Friendship

Humble_Gursevak · #1 (**permalink**) 27-May-2005, 03:22 AM

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji Ki Feteh

Being A Good Friend
Nurturing Healthy Friendships
Of all relationships, friendship can be the most versatile and fulfilling because it is a gift bestowed willingly. Each person who receives your friendship should receive a part of you in the form of caring, concern, happiness, and support. In return, you enjoy the companionship of your friends because they offer comfort, cheer, and a shoulder to cry on. Like any relationship, however, friendship does not simply exist, but must be nurtured and encouraged to grow through actions, words, and reciprocal feelings. The first and most important aspect of being a good friend is treating others with the same respect and kindness with which you wish to be treated. Doing so can be a guide in forging friendships with others.
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Being a good friend is easiest and most rewarding when you choose your friendships wisely. Friendships should be built upon a foundation of mutual trust, acceptance, and support. Show them you care, not just using words, but also using actions: Be courteous and kind, honest, and willing to compromise, and shy away from being overly critical. When your friend encounters trouble, support their decision wholeheartedly, but always be willing to tell them when they're about to step onto a dangerous path. In doing so, you will help your friend flourish in their own way, while still being a there for them. Really listen to and share in your friend's triumphs as well as their upsets with patience, kindness, and a sense of humor.
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In any strong friendship, conflict will inevitably arise, but be willing to compromise and respect your friend's opinions. If they apologize, accept their apology with grace and forgive them promptly. Try to never hold a grudge, because holding on to negative emotions can put a strain on a friendship. Let your friend be who they are, not who you'd prefer them to be. Friends don't always agree, but it's helpful to keep in mind that it's their enjoyment of each other's company that makes dealing with disagreements worthwhile.

There may be times when you feel ill-equipped to be a good friend, but knowing and admitting this is just another part of a strong friendship. Your friend will understand that you, too, have issues of importance in your life. Developing and maintaining rewarding and lasting friendships is a challenge, but one that yields beautiful results.

Arvind · #2 (**permalink**) 27-May-2005, 21:07 PM

Dear KhoJi,

Here is a rainbow for you (Look at my avtar)

Thanks for sharing the poem

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Regards.

Arvind · #3 (**permalink**) 28-May-2005, 04:21 AM

Oh no, You mentioned all things such as respect, trust, courtesy, sympathy etc... but where is the fun part, or something like walking together riverside, and cracking jokes etc.

Thanks for the respect by saying 'veer ji'
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Regards.

Humble_Gursevak · #4 (**permalink**) 09-Nov-2005, 05:12 AM

The colorsof friendship!

Pink is for giving so generously

and for always being there for me.

Yellow is for memories of laughter

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and tears that shine undimmed throughout the years.

Purple is for sharing the deepest

parts of the cherished dreams within
our hearts.

Green is for helping me to grow
in more ways than you know.
Blue is for loyalty, tried and true,
knowing that I can count on you.

I thank God for the gifts our friendship holds,

Most of all for your heart of gold!
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