Islam Rights of the husband over his wife

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  1. naben

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    Brother sister husband wife ....
    Peace, mercy and blessings of God and After ..
    , Each one of you have rights and duties of the other, and these rights are fixed in the Shar-Hakim; because Allaah says: {(228) And due to the wives is similar to what is expected of them, according to what is reasonable. But the men have a degree over them [in responsibility and authority]. And Allah is Exalted in Might and Wise. [Baqarah: 228].
    And he peace be upon him said: "you for your wives and your wives you really really" Narrated by Tirmidhi and classed
    We begin here the husband's rights over his wife and to his right and because the great men protectors and maintainers of women, but before the start of the husband remind you of this great virtue:
    He said peace be upon him: (Umm Salamah (May Allah be pleased with her) reported: Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, "Any woman dies while her husband is pleased with her, she will enter Jannah". [At-Tirmidhi] .

    My sister wife to your husband that you have many rights, including
    1 - The obligation of obedience: God made man mainstay on the women thing, guidance and care, as the governors of the parish, as summarized by God the man from the properties of physical and mental, including obligatory duties of the financial, the Almighty said: ((34) Men are in charge of women by [right of] what All h has given one over the other and what they spend [for maintenance] from their wealth. So righteous women are devoutly obedient, guarding in [the husband's] absence what All h would have them guard. But those [wives] from whom you fear arrogance - [first] advise them; [then if they persist], forsake them in bed; and [finally], strike them. But if they obey you [once more], seek no means against them. Indeed, All h is ever Exalted and Grand. women / 34

    Thus, the not to appear on the men and mixing with them and shaking hands with them, the Almighty said: And when you ask [his wives] for something, ask them from behind a partition. That is purer for your hearts and their hearts. [Parties: 53].
    The Prophet said: ((Beware of entering upon women)), it was said: O Messenger of Allah! What about the law? (Which is close brother of husband and his nephew, uncle and cousin, and others) said: ((law is death)).
    Measure it and all that against the laws of your Lord, then you need including Tgtra of obedience to your husband even Ttieih in sin, for he is known in obedience, not obedience to a creature in disobedience to the Creator.

    2 - It is the right husband to his wife to protect the display, and maintains her honor, and care of his money and his son and other affairs of his house, saying to God: So righteous women are devoutly obedient, guarding in [the husband's] absence what All h would have them guard [women: 34].
    And the Prophet: ((Ibn `Umar (May Allah be pleased with them) reported: The Prophet (PBUH) said," All of you are guardians and are responsible for your subjects. The ruler is a guardian of his subjects, the man is a guardian of his family, the woman is a guardian and is responsible for her husbands house and his offspring; and so all of you are guardians and are responsible for your subjects. "[Al-Bukhari and Muslim ].)).

    3 - It is the right of the husband over his wife to adorn herself to him and look beautiful, and smiling in his face, always do not frown, do not seem in the form of hate, he said: ((the best women Tsark if I saw, and obey you, if ordered, and kept Gapetk in itself and the owner)).
    the right to see his wife's beautiful, and beware of those who make decorations, he may not see it, this unveiling of Muharram.

    4 - It is the right of the husband over his wife to bind her not out of it - even to the mosque - without his permission, for the verse: (33) And abide in your houses and do not display yourselves as [was] the display of the former times of ignorance. And establish prayer and give zakah and obey Allah and His Messenger. Allah intends only to remove from you the impurity [of sin], O people of the [Prophet's] household, and to purify you with [extensive] purification [Women: 34].
    5 - It is the right of the husband that his wife does not authorize one in his house without his permission, for saying: ((not authorized in your homes to those who hate)).

    6 - It is the right of the husband over his wife to save his money and not spend it without his permission, for saying: ((do not spend anything a woman of the house without the permission of her husband Wife)), it was: not food? Said: ((, the better our money)).

    7 - but the right of the husband that his wife does not spend her money if she has only her husband's permission to say: ((not for a woman to violate some of her money without the permission of her husband)).

    8 - The right of a husband over his wife not to fast voluntarily, a witness without his permission, for saying: ((Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, "It is not lawful for a woman to observe (voluntary) fasting without the permission of her husband when he is at home; and she should not allow anyone to enter his house without his permission. ". [Al-Bukhari and Muslim ].)).

    9 - It is the right of the husband over his wife not to wish it, including spent of her money in her house and Aaalha, the manna invalidate the reward, the Almighty said: (264) O you who have believed, do not invalidate your charities with reminders or injury [Cow: 264].

    10 - The right of a husband over his wife to agree to walk, and to convince the asset, and not the cost of maintenance can not endure, the Almighty said: (7) Let a man of wealth spend from his wealth, and he whose provision is restricted - let him spend from what Allah has given him. Allah does not charge a soul except [according to] what He has given it. Allah will bring about, after hardship, ease [Divorce: 7].

