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Discussion in 'Business, Lifestyle & Leisure' started by singhbj, Jun 12, 2008.

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    Nov 4, 2007
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    DINKY is an acronym, short for dual (or double) income, no kids yet.

    DINKY is occasionally used (in the UK, India, and China) to describe a high-earning couple who choose not to have children and are therefore able to afford a more expensive consumer lifestyle than those with families.

    A successful couple with steadily rising bank balance, those who love to take off to a late night movie without having worry about kids, those who get jitters when you think of having kids and prefer this life instead. Then you are one of those, leading a DINK lifestyle. One can find thousands of couples in urban centers leading such a lifestyle.

    One may say that increased responsibilities at the workplace have resulted in couples leading a lifestyle where the responsibility of kids does not bother them. A decade ago, couples were earning decently and at the same time, did not compromise on family. Agreed, some people may want to explore the married life a bit more and become intimate before having a kid. Some may even want their child to have a contended lifestyle, so they earn beforehand to provide lavish comforts later on. But that does not mean that you forget the very purpose as to why you started to earn.

    Culture Shock
    The society is facing a culture shock these days. Earlier, a couple was expected to have a baby within almost a year of marriage. These days, with higher pay packets and both husband and wife working, success is coming easily and they can afford a pretty lavish lifestyle. They get so used to leading an easy life that they forget the joy that kids bring. Though a DINK lifestyle is enjoyable, it is not so forever. After a point, you will start feeling shallow yourself and would want something more than just money and comfort.

    Why So Many DINKs? Mr. Buchanan lists six factors that contribute to the DINK lifestyle and explain why today's culture mocks "the old idea that the good life for a woman means a husband and a houseful of kids." He says that powerful collateral forces are "pulling American women away from the maternity ward forever." Here are the six factors:

    1. The new economy. Professor James Kurth of Swarthmore College in Pennsylvania calls the migration of men from the farm to the factory the greatest movement of the second half of the 19th century. The greatest in the 20th century was the movement of women from the home to the office.

    Industry offers pay and benefits to lure talented women who compete with men in the marketplace. Many choose careers or one-time motherhood and love the work challenge. They stay.

    With women working, poor families get richer and begin to downsize. And as nations get richer, history shows, they begin to die. Meanwhile, poor families are growing. Jesus said, "Blessed are the meek, for they shall inherit the earth." (Mt. 5:5 KJV)

    2. End of the 'family wage.' Before the sweeping Civil Rights Act of 1964, brainchild of President Lyndon B. Johnson, employers paid fathers a "family wage" so wives and children wouldn't have to work – a matter of "simple justice."

    The feminists had "sex" added to the protections under this Act and the rights of individuals took precedence over family requirements. As women's pay soared, men's dropped, and marriage and family size suffered. Young men earned too little for marriage and a family. Young women found independence and delayed marriage, or just didn't marry at all. Some settled for the DINK role – and the end of the "family wage" was a factor.

    3. The 'population bomb' hysteria. Dire predictions by environmentalists in the 1960s and 1970s of coming world starvation because of population growth and inadequate food production caused widespread hysteria and brought on population control programs – promoted by First World elitists and mostly ignored by the Third World poor, who continued turning out big families.

    4. Feminism. "Women's liberation" has become the rage. It would free women of their roles of wife, mother and homemaker. Margaret Sanger of Planned Parenthood fame declared, "The most merciful thing a large family can do to an infant member is to kill it."

    But earlier feminists Elizabeth Cady Stanton and Susan B. Anthony opposed abortion as disgusting and degrading – a burden to a woman's conscience in life and to her soul in death.

    A few of the modern feminists who would like to abolish marriage altogether are Gloria Steinen, Andrea Dworkin, Robin Morgan, Valerie Solanis, Nancy Lehmann, Helen Sullinger, Vivian Gornick, Christina Sommers, Catherine MacKinnon and Sheila Cronin.
    MacKinnon says, "Feminism stresses the indistinguishability of prostitution, marriage and sexual harassment." Adds Cronin, "Freedom for women cannot be won without the abolition of marriage."

    Feminists have had successes: A tenfold increase in unmarried couples living together since 1970. Husband-wife families are now only one in four. Singles living alone are now 26 percent of the adult population.

    It her book "Empty Hearts and Empty Homes," British author Katarina Runake addressed the feminists' anti-marriage rhetoric as a "Darwinism blind alley," warning, "An immediate consequence of feminism is an irreversible decline in the birthrate. Nations pursue feminist policies at their own peril."

    5. The popular culture puts the joys of sex far above the happiness of motherhood. Indeed, sex, career and the single woman dominate in advertising and entertainment. Marriage and family are downplayed, and the DINKs are helping.

    Anthropologist Julian D. Unwin says society can choose either great energy or sexual freedom, but "it cannot do both for more than one generation." Tom Brokaw' a so-called Greatest Generation chose energy for the Depression and World War II – and gave us an America of "unrivaled pre-eminence." Baby Boomers chose "sexual freedom."

    In due time, we shall see if Unwin is right!
    Columnist Jenkin Lloyd Jones wrote, "Great civilizations and animal standards of behavior coexist only for short periods."

    6. The collapse of the moral order. In the 1950s, divorce, "shacking up" and abortion were scandals. Today, "shacking up" is just a "relationship," half of all marriages end in divorce, and abortion is a "fallback" position and women will vote against any politician or party that threatens to take it away.

    Belgian author Ron Lesthaeghe has noted the West's shift away from Christian values toward a militant "secular individualism" focused on self.

    Pope John Paul VI's 1968 encyclical against contraception brought on four consequences of man's use of contraceptives, all predicted by the pope: (1) widespread infidelity and lowered morals; (2) less respect for women; (3) misuse by public authorities in ignoring moral exigencies; (4) dehumanization of the race by treating people as objects and unborn children as a disease to prevent.
    These predictions came true, with the explosions of pornography, promiscuity and divorce – not unlike pagan Rome when unwanted babies were simply tossed on the dung heap. In this case, the feminists got more than they bargained for: They got selfish men who benefited from contraceptives and abortion; they used women and then tossed them aside.

    Source: DINKY - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

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