If I want to lose weight, is that more important than the reality of my health? If I strive to control my temper, but still give in to outbursts and violence, is that more important than the reality of being a hurtful person? If I try to complete a project, is that more important than the reality of my lack of achievement? I am not asking whether the proverbial road to hell is paved with good intentions, nor sidestepping into whether the ends justify the means. But rather, we often hear that life is a journey from one crowd, while another says life is what happens to you while you're busy making other plans. Should we focus on what we are and where we are, or what we can be? Vote then elaborate in abundance.