    11 - The right of a husband over his wife to do well on raising her children than in patience do not get angry over her children in front of him, and calls for them, nor Does not say ugly words, this may harm him and the Prophet said: ((Mu `adh bin Jabal (May Allah be pleased with him ) reported: The Prophet (PBUH) said, "Whenever a woman harms her husband in this world (that is without any due right), his wife among the (Houris in Jannah) says:` You must not harm him. May Allah destroy you! He is only a passing guest with you and is about to leave you to come to us ". [At-Tirmidhi ].)).

    12 - It is the right pair to improve the treatment of his wife and his parents and relatives,

    13 - The right of a husband to his wife that does not prevent him herself when her request, saying to Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, "When a man calls his wife to his bed, and she does not respond and he (the husband) spends the night angry with her, the angels curse her until morning ". [Al-Bukhari and Muslim].
    In another narration: The Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, "When a woman spends the night away from the bed of her husband, the angels curse her until morning".
    [Al-Bukhari and Muslim].

    In another narration: Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, "By Him in Whose Hand is my life, when a man calls his wife to his bed, and she does not respond, the One Who is above the heaven becomes displeased with her until he (her husband) becomes pleased with her ".
    [Al-Bukhari and Muslim].

    14 - The right of a husband over his wife to conceal his secret secret of his house, nor anything of that outbreak, and most dangerous secrets that women tolerate relaying secrets of bed and be between the couple, has been forbidden by the Prophet about it. It was narrated that the names of girl than may Allah be pleased she was with the Prophet and the men and women were sitting, he said: ((Perhaps the man say what he does with his family, and perhaps the woman to tell what I did with her husband, Farm folk - the party system - I said, any Allaah, O Messenger of God, they had to they do and they are doing, and he said: ((do not, this just like the devil like the devil was in the way people look and Vgsheha)).
    15 - The right of a husband over his wife to be careful and keep it on life with him, do not you ask him a divorce for no reason.
    He said: ((Any woman who asks her husband for divorce without a reason forbidden by the fragrance of Paradise)) ..

    -16 And the rights to express advice and guidance:
    I saw your husband falling short in obedience to God you advice and guidance as much as you can
     
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  2. harry haller

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    Nabenji

    Considering Sikhism is an equal religion, I am not sure what you hope to achieve by posting this.., all it does is confirm that the role of a woman in Islam can never be equal to a man. It is similar to the role of a man in Christianity, where he is assumed head of the household, and care of all people in the household as he sees fit.

    It would be too easy to write a long witty sarcastic dissection of your post, akin to shooting fish in a barrel, so instead, perhaps you could explain a few facets, from a purely curious point of view.

    If a man strikes a woman, and she strikes back, what would happen to the woman?
    Regarding the line 'purer for your hearts and their hearts' is the mixing of the sexes discouraged to minimise sexual thoughts, rather than for an individual to come to an understanding about his/her own sexuality and rationalise it?
    Does the need to maintain a smiling pretty face depend on personal circumstances at all, or is it de rigour at all time regardless?
    Are Muslim wives not allowed to invite guests without consulting the husband?
    Do Muslim wives have to be intimate regardless?
    Are Muslim women allowed to keep secrets from the husband?

    Again, not quite sure why you have posted this, if I were a woman, I am not sure which in this would sway me to become a muslim, but in the interests of learning something, I look forward to your reply
     
  3. Luckysingh

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    I'm not too sure what the reasoning is for this except that most of us find it distasteful.
    It all seems like a power trip. In sikhism we don't look for any such power trips but instead regard humility or nimrata as high value.
    Non of us need any lessons of how we should be treating females differently.
    I'm still not sure what the objective of this post is.
     
  4. ballym

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    Just to thank God that you are born in sikh household which gives freedom and yet binds you to the God, unlike western world where freedom may have gone too far.
    Sikhs have embraced good things from western world too.
    Thank you once again. enjoy music and japo satnaam japposatnamwaheguru:
     
  5. BaljinderS

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    Wow.. I am learning more everyday.

    I love Sikhi, I love Sikhi, I love Sikhi.... Sri WaheGuru, WaheGuru, WaheGuru...

    Akaal,Akaal,Akaal... The beauty, the wisdom, the inner peace, the ever present truth,selfless service to humanity, sacrifice for freedom....:redturban:
     
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  6. Ambarsaria

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    Sikh folks brothers and sisters, this is the Islam sub-section at spn. We need to encourage posting and ask for clarifications. We don't need to put down even when we feel disgusted. We should try to ensure that we request and bring out the correct information from Muslim/Islamic posters for understanding. Encourage such posters as they perhaps have fair share of their own who mis-represent Islam.

    There are perhaps couple of billion if not more people believing in Islam. Let us learn the reasons why! We could be as stronger and larger a community if we learn and grow.

    Regards. icecreammunda
     
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  7. naben

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    My dear brother
    This depends on the love and understanding between the spouses
    For this; guide us Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him to the correct methods and techniques that support the married life to both sides

    Such as smiling - good treatment - and that authorization; to show respect for the husband and not to anything lest

    The highest stability in Muslim families.
    For the sexual life of a young man can be and girls know everything about through natural instinct, read and see
    But
    That does not mean to leave room for them to do immoral and taboo in the fall
    unlike western world where freedom may have gone too far.

    Mixing between the sexes, and friendship without borders often and never lead to adultery
    There is no room for denying that
    [FONT=&quot]«[/FONT][FONT=&quot]Sahih Al-Bukhari Narrated by Abu Huraira[/FONT][FONT=&quot]

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    [FONT=&quot]The Prophet said, "Avoid the seven Great Destructive Sins." The people enquire, "O Allah`s Messenger (saws)! What are they? " He (saws) said: [/FONT][FONT=&quot]

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    [FONT=&quot]"To join others in worship along with Allah, [/FONT][FONT=&quot]
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    [FONT=&quot]to practice sorcery, [/FONT][FONT=&quot]
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    [FONT=&quot]to kill the life which Allah has for bidden except for a just cause, (according to Islamic law), [/FONT][FONT=&quot]
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    [FONT=&quot]to eat up riba (usury), [/FONT][FONT=&quot]
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    [FONT=&quot]to eat up an orphan`s wealth, [/FONT][FONT=&quot]
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    [FONT=&quot]to give back to the enemy and fleeing from the battlefield at the time of fighting, [/FONT][FONT=&quot]
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    [FONT=&quot]and to accuse chaste women, who never even think of anything touching chastity and are good believers[/FONT][FONT=&quot]»[/FONT][FONT=&quot].[/FONT][FONT=&quot][/FONT]

    God says in the Holy Qur'an
    (30) Tell the believing men to reduce [some] of their vision and guard their private parts. That is purer for them. Indeed, Allah is Acquainted with what they do
    (31) And tell the believing women to reduce [some] of their vision and guard their private parts and not expose their adornment except that which [necessarily] appears thereof and to wrap [a portion of] their headcovers over their chests and not expose their adornment except to their husbands, their fathers, their husbands' fathers, their sons, their husbands' sons, their brothers, their brothers' sons, their sisters' sons, their women, that which their right hands possess, or those male attendants having no physical desire, or children who are not yet aware of the private aspects of women. And let them not stamp their feet to make known what they conceal of their adornment. And turn to Allah in repentance, all of you, O believers, that you might succeed
     
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  8. naben

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    thank you
     
  9. harry haller

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    I look forward to your reply
     
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    Harry ji,
    Heaven is always spoken of in terms of sensual pleasures because the unenlightened cannot understand of any other pleasure. You know... the pleasure of not having pleasure. How does an unenlightened make sense of that?

    You can look at them in terms of rules that you don't want to follow but must OR you can look at them in terms of guidelines for a good, healthy life.

    Naben ji,
    Thanks for sharing. We live in a world today where we are in dire need of new and perhaps more accurate perspectives - perspectives on the divine and on the human. I think old religions like Islam can provide us with those perspectives, provided we study them with that purpose. We can then use all this wisdom to devise a way for us to live given our current condition.
     
  11. naben

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    My dear brother


    Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, "It is not lawful for a woman to observe (voluntary) fasting without the permission of her husband when he is at home; and she should not allow anyone to enter his house without his permission.".[Al-Bukhari and Muslim].


    Commentary:
    It lays down a principle for a wife that performing Nawafil (voluntary acts of worship) at the cost of the husband rights is not permissible.​


    Mu`adh bin Jabal (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: The Prophet (PBUH) said, "Whenever a woman harms her husband in this world (that is without any due right), his wife among the (Houris in Jannah) says: `You must not harm him. May Allah destroy you! He is only a passing guest with you and is about to leave you to come to us".[At-Tirmidhi].


    Commentary:
    The Islamic Shari`ah commands men to treat their wives with kindness. In the same spirit it commands wives to be obedient to their husbands. She can hurt the feelings of her husband by using indecent language, immodest conduct, immoral actions and making unfair demands which are beyond his means. It is very common among women to tease and trouble their husbands by these three practices, except for pious women.


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  12. naben

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    Naben ji,
    Thanks for sharing. We live in a world today where we are in dire need of new and perhaps more accurate perspectives - perspectives on the divine and on the human. I think old religions like Islam can provide us with those perspectives, provided we study them with that purpose. We can then use all this wisdom to devise a way for us to live given our current condition.[/QUOTE]



    Thank you
    Enlightened mind
     
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