Egotism and Egoism. Does Gurbani or Punjabi Differentiate?

(As of 1/10/11) 8 years and 3 days ago a fellow by the handle of 'Mickwick' posted to a Usenet forum the following example of the difference between Egotism and Egoism:

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Does Gurbani or Punjabi language differentiate between these two ideas?

Does the Sikh concept of 'ahankar' mean egotism, egoism, or a combination of both?

What's worse for a Sikh, being an egotist or an egoist?

Is it truly possible to ever do anything which is not self-centered? Can you truly say your actions are truly motivated JUST BECAUSE and not to bring you closer to Realisation? Can you say you read Gurbani JUST BECAUSE and not to bring you a sense of peace?

Can the thorn truly be extracted in a mere mortal?

What ways can a Sikh's thinking be changed to be less 'me' centered? Should we be encouraged to refer to ourselves as 'Das' (ie. 'this slave') and not as 'I'? Is that helpful to deconstruct one's 'I-ness'? Could our speech (and writing) contain more references to the True Doer instead of our selves?

Das prays for Guruji's kirpa to understand this.

Is that egoistic in itself?!

 
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Gurbani uses one word HAUMEI which does not mean ego, egoism or egotism. In fact this word is fascinating to me from a philosophical point of view. It means YOUME. Or the distance, the difference, between you and me, which is the source of all discord, war, terrorism, brutality, oppression, greed and anger.
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It is like the I/Thou connection that Martin Buber discusses in his philosophical work. The separation of I/human from Thou/God is taken as a beginning assumption. In western religions and islam this separation is a given. Among Christian and Jewsih religions the task is to close the gap. In islam it is a sacrilege to presume to do that.(Sufism the exception) In Sikhi conversely there is never the purpose to bridge a gap, which does not exist in the first place.
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We have not so much egotism or egotism, but rather we lack awareness of that connection that HAUMEI conveys. Unconnected to Kartar Purakh we are unconnected to each other, and the rest is unavoidable.

In Sikhi we are not ever disconnected. We are blind to the connection of oneness.

p/s. So in answer, the difference between egoism and egotism is only technical or semantic in Sikhi, because both are products of Haumei.

Isi Ji ,ego might be thinking that 'you' are in some way better than 'me' ,or is that egocentrism?

Ahankar is egotism, and is cured by doing Waheguru simran, so that you don't praise yourself but praise Guru via Gurbani.
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Egoism is cured by doing Sewa. You forgetting self and helping out or working for others.

Hau...MEI...we are supposed to..Hua Hau karteh..HAU hooeyeh....mujh meh raha na MEI..
Thanks...Spnadmin ji brilliantly explained...

The whole WORLD is in the blame game...anything bad..disaster..its GOD who did it..bad luck..evil spirits..whatever...
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Anything "good"..lottery..my Good Luck..promotion..MY Effort...kid passed exams..MY GENES...

ONLY a "GURU ARJUN" can sit on the SIZZLING HOT PLATE in the Height of the Indian Summer where shade temp can touch 45Degrees Centigrade....with burning hot sand being poured on hsi head and body from above...HUM DOS NA KAHOON DEVOHN...I blame NO ONE....Tera Bhanna Meetha Laggeh..YOUR WILL is sweet my beloved !!

And should anyone say..OH Guru Arjun is a fluke shot..one in a million...impossible odds..WRONG....just look at the LONG LINE..of Guru Arjun's Jis SIKHS....Bhai mati dass being sawed alive..Bhai Sati dass being burnt alive..Bhai Dyala Ji being BOILED alive..Bhai mani Singh being cut from joint to joint..Bhai Banda Singh bahadur having his mouth stuffed with the beating heart of his toddler son...Bhai fateh Singh Bhai Zorawar Singh standing atll in the wall being brocked up alive...THOUSANDS upon THOUSANDS..with NOT a SINGLE "BLAME/CRY of Pain/dissatifaction/annoyance/upon nay ones lips..just WAHEGURU/JAPJI SAHIB recitation..loud and clear..." Bhai Ghaniyah ji tending to the wounded muslim and sikh alike saying..Na ko beri nahin BEGANNAH...all are my brothers...
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That is proof that HAU is there in full glory and MEI is a tiny dot in the distance...if at all present...

