth Sahib Ji and the SRM. Yet, there are extremely strong social and cultural marriage traditions based on caste. So much so that I feel I must always advise someone else to think carefully before flying in the face of them. It is ethically irresponsible to lecture a person that caste has no place in Sikhi, knowing full well it is wiser to think before taking action.<br /> <br /> 3.a There is a version of the "no true Scotsman logical fallacy" in many of these relationship discussions that goes like this. "No true Sikh would make marriage decisions based on caste." The fact is Sikhs do in vast numbers. Not only are marriage choices guided by caste, but other things are as well. This is very serious.<br /> </li> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">Some traditions fly in the face of Sri Guru Granth Sahib Ji and the SRM because culture is so entrenched in our minds. Honor killing still happens, in the west and in the east. Therefore, how can anyone 'encourage' another person to follow their will in an inter-caste, or an inter-religious marriage situation, or simply where parental wishes are being defied. We know full well that the consequences could be disastrous. Short of honor killing, being shunned by one's family is not a small tragedy either. <br /> </li> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">Homosexuality is not mentioned in Sri Guru Granth Sahib Ji. Homosexual marriage is not forbidden in SRM; however, it is fairly clear it is not an option either. This is an example where the SRM has not kept pace with modern life. Homosexual relationships existed in the Punjab from the times of the Gurus. It was kept private and hushed up. There were socially acceptable ways to engage in it and avoid social punishments. Today nothing is private; everything is open to review. People object to hypocrisy. <br /> </li> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">No one has unconditional free will; no one ever will. That is a simplistic consideration.</li> </ol><p></p><p>So here is my answer. I am personally guided in my own decisions by Sri Guru Granth Sahib Ji and the Sikh Rehat Maryada. I find nothing to limit me as one person there. However, I want to be clear that many, many issues need to be weighed when making marriage and relationship decisions. Finally, it is not my place to judge the decisions of anyone in this regard; nor can I condone violent actions when someone makes a decision that <em> appears </em>to veer away from Sikhi. Many have a hard time separating Punjab culture and history from Sikhi. That makes the conversation most difficult.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="spnadmin, post: 195041, member: 35"] Ambarsaria ji This comment is my personal reply. The poll does not capture my thoughts on this matter. The question of marriage and relationships is extremely complicated. I have the greatest difficulty responding when the subject comes up as a new thread in which a member is describing a deep personal problem. There are too many issues to consider. You will see why I cannot reply to the poll. [LIST=1] [*]My individual inclination is to follow the Sikh Rehat Maryada. At the same time I recognize that in the area of marriage and relationships the SRM can be unhelpful in modern times. [*]Then there is the issue of the law to consider. Bigamy is illegal in most parts of the world (save for Muslim theocracies like Saudi Arabia). Therefore, even if the rehat permitted it, how could it be an option to take seriously? [*]Caste is not supposed to be considered according to Sri Guru Granth Sahib Ji and the SRM. Yet, there are extremely strong social and cultural marriage traditions based on caste. So much so that I feel I must always advise someone else to think carefully before flying in the face of them. It is ethically irresponsible to lecture a person that caste has no place in Sikhi, knowing full well it is wiser to think before taking action. 3.a There is a version of the "no true Scotsman logical fallacy" in many of these relationship discussions that goes like this. "No true Sikh would make marriage decisions based on caste." The fact is Sikhs do in vast numbers. Not only are marriage choices guided by caste, but other things are as well. This is very serious. [*]Some traditions fly in the face of Sri Guru Granth Sahib Ji and the SRM because culture is so entrenched in our minds. Honor killing still happens, in the west and in the east. Therefore, how can anyone 'encourage' another person to follow their will in an inter-caste, or an inter-religious marriage situation, or simply where parental wishes are being defied. We know full well that the consequences could be disastrous. Short of honor killing, being shunned by one's family is not a small tragedy either. [*]Homosexuality is not mentioned in Sri Guru Granth Sahib Ji. Homosexual marriage is not forbidden in SRM; however, it is fairly clear it is not an option either. This is an example where the SRM has not kept pace with modern life. Homosexual relationships existed in the Punjab from the times of the Gurus. It was kept private and hushed up. There were socially acceptable ways to engage in it and avoid social punishments. Today nothing is private; everything is open to review. People object to hypocrisy. [*]No one has unconditional free will; no one ever will. That is a simplistic consideration. [/LIST] So here is my answer. I am personally guided in my own decisions by Sri Guru Granth Sahib Ji and the Sikh Rehat Maryada. I find nothing to limit me as one person there. However, I want to be clear that many, many issues need to be weighed when making marriage and relationship decisions. Finally, it is not my place to judge the decisions of anyone in this regard; nor can I condone violent actions when someone makes a decision that [I] appears [/I]to veer away from Sikhi. Many have a hard time separating Punjab culture and history from Sikhi. That makes the conversation most difficult. [/QUOTE]
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