Ok so here I am, 30 something white girl, divorced, mother of 2, woman of good character, hard working and independent ..... Involved with a Sikh man. I have always been fascinated by religion in general and with Sikhism in particular. It has, at its purist, seemed to me to be a spiritual ideal. All the equality, love, humanitarianism, enlightenment! But, like all the other religions I'm afraid it harbours so much hypocrisy. Becoming emotionally involved with a Sikh and seeing the inner workings of the community has, I'm sad to say, dulled the shine for me on what seemed such a beautiful way of life. The question that rises in my mind is this: if marriage is, in Sikhism, so sacred, something that is about uniting as one spirit in two bodes, bring you closer to God ..... Why is it that so many are trapped in miserable, loveless marriages where they are constantly engaging in "an adulterous relationship" with someone else who they truly love? Why can't they marry the one who truly completes them and would be the one with who they could commune toward greater enlightenment and a deeper bond with God? It just seems so sad, so unfair to all.