Hello everyone!
I wanted to ask this question as there is an intermarriage marriage coming up in our family. I don't know why, but somehow I feel it is not right for Non-Sikhs to get married with the Anand Karaj ceremony.
Guru Ram Das Ji Maharaj made the wedding hymns so unique, I believe using these in his own wedding ceremony (please correct me if I am wrong.) Not only that, but unlike other ceremonies where a couple comes in front of God to proclaim each other married, the Sikh Lavan go way beyond that. It is about a couple coming together to meet God, to commit to connecting to God, to commit to following the path of Sikhi.
It's so beautiful to read the Lavan, like a bride waiting for her groom, the Sikh Lavan is about two people whose soul has come together as a bride, marrying (spirtually) to the one True God through the blessings of the Guru.
It is so sad that many of our youth do not take the time to read the Lavan before getting married, and may tell someone "oh it's just us becoming husband and wife in front of God" when in actuality that is not what it is. I love reading the Wedding Lavan.
Would it not then be deceit to pass off the wedding Lavan to a non-Sikh partner as just simply "coming together in front of God as man and wife." Even the circling of the Sri Guru Granth Sahib Ji Maharaj is such a profound act, it is done because Guru is Bani and Bani is Guru, AND CORRECT ME IF I AM WRONG, but do we not by circling also seek the blessings of Guruji? (Gurprasaad?)
If someone is not Sikh, and we allow them to remain willfully ignorant of what our Wedding Lavan are saying, is that not wrong? Especially if they don't plan to ever be Sikh. eg. my friend who is Catholic told me that at many Catholic ceremonies there is a part in the ceremony in which you agree to raise your kids as Catholic, would it not be wrong to just keep someone in the dark about that.
Would not doing Sukhman Sahib da Paat and having a random reading of Shabd (Hukamnaama) not be enough?
PLEASE excuse if I have used poor Gurmukhi as I am learning.
Bhul Chuk Maaf.
Please your thoughts.
I wanted to ask this question as there is an intermarriage marriage coming up in our family. I don't know why, but somehow I feel it is not right for Non-Sikhs to get married with the Anand Karaj ceremony.
Guru Ram Das Ji Maharaj made the wedding hymns so unique, I believe using these in his own wedding ceremony (please correct me if I am wrong.) Not only that, but unlike other ceremonies where a couple comes in front of God to proclaim each other married, the Sikh Lavan go way beyond that. It is about a couple coming together to meet God, to commit to connecting to God, to commit to following the path of Sikhi.
It's so beautiful to read the Lavan, like a bride waiting for her groom, the Sikh Lavan is about two people whose soul has come together as a bride, marrying (spirtually) to the one True God through the blessings of the Guru.
It is so sad that many of our youth do not take the time to read the Lavan before getting married, and may tell someone "oh it's just us becoming husband and wife in front of God" when in actuality that is not what it is. I love reading the Wedding Lavan.
Would it not then be deceit to pass off the wedding Lavan to a non-Sikh partner as just simply "coming together in front of God as man and wife." Even the circling of the Sri Guru Granth Sahib Ji Maharaj is such a profound act, it is done because Guru is Bani and Bani is Guru, AND CORRECT ME IF I AM WRONG, but do we not by circling also seek the blessings of Guruji? (Gurprasaad?)
If someone is not Sikh, and we allow them to remain willfully ignorant of what our Wedding Lavan are saying, is that not wrong? Especially if they don't plan to ever be Sikh. eg. my friend who is Catholic told me that at many Catholic ceremonies there is a part in the ceremony in which you agree to raise your kids as Catholic, would it not be wrong to just keep someone in the dark about that.
Would not doing Sukhman Sahib da Paat and having a random reading of Shabd (Hukamnaama) not be enough?
PLEASE excuse if I have used poor Gurmukhi as I am learning.
Bhul Chuk Maaf.
Please your thoughts.