I'm a teenage girl and living in the society we live in it's very difficult to not indulge in lust. When I think about my future I seem to be bound by two routes- an arrange marriage with someone I won't want to marry or a love marriage... but having a love marriage, the process of doing so would mean dating. Within dating, it's pretty difficult to find someone to date you where it wont lead to sex one day. Now don't mistake me for saying I plan to sleep around because right now I do not want to indulge in kaam, but I also don't want to just end up with a person my parents find who probably has commited kaam already. Ideally I want to meet someone, date them and for several years and really get to know them and then one day marry them... but this doesn't seem possible. Ofcourse I know if they really love you they will wait but getting to that process of love isnt instant and it'll become difficult to avoid any sexual interaction before that. I want to be a good sikh, and do to do I really need an understanding of whether this is truely lust or not... please help!