Can Sikh Girl Marry A Hindu Boy?

manpreetsinghbca01 · #1 (**permalink**) 05-Jan-2011, 20:56 PM

I have this question in mind,I have seen many sikh girls marriying hindu boys,Is this permitted in sikh religion,I have searched on internet,But can't find
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Soul_jyot · #2 (**permalink**) 05-Jan-2011, 21:07 PM

Sikh Reht Maryada
THE CODE OF SIKH CONDUCT AND CONVENTIONS

CHAPTER XI

Article XVIII

a. A Sikh man and woman should enter wedlock without giving thought to the prospective spouse's caste and descent.
b. A Sikh's daughter must be married to a Sikh.
Reference:: Sikh Philosophy Network http://www.sikhphilosophy.net/sikh-rehat-maryada/33861-can-sikh-girl-marry-hindu-boy.html
c. A Sikh's marriage should be solemnized by Anand marriage rites.
d. Child marriage is taboo for Sikhs.
e. When a girl becomes marriageable, physically, emotionally and by virtue of maturity of character, a suitable Sikh match should be found and she be married to him by Anand marriage rites............................................. .....

source: http://sgpc.net/rehat_maryada/section_four_chap_eleven.html

rajneesh madhok · #3 (**permalink**) 05-Jan-2011, 21:08 PM

You are worried about the question which is common in Punjab even as in cities and town most of the families approve of such relations. Well i do not know the opinions of sikhs but I have come across hundreds of such relations in which the families approved the relation.
Secondly what is going to happen, depends on how broad minded both the families are. if they are stuck saying Sikh is gr8 or hindu is gr8, forget this relationship and move on. Mostly the boys and girls disobey their parents in villages and elope. I wont suggest the later as it is an act of cowards. if the boy/girl dare, then they should challenge both the families and say we r going to get married no matter what. but first find out if ur guy is willing to do the same. if you are the only one thinking this way then my frnd, nothing will happen. best is to call it the end and if possible be friends.I hope you are finding solution to your own problem.
Reference:: Sikh Philosophy Network http://www.sikhphilosophy.net/showthread.php?t=33861
Reference:: Sikh Philosophy Network http://www.sikhphilosophy.net/showthread.php?t=33861
Rajneesh Madhok

Randip Singh · #4 (**permalink**) 05-Jan-2011, 21:54 PM

I know a lot of Sikh men married to Hindu girls (usually always Hindu Punjabi), but not many Sikh girls married to Hindu's. The Hindu's Sikh girls have married tend to be Punjabi as well.animatedkhanda1

findingmyway · #5 (**permalink**) 05-Jan-2011, 22:36 PM

I don't see Hindu-Sikh relationships as any different to any other interfaith relationship. The couple will have to think extremely carefully about how things will work as there are many differences in the 2 philosophies. Some examples are, will Hindu murtis be allowed in the house as they are against Sikh practice, will alcohol be allowed in the house, what expectations will be there around kesh, how will children be brought up, at special times will they have a paath or puja, will they believe in one God or many Gods etc etc. Won't it be confusing for children if they are being taught to believe in Brahma, Shiva and Vishnu and then hearing a shabad such as this http://www.srigranth.org/servlet/gur...Page&K=479&L=5

spnadmin · #6 (**permalink**) 05-Jan-2011, 22:37 PM

This is actually a pretty common practice among Nihangs. Hindu girl/Sikh guy.
Reference:: Sikh Philosophy Network http://www.sikhphilosophy.net/showthread.php?t=33861

Related note: Let's stop using the term "girls" for females over the age of 16. I wish we would refer to women of marriageable age as "women" or kaurs not "girls." Calling an unmarried woman a "girl" is very insulting and imho once again underscores some hypocrisy that we as Sikhs need to work on. Let's think of women in Sikhi as the brave, strong kaurs they are, instead of females who do not leave the larval stage until they marry.

Otherwise by calling them 'girls" we are speaking in a different voice. Let's also refer to Sikh males over 16 as "men" or Singhs. The "oh but this is India which is very backward and you know all that ".... doesn't wash with me because there are more cell phones and televisions in India than there are toilets per capita and these are known statistics. India is fast becoming part of the modern world, and Sikhism said to be a modern religion. So let's change our language and change how the world thinks. Thanks.

Ishna · #7 (**permalink**) 06-Jan-2011, 04:49 AM

Thank you spnadmin ji!!! I totally agree. Women and men!

As for marriage, ideally partners will be of the same faith. Frankly, it's just much more practical. I'm always wary though, because people grow and change as their lives progress and the person who may be a Sikh on your wedding day may be an atheist or a Christan or whatever in 10 years time anyway.

And my belief is the Rehat Maryada should state that a Sikh should only marry a Sikh, not that only a Sikh's daughter must marry a Sikh. Technically, if your a Sikh and your daughter (for whatever reason) is a Hindu or a Christian, then you still have to marry her to a Sikh because it hasn't said your SIKH DAUGHTER, it says "a Sikh's daughter".
Reference:: Sikh Philosophy Network http://www.sikhphilosophy.net/showthread.php?t=33861
Reference:: Sikh Philosophy Network http://www.sikhphilosophy.net/showthread.php?t=33861

Ishna

rajneesh madhok · #8 (**permalink**) 06-Jan-2011, 13:24 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Randip Singh

I know a lot of Sikh men married to Hindu girls (usually always Hindu Punjabi), but not many Sikh girls married to Hindu's. The Hindu's Sikh girls have married tend to be Punjabi as well.animatedkhanda1

Dear Randip ji,

Your perception is wrong. You will find more than 75% sikh girls married to Hindu boys than Hindu girls to Sikh boys. Kindly make random checking around your house and conclude yourself. The reason I don't know but the fact is that:

The truth about conversions most Sikhs go on and on about Sikh girls converting to Islam well Sikh girls convert to Hinduism more than Islam,across the world we all know someone who is Sikh girl married to a Hindu or have a relative who has done this.

Quote:

Wednesday, 13 February 2008
Converting by lies and Deception (Hindu Gangs target Sikh Girls)

It is well know and established fact that Sikh girls openly marry and convert to Hinduism on a mass scale in India and all over the world.

Last year alone their were 1500 Sikhs girls marring Hindus. At a rate of 4 conversions a day In India. From Scotland to England it is the same story every where.

Questions we must ask ourselves?

• Is it expectable in Sikh religion for Sikh girls to marry a Hindu? • Is this all a common Sikh practice or is it done by deception and fraud?

Is it expectable in Sikh religion for Sikh girls to marry Hindu?

Answer: No, it’s against the Sikh rehait maryada. As it states very clearly

Quote:

Article XVIII

a. A Sikh man and woman should enter wedlock without giving thought to the prospective spouse's caste and descent.
b. A Sikh's daughter must be married to a Sikh.
c. A Sikh's marriage should be solemnized by Anand marriage rites.

http://www.sgpc.net/...hap_eleven.html

Is this all a common Sikh practice or is it done by deception and fraud?

Answer: yes it is done under false pretences deception and fraud.

Quote:

Their main argument is that Sikhs are Hindus and its okay as Sikhism is a part of Hindu religion. Hindus openly wears karas and kanda chains to pretend to be half Sikhs and lure Sikh girls into this false scene of security. Then sikhi becomes history, when these Hindu gangs tell our girls the following things:

• There is no need to be Sikh any more as we have are own country. The Sikhs were created as an army of the Hindus to protect the Brahmins

• We don’t need to be protected by Sikh army anymore as we have the Indian army, we know that Indian army is better then Sikhs as we learn in 1984.

We are the Stupid ones that allow Non-Sikhs to marry our Girls In Gurdwaras. These Gangs must be think we can go to the Gurdwara and get free food, but these fools are letting us marry their girls to!

Below is a real life story of a Sikh Girl:

Amanpreet Kaur Marries a Hindu

Quote:

http://www.realsikhi.../amanpreet.html

By Amanpreet Kaur
June 2003

I am Amanpreet Kaur, a 22 year old girl born in Ludhiana, Punjab. When I was 19, studying BCA, I fell in love with a Hindu boy named Sameer. We would talk for hours and it was clear that he loved me back. We would always talk about living a happy life together but never really discussed religion.

Religion is a big part of life in India. Indians are very religious people. My family was religious but they hardly told me anything about Sikhism. Everything I learned about Sikhism was from the school in which I studied ‘till twelfth grade. I knew about Guru Nanak Dev Ji and his teachings and that Sikhs are to worship one God only. I knew a little bit of the history, Sikhs fighting with Muslim emperor Aurengzeb to save Hindus. But little did I knew about differences between Sikhism and Hinduism. All I knew was Sikhs do not believe in caste system and do not worship Hindu Gods like Brahma, Krishan, Ganesh, Durga, Kali etc, as mukti (salvation) can only be attained through the meditation on One God, who is above all.

Sameer told me that I do not have to convert to Hinduism in order to marry him. He told me that I can still practice Sikhism if I wanted to. Marrying a Hindu didn’t seem a big of deal to me but my parents told me that I should marry someone with the similar belief system, a Sikh. There arose a huge fight in our family but blinded by love I insisted to marry Sameer only.

Anyway, we got married. Our marriage was conduct according to Hindu marriage ceremony. Everything was going well for the first couple of weeks until his parents started forcing me to do Durga Puja (worship). I resisted but they said it is the practice of their family and I have to do it. I told Sameer and found him surprisingly in agreement with his parents. He said I can perform Sikh practices but being in their family I have to do Durga Puja.

The conflict started arising not only because of Durga Puja but also due to daily Hindu rituals. For example always referring to Hindu Gods while talking, fasting for certain periods, considering fire as sacred, and much more.

They kept forcing me and taunting me and I started performing Durga Puja. I felt very awkward worshipping the stone statue of Durga. One day I decided to search the online version of Guru Granth Sahib about what my Guru says about performing other worships. I found out that Guru Ji condemns the worship of anyone else except God.

As I read more and more of Guru Granth Sahib and some of the articles written by Sikhs, my eyes lit and I was amazed that my Guru offers such beautiful and true teaching. I felt embarrassed for not knowing it until now. Everything a girl could ever imagine is in Sikhism. Guru ji gave women equal status as of men, equal rights and self-respect. My Guru made me a princess by giving me the last name, Kaur. I felt really ashamed and embarrassed having betrayed my Guru.

The next morning I told Sameer that I will no longer perform Durga Puja. When my mother-in-law heard this from Sameer, she became furious and started cursing me. And started telling Sameer that he should leave me. That morning I did not perform Durga Puja. One day Sameer came home and told me to get ready. I asked him the reason and he said it is a surprise. I had no idea where he was taking me until he took me to a mandir (Hindu Temple). He had tricked me to go to the mandir to do Durga Puja. I refused to get out of the car. He kept trying and even tried to drag me. Watching my resistance, he became furious and drove back home. He did not say a word and when we went in our room he slapped me. The slap was so unexpected and hard that I fell on the ground. I started crying and he started yelling. I wept for the whole night.

Slowly our marriage grew apart and we got divorced. I still regret my decision of getting married to Sameer. Sometimes our emotions make us blind and all we want to see is what suits our eyes and we ignore everything else, unaware of what we ignored will come back to haunt us. My advice to all Sikh girls is to marry a Sikh so that there would be no room for religious conflicts.

Rajneesh Madhok

spnadmin · #9 (**permalink**) 06-Jan-2011, 13:49 PM

rajneesh ji

I have edited your comments by putting "quote" brackets around the quoted material. It was difficult to tell your thoughts from quoted material. I hope I got it right btw. If not, let me know and I will fix it. Thanks for providing some reference material to ponder. Thanks for citing the SRM.