Yes they are confused and the reason for this has nothing to do with what is usually proposed, such as panjabi culture conflicting with sikhism, or our community not being true enough to the Gurus ideals, or something like that. The answer quite simply is that young Sikhs are informed with inaccurate information about the Sikh religion. They are told that Sikhi believes in equality, that Sikh ideals and modern day liberal ideals are one and the same. That the sikh gurus were social revolutionaries and sought to create a wholly different society than what is normal - and that they wished to do this in the spirit of equality and so on. These are false claims, unsubstanciated by any historical facts. They do not have any basis in sikh philosophy either, and depend on a fanciful reintepretations of history and scripture. This information comes to us in the forms of the many websites which populate the web, the many pamphets and books falsely advertising claims for Sikhism, regardless of their validity. They paint portraits of Sikhi as some fantastic religion that cures all social ills, and transcends all problems - it is in this context that social revolutionarism is advanced as the main principle of sikhism. It is not. Sikhs around the world are largely conservative. That is true enough for almost all sikh communities; all sangats; all gurdwara. We are not revolutionaries and do not see that as our aim. Yet the sikh youth is subjected to propaganda that tells him otherwise. Then the young sikh begins to think that the reason such a great disparity exists between what he has learn about sikhism, and what he sees in his community, is that the sikhs no longer follow the sikh ideals. To find proof of this he must blow up issues such as casteism and gender-inequality. In fact the sikh gurus never proposed any new positive claims for social change. They only made negative claims: Ending female infantacide, the practice of Sati, treating women unjustly - opposing these things, the sikh Gurus were not proposing equality - instead they were saying we are against cruelty. All sikh websites need to be shut down. All sikh writers need to be banned. They only confuse matters and do our young damage. Sikh history and philosophy ought to be discussed directly in relation to truth, and not passionate fashionable ideology.