What I considered a miraculous blessing from god , didn't apparently came with nice colleagues. Most of them are fine ! however a few , and it started with one of those psychos , that has spoilt it for me and has left me with a bitter taste in my mouth not only towards people of this office but people of any future office I may join and people in general ! People are judgemental and mean . Anyways , I will not go into much detail about why they did what they did (verbal abuse , etc). They said they did it because they felt I was too introvert-ish and self-centered and wanted to "improve" me. My question is "Do you rectify faults in adults by outlandish insulting them in public ?" And that only made me more rebellious . I said "I won't improve. I am going to continue as nasty , naive and whatever about me that pisses you off" After all, if someone bullied you into being what they want you to be (even if thats good for you), and you become that, the bullies won , right? So I don't wanna give them the feel that they "improved" me. However , considering that I have had very little friends in my lifetime, I wonder what is it that prevents me from forming social bonds with people. And why is it so hard time for me to make few decent friends . You know the ones I can go out and watch the movies with, etc . My conclusions regarding people 1) Bonding or friendship happens only with people who're like you , atleast on some points ! Two jerks will make nice friends because they're nasty people. Nasty people like nasty people. Hence these 2 jerks are closest friends. Guys who're into cricket will easily bond with guys who play cricket too . And ofcourse most guys keep talking about girls all the time. This is what makes me uncomfortable and alienated. I feel I don't know how to play cricket or because I don't share same sexual interest, thats why I have a hard time making friends with guys. 2) You have to take a stand if someone pulls you down If you don't , it won't be long before everyone can "see" you're the one they can beat. Very soon, before you even realize ! , you will be the butt of everyone's jokes and ofcourse they know they can get away with it because you won't do anything ! Even the most cheapest of people will pull you down ! This is what happened in my job . This psycho made my life hell , and then a new guy joins in february and he's all silent and friendly until he sees I was made the buffoon ! Soon, this guy becomes a devil in its own and now he's the biggest of the enemies I have in my workplace. People will make inference about you from other people's behavior towards you and their inference decides how they treat you ! 3) How you respond is important ! Don't respond in a way that they can leverage it against you. Don't show a middle finger to someone who harasses you. Middle finger hardly makes a difference . And infact in future if you wish to report them to workplace, police or whatever, atleast you would have a cleaner slate ! they can't then say "he showed me the middle finger too! so its equal" Well atleast thats much I did learn . I still have a hard time making friends . I don't even know how to .