Sikh Marriages

kds1980 · #10 (**permalink**) 22-Jan-2008, 23:46 PM

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Originally Posted by Sikh80

Dera kds,
The government slaries are not the datum these days as the govt. emplyee always have some perks which others do not have.I need not explain here.it is better to study the salary struc. of Government cirporation/some private banks. This can be a good datum.

I don't need to study Gov employees perks .my father itself was government servant and there are very few perks.Beleive me the data i have written above is 100% true.

Sikh80 · #11 (**permalink**) 22-Jan-2008, 23:57 PM

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Originally Posted by kds1980

I don't need to study Gov employees perks .my father itself was government servant and there are very few perks.Beleive me the data i have written above is 100% true.

Sorry for spelling mistakes but it is the way i write english. I had suggested that you may also like to study the salary structure of Government corporations. A secretary to Govt. Of India has a salary of 50,000/+ he has a residence a huge, 2/3 servants,drivers for 24 hours.....etc...likewise almost all in Govt. have house,leave travel concession, medical leaves, leave with salary, restricted leaves, ; most of the things may not be available to the non-govt. sector.
In any case the entire debate is to define the salary level of middle class. It is late now.You may answer this .I shall now go to bed.
regards and good night

kds1980 · #12 (**permalink**) 23-Jan-2008, 01:41 AM

Why are you taking the salaries of Vip's and facilities provided to them.I am talking about normal govt employee

Archived_Member1 · #13 (**permalink**) 23-Jan-2008, 03:13 AM

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Originally Posted by Sikh80

To Sherab ji.
True and needless to say that alcohol is an integral part Of marriage parties. One has to take the formal approval of the concerned Excise Authorities.

e&oe

not sikh marriage parties. if people are doing it, that's part of a PUNJABI wedding, not a SIKH wedding.

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Originally Posted by Sherab

I don't want an expensive sikh marriage.. and i dun want the bhangra, or the sharab (no pun intended) and i deffientaly don;t wanna dance... i wish i could just go get Lavaan and have it done with....

Sadly, culture smothers religion, as usual.

it doesn't have to.

my anand karaj was a grand total of $1000. $500 for langar catered from a good restaurant, and $500 seva to the gurdwara. that's it. no horses, no chunni ceremony, no ring ceremony, certainly no bhangra afterwards, and DEFINITELY no alcohol. oh, add a couple hundred for a fancy suit for me and a fancy kurta for him, plus new kirpans. so maybe $1300.

these huge multi-day affairs are not sikh weddings, they're punjabi weddings. the sikh wedding is anand karaj, period. everything else is just extra. in my (very american) opinion, it's all a huge waste of money meant only to impress the neighbors. not exactly sikhi...

Sikh80 · #14 (**permalink**) 23-Jan-2008, 08:09 AM

But most of the sikhs marriages are solmenised this way.There may be exceptions. This may be esp. true in the upper middle class as my friend kds ji insists that it cannot be a typical middle class marriage. One works down to the number of 'milnis' at the time of reception Of 'Baraat'.
There are other traditions as well that one can say that marriage is more as per hindu rites. The only distinguishing feature is Lavaan-phere or Anand karaj and that seems to be the last item of agenda of the marriage.
Reference:: Sikh Philosophy Network http://www.sikhphilosophy.net/sikh-sikhi-sikhism/19398-sikh-marriages.html
Reference:: Sikh Philosophy Network http://www.sikhphilosophy.net/showthread.php?t=19398

The following is an interesting link that appears to be a forum discussion on Anand Karaj.
I have no comments on the american marriages as there is no published data and individuals experience may not be representative of the general experience.Thanks for the info.
The Langar Hall Blog Archive Has the Anand Karaj Lost its Significance to the Afterparty?