When we come back to the question of ego, then we are indeed looking at ahankar. But that does not translate well imho into ego. Ego in its western sense is both good and bad. Not so ahankar. The beauty of Punjabi is that a single word can pack a punch that is so full of subtle grades of meaning. English cannot do that. English needs many related words to achieve what Punjabi gets to in one word.

Personally, and members correct me, but ahankar gives a bigger picture of Prideful Self, to be full of conceit. It is ego run amok, not unlike a teenage elephant who breaks from his handler and tears up a corn field because "I AM WHO I AM" ... and how dare anyone try to rein me in? Sometimes in Gurbani, elephant is a symbol of mind, seat of ego. ਮਨੁ ਮੈਗਲੁ ਸਾਕਤੁ ਦੇਵਾਨਾ ॥Man maigal sākaṯ ḏevānā.The mind of the faithless cynic is like a crazy elephant. For humans, this, in my way of understanding, arises from a sense of HAUMEI...that we are not interconnected, or not understanding that when I hurt you I am also hurting myself through pride in self.

I think of this example: A really naughty boy puts chewing gum on the teacher's chair. She sits on it, and then is enraged by the fact that the children are laughing away. She finds out who did it. Now we have ahankar/pride of self mixed with Krod/anger, the two often go hand in hand. The trouble with ego now begins. Rightfully she is angered by the lack of respect of HER VERY IMPORTANT SELF. But wrongly she begins a campaign of getting even with that boy. She humiliates him at each turn. Gives him lower grades. What is she teaching him? Certainly not how to respect teachers. She is not teaching how to be just or fair. She is teaching him to be a cynic and he learns that this is a world where it is better to get someone else before they can get you. So both teacher and child are losers from this experience. Maybe she is even teaching him how to be an oppressive government official or a dictator.

The way out Guru Amardas ji tells us:

ਸਲੋਕੁ ਮਃ ੩ ॥
सलोकु मः ३ ॥
Salok mėhlā 3.
Shalok, Third Mehl:

ਹਸਤੀ ਸਿਰਿ ਜਿਉ ਅੰਕਸੁ ਹੈ ਅਹਰਣਿ ਜਿਉ ਸਿਰੁ ਦੇਇ ॥
हसती सिरि जिउ अंकसु है अहरणि जिउ सिरु देइ ॥
Hasṯī sir ji▫o ankas hai ahraṇ ji▫o sir ḏe▫e.
The elephant offers its head to the reins, and the anvil offers itself to the hammer;

ਮਨੁ ਤਨੁ ਆਗੈ ਰਾਖਿ ਕੈ ਊਭੀ ਸੇਵ ਕਰੇਇ ॥
मनु तनु आगै राखि कै ऊभी सेव करेइ ॥
Man ṯan āgai rākẖ kai ūbẖī sev kare▫i.
just so, we offer our minds and bodies to our Guru; we stand before Him, and serve Him

ਇਉ ਗੁਰਮੁਖਿ ਆਪੁ ਨਿਵਾਰੀਐ ਸਭੁ ਰਾਜੁ ਸ੍ਰਿਸਟਿ ਕਾ ਲੇਇ ॥
इउ गुरमुखि आपु निवारीऐ सभु राजु स्रिसटि का लेइ ॥
I▫o gurmukẖ āp nivārī▫ai sabẖ rāj sarisat kā le▫e.
This is how the Gurmukhs eliminate their self-conceit, and come to rule the whole world.

ਨਾਨਕ ਗੁਰਮੁਖਿ ਬੁਝੀਐ ਜਾ ਆਪੇ ਨਦਰਿ ਕਰੇਇ ॥੧॥
नानक गुरमुखि बुझीऐ जा आपे नदरि करेइ ॥१॥
Nānak gurmukẖ bujẖī▫ai jā āpe naḏar kare▫i. ||1||
O Guru Nanak, the Gurmukh understands, when the Lord casts His Glance of Grace. ||1||

Ang 546/547

Spnadmin ji,

Guru Fateh.

Thanks for explaining it so well.

Indeed. Hankaar is a collection of inflating once's chest while showing disdain and hatred towards others. In other words, Hankaar is cake made of Me-ism which has the icing of loathing with the inscription,"I give a damn".

I recollect a shabad that states the cure is also contained within it ,Can anyone quote it?