A couple who are very close to me have been married for 12 years and due to her medical problems are unable to conceive naturally. They have had IVF in the UK 4 times and failed and they have now travelled to India and used a surrogate to carry their child. They were successful and she is currently pregnant however the foetus should be 8-9 weeks and it is the size of a 7 week old and there is no heartbeat. They have to now wait a week until another ultersound scan is done to find out if she has started to miscarry or if a miracle has occurred and a heartbeat is found. I do tell them to pray to god, and to put all of their trust in him, but after all they have been through they do struggle. Also I am finding it difficult to believe the hand that god has dealt them. It is also impossible to write about sikh society and how they are made to feel by our society due to the fact that they have been together so long and have not had a child. Advice